Pendergraft Posted October 22, 2014 Share Posted October 22, 2014 So is this the norm now, the face-to-face interaction goes out the window when you break up with someone? I can understand with LDR relationship but I'd still prefer a phone call, rather than an email, text or post-it note. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Inigima Posted October 22, 2014 Share Posted October 22, 2014 If it's anything remotely serious I'd prefer face to face. Failing that, phone call minimum. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
karaddin Posted October 22, 2014 Share Posted October 22, 2014 I don't think most people have my level of hatred of being on the phone, so I'm not sure if I'd say it's the new normal :p Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Arch-MaesterPhilip Posted October 22, 2014 Share Posted October 22, 2014 god ignore my last comment it makes me seem likee a gross person oh well probasly tru You're first class. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Theda Baratheon Posted October 22, 2014 Share Posted October 22, 2014 You're first class. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise.thank you :) :) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Eyron Posted October 22, 2014 Share Posted October 22, 2014 someone ive had a major crush on for years and who is a good friend ND ONE of my favouritie people just told me im the coolest person theyve ever come acrosss ND atheyre engaged so why pick NOW to tell me that o god i had to go to my flat mates room lie on her bed and have a good cry damnit Butting my head in again in this thread, just to say that this is a moment that you should (later on) appreciate, because it's a moment of all honesty, and truthful appreciation of who you are. I've been in that situation once. It sucked so so much at the time, but take the good stuff, hold your head high, and leave it with a feeling of being awesome. As you should. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Grand Moff Mithrandir Posted October 22, 2014 Share Posted October 22, 2014 What is love?!I've been searching and a searching but the love of my life still eludes me. I'm starting to think that I'll never find a proper girl who I can settle down with. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Littlefingers In The Air Posted October 22, 2014 Author Share Posted October 22, 2014 Theda, you're fucking awesome. It is known. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Littlefingers In The Air Posted October 22, 2014 Author Share Posted October 22, 2014 So is this the norm now, the face-to-face interaction goes out the window when you break up with someone? I can understand with LDR relationship but I'd still prefer a phone call, rather than an email, text or post-it note. breakups sure as hell don't happen in person anymore. I'm one of the only people in my social grow who still talks on the phone, let alone prefers breakups that way. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
brook Posted October 22, 2014 Share Posted October 22, 2014 Theda, you're fucking awesome. It is known. It is known. PS I guess you could say I told my husband I was leaving him via text message. Considering our final face-to-face discussion ended with him blocking me from leaving the house while he screamed in my face I stand by that decision. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TerraPrime Posted October 22, 2014 Share Posted October 22, 2014 Yeah and I think people are getting too hung up over this "break up over text" thing. In reality, when people make the initial connections via instagram or FB or snapchat or any number of digital media, it seems perfectly legit to break up using some of these media. At least for the relatively short-lived relationshinps, like a month or two of casual dating. When both sides have invested more into the relationship then yeah, texting does seem a bit inadequate. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lessthanluke Posted October 22, 2014 Share Posted October 22, 2014 I've been dumped via text also. People are dicks. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Grand Moff Mithrandir Posted October 22, 2014 Share Posted October 22, 2014 Have never been dumped over text but a friend of mine has. This was back in high school. The girl simply texted him "I can't do this". Real cheap move. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stego Posted October 22, 2014 Share Posted October 22, 2014 Being mad at the method in which someone breaks up with you is just misdirected hurt and anger at being broken up with. The ego no like. I also hate telephones and refuse to use it unless there is no other option. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Larry of the Lawn Posted October 22, 2014 Share Posted October 22, 2014 I can see plenty of situations where a phone or text would be fine to break up even a once serious relationship, especially if one partner has been unfaithful, absent, abusive, or if physical distance is involved.Beyond that, in most typical situations, especially if you keep clothes and a toothbrush at my house, in person seems like the appropriate way to do it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nymeria10k Posted October 22, 2014 Share Posted October 22, 2014 Personally I think text/social media would be appropriate if either it was LDR or if the relationship wasn't serious or it was casual or whatever, as long as there is a proper reason. I mean if I was married 10 years and my husband texted me saying 'I wanna divorce you' I'd want to shove my hand down his throat and pull his guts out for not being man enough to talk to me face to face. Serious relationships merit that, at least, from my point of view. And it would seem cowardly. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kelli Fury Posted October 22, 2014 Share Posted October 22, 2014 Being dumped is always going to suck, I don't see how the medium it comes by would make it better. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sperry Posted October 22, 2014 Share Posted October 22, 2014 Being dumped will always suck, but there's still ways that are worse than others. I think if you're dumping a person solely because you're not that into them, and not because of something obvious to both parties (like cheating), you should do it in person or over the phone and actually explain yourself. I think if the relationship is serious at all, the person getting dumped is entitled to that minimal amount of respect. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Arch-MaesterPhilip Posted October 22, 2014 Share Posted October 22, 2014 Being dumped will always suck, but there's still ways that are worse than others. I think if you're dumping a person solely because you're not that into them, and not because of something obvious to both parties (like cheating), you should do it in person or over the phone and actually explain yourself. I think if the relationship is serious at all, the person getting dumped is entitled to that minimal amount of respect.Exactly my thoughts. I'm God's own original coward and I always end things in person. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
White Walker Texas Ranger Posted October 22, 2014 Share Posted October 22, 2014 Being dumped is always going to suck, I don't see how the medium it comes by would make it better.Presumably, you'd like it to suck for the dumper as well. Making them do it in person or over the phone is a good way to ensure it sucks for them. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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