Kalbear Posted September 23, 2014 Share Posted September 23, 2014 But do you let them bang you in the church, Er Rn? That's the real litmus test. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lord Flashheart Posted September 23, 2014 Share Posted September 23, 2014 I disagree-Religious women are the most fun if you manage to sway them from their beliefs :D.I'm not sure what you disagree with in my post since it was a general statement about the women I date. Most the time they aren't religious by chance.I really don't care if someone is religious or not just that they don't try to push their bullshit on me. That includes atheists and religious types. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
White Walker Texas Ranger Posted September 23, 2014 Share Posted September 23, 2014 I can say that I will not be able to date someone who's religious enough to want to go to Church every Sunday. I just won't be able to relate to that person on a level needed for a sustained romantic connection. Casual friends, or friends with beneficts? Yes, no problem. Even short-term dating. But long-term? No. That will be a huge section of his/her life that not only will remain inaccessible to me, which is bad enough but can be worked out, but also something that I actively work against.I also know that the moment someone asks me to go to Church with them, will be the moment that my romantic feeling for them dies.But that's just me. YMMV, and I'm sure there are atheists out there dating Christians and having a fulfilling romantic life. Intentional typo? ETA: NVM, got benedictions and benefiction mixed up in my head. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
deleted01 Posted September 23, 2014 Share Posted September 23, 2014 Aw, thank you for all the kind comments! (Sorry for thread-jacking!) :grouphug: Congratulations Drac and soon to be Mr.Drac. :cheers: I like this one. Red Mohawk Guy is too long to type :P Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Er Rn Posted September 23, 2014 Share Posted September 23, 2014 But do you let them bang you in the church, Er Rn? That's the real litmus test. Does the parking lot count? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sperry Posted September 23, 2014 Share Posted September 23, 2014 Date had to cancel this weekend ( a wedding shower in her home town), but seemed genuinely disappointed she couldn't go. She texted me and snap chatted (I hate this app, btw) throughout the weekend. She mentioned a new outdoor food truck thing in our down town, and invited me and my friends to go with her and some of her friends. I'm bummed though, as I doubt I'll be able to talk my friends into going. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Maithanet Posted September 23, 2014 Share Posted September 23, 2014 She mentioned a new outdoor food truck thing in our down town, and invited me and my friends to go with her and some of her friends. I'm bummed though, as I doubt I'll be able to talk my friends into going. You don't have even one friend willing to go and be your wingman at something that's probably going to be fun anyway? Man, you need to get better friends. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guy Kilmore Posted September 23, 2014 Share Posted September 23, 2014 Date had to cancel this weekend ( a wedding shower in her home town), but seemed genuinely disappointed she couldn't go. She texted me and snap chatted (I hate this app, btw) throughout the weekend. She mentioned a new outdoor food truck thing in our down town, and invited me and my friends to go with her and some of her friends. I'm bummed though, as I doubt I'll be able to talk my friends into going. I'm married and I would go with you to that. I agree with Maith, you need better friends. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kalbear Posted September 23, 2014 Share Posted September 23, 2014 Does the parking lot count? Totally counts. It counts even more if it was either right before or right after services. Swoon. We have a relationship Oh...chats. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sperry Posted September 23, 2014 Share Posted September 23, 2014 You don't have even one friend willing to go and be your wingman at something that's probably going to be fun anyway? Man, you need to get better friends. One friend as a wingman as a favor, yes, no problem. Calilng on favors from mulitple people to get a group together, is a little more of a proposition. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Maithanet Posted September 23, 2014 Share Posted September 23, 2014 One friend as a wingman as a favor, yes, no problem. Calilng on favors from mulitple people to get a group together, is a little more of a proposition. Why would she object to you saying "me and my buddy are totally interested?" Her friends can talk to each other too, you know. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sperry Posted September 23, 2014 Share Posted September 23, 2014 Why would she object to you saying "me and my buddy are totally interested?" Her friends can talk to each other too, you know. I'm not saying she would. I will show up with a buddy, but it's still a little awkward if it's a big group of them. HOpefully it's just her and her roommate, she told me she'd get me the details later. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guy Kilmore Posted September 23, 2014 Share Posted September 23, 2014 I'm not saying she would. I will show up with a buddy, but it's still a little awkward if it's a big group of them. HOpefully it's just her and her roommate, she told me she'd get me the details later. Nah, no awkwardness, it actually sounds like the best way to roll into this situation is just with another friend. I mean, most people know that other people don't have a posse that they can just rustle up, especially if the other group is an unknown group of people. Better for you and a buddy to go and get sized up by her friends. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Theda Baratheon Posted September 23, 2014 Share Posted September 23, 2014 Yeah; having a friend come along sounds fine, you don't need to summon an entourage. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hans Gruber Posted September 23, 2014 Share Posted September 23, 2014 I'm not sure what you disagree with in my post since it was a general statement about the women I date. Most the time they aren't religious by chance.I really don't care if someone is religious or not just that they don't try to push their bullshit on me. That includes atheists and religious types. If you can try and go for a religious one.Watching the conflict and turmoil can be hilarious if they break one of their chosen religions rules-I've only experienced it with a Christian though I admit. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Larry of the Lawn Posted September 23, 2014 Share Posted September 23, 2014 Disagree. You need to show the trappings of POWER. If no friends are available, at least rent a tiger or a shark or some other apex predator to look intimidating on the end of a leash while you peruse the foodtrucks. At least get an angry woodchuck or something if your local animal rental place is tapped ( let's face it they probably are if there's a food truck festy going down).But really, nothing awkward about showing up with one friend. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TerraPrime Posted September 24, 2014 Share Posted September 24, 2014 If you can try and go for a religious one.Watching the conflict and turmoil can be hilarious if they break one of their chosen religions rules-I've only experienced it with a Christian though I admit.I am no fan of Christians, as everyone here knows. But. I find that train of thought quite reprehensible. Dating someone with the motivation to fuck with one of their core tenets in life is despicable and pathological. If that person comes to a crisis in faith, then that's their life to sort out and grow from it. Trying to induce that in them and to enjoy their turmoil in a way that is not empathetic to their struggle comes across as a very offensive outlook about life and about the approach to romance. Even if someone is not intending to date that person long term, it seems like a bad faith effort to cheer at their life crisis. Just very poor form all around. I am an anti-Christian and misotheist of the Judeo-Chrsitian-Muslim God and I do not approve of that type of approach to dating someone of faith. Ymmv. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lord Flashheart Posted September 24, 2014 Share Posted September 24, 2014 Terra,To be clear. Same. I may not find anything good about religion personally, but atheists have become equally annoying to me lately for one of the same reasons I hate religion. Oh you don't accept jesus? I'll pray for you.Oh you are religious? That's fairy tales for adults.Mind your own business people. To each their own. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Theda Baratheon Posted September 24, 2014 Share Posted September 24, 2014 Yeah, Hans - that's not 'edgy' or whatever; that's just really, really mean. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hans Gruber Posted September 24, 2014 Share Posted September 24, 2014 I am no fan of Christians, as everyone here knows.But.I find that train of thought quite reprehensible. Dating someone with the motivation to fuck with one of their core tenets in life is despicable and pathological. If that person comes to a crisis in faith, then that's their life to sort out and grow from it. Trying to induce that in them and to enjoy their turmoil in a way that is not empathetic to their struggle comes across as a very offensive outlook about life and about the approach to romance. Even if someone is not intending to date that person long term, it seems like a bad faith effort to cheer at their life crisis.Just very poor form all around. I am an anti-Christian and misotheist of the Judeo-Chrsitian-Muslim God and I do not approve of that type of approach to dating someone of faith.Ymmv. Your outlook is a fair and well balanced one-in my head I know this.However it's one of the rare occasions where I've been honest and open with my thoughts and opinions and as usual I've been ostracised for doing so. I can't really change my perceptions or my enjoyment of their turmoil, at least I know to revert to not being honest about it next time. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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