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Lily Valley Posted July 4, 2015 Share Posted July 4, 2015 Kara, date's neighbor. It was GIANT NEIGHBOR PROBLEM STUFF. So oddly I felt ok ducking out over that rather than over-STUPID neighbor - thinger-that-was-totally -my-problem.. Wound up with a huge black eye and a divot on my forehead. So.........the odds say I probably should have stayed for that one, even if I had to sit in the kitchen for 3 hours. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Arkhangel Posted July 4, 2015 Share Posted July 4, 2015 Wait, what? Your date's neighbour hit you? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lily Valley Posted July 4, 2015 Share Posted July 4, 2015 Haha, NO. Date's neighbor was really eating all the oxygen on the whole block. I busted my face up all by myself like a big girl after I left. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Littlefingers In The Air Posted July 4, 2015 Author Share Posted July 4, 2015 Apparently there's a dating site for wrestling fans. It sucks, but it's nice to be thought of I guess. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Arch-MaesterPhilip Posted July 4, 2015 Share Posted July 4, 2015 I'm pretty sure there are dating sites for just about all kinds of people. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ordos Posted July 5, 2015 Share Posted July 5, 2015 If I were to make a really long post here, would anyone entertain me in reading it all? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Disturber of Peace Posted July 5, 2015 Share Posted July 5, 2015 If I were to make a really long post here, would anyone entertain me in reading it all?Me? Maybe.But plenty of people here sure would. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Littlefingers In The Air Posted July 5, 2015 Author Share Posted July 5, 2015 Yeah, probably. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Elder Sister Posted July 5, 2015 Share Posted July 5, 2015 Probably not, but it depends on how bored I am. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Red Tiger Posted July 5, 2015 Share Posted July 5, 2015 If I were to make a really long post here, would anyone entertain me in reading it all? Sure Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Elder Sister Posted July 5, 2015 Share Posted July 5, 2015 Well, I just had my first date after 23 years of marriage. It went really well! It was so nice to have a guy be into me. I wasn't that into him, but he was very nice, and it was good practice. But I could tell he wanted to kiss me at the end and I wasn't feeling it at all. So that didn't happen. Now he's already texted me and I can tell he's going to ask me out again. How do you guys turn someone down without hurting their feelings? Is that even possible? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Melphis Amekia Posted July 5, 2015 Share Posted July 5, 2015 Well, I just had my first date after 23 years of marriage. It went really well! It was so nice to have a guy be into me. I wasn't that into him, but he was very nice, and it was good practice. But I could tell he wanted to kiss me at the end and I wasn't feeling it at all. So that didn't happen. Now he's already texted me and I can tell he's going to ask me out again. How do you guys turn someone down without hurting their feelings? Is that even possible? No, which I can tell from my admittedly limited but still a bit painful experience. Thing is, what do you want with the relationship? Do you wish him to be your friend, internet contact, or just an experiment(a bit of a bad word choice, but still) and that nothing happened emotionally on your end? Whatever it is, you have to tell him honestly. What happened with me was, she honestly, if in a roundabout way(which was really funny to me even then || the reason she had done so was because she was afraid I'd flip out and be like oh I'm friendzoned and all that crap) told me she wanted to be friends with me. It did hurt a bit, since I was rejected from potentially being her boyfriend, but I never regretted replying "OK, let's be friends". She's my best friend now(and a fangirl for my writing, which, however flattering, means little to no constructive criticism). Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Elder Sister Posted July 5, 2015 Share Posted July 5, 2015 ES - super easy. You say that you appreciate it, and had fun with him, but you aren't feeling any chemistry.Done.My date was good - glad to go to a new coffee shop...but she was waaaaay too glowy-flowy. I haven't talked about my feelings so much since therapy! She was sweet, but not sure I'm feeling a second date. This is perfect; thank you. :) I should have known you would know exactly how to handle. No, which I can tell from my admittedly limited but still a bit painful experience. Thing is, what do you want with the relationship? Do you wish him to be your friend, internet contact, or just an experiment(a bit of a bad word choice, but still) and that nothing happened emotionally on your end? Whatever it is, you have to tell him honestly. What happened with me was, she honestly, if in a roundabout way(which was really funny to me even then || the reason she had done so was because she was afraid I'd flip out and be like oh I'm friendzoned and all that crap) told me she wanted to be friends with me. It did hurt a bit, since I was rejected from potentially being her boyfriend, but I never regretted replying "OK, let's be friends". She's my best friend now(and a fangirl for my writing, which, however flattering, means little to no constructive criticism). Honestly, I have plenty of friends. I would like someone to hang out with, do things with, etc., but I'm looking for some attraction that was just not there today. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Red Tiger Posted July 5, 2015 Share Posted July 5, 2015 ES - super easy. You say that you appreciate it, and had fun with him, but you aren't feeling any chemistry.Done.My date was good - glad to go to a new coffee shop...but she was waaaaay too glowy-flowy. I haven't talked about my feelings so much since therapy! She was sweet, but not sure I'm feeling a second date.What kind of things did you talk about? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Elder Sister Posted July 5, 2015 Share Posted July 5, 2015 I hate talking about my feelings except where they relate to my dog, chocolate, and coffee. Then I can wax poetic forever. I am really glad I didn't chat with this guy online very much; we had plenty to talk about on our date. Chats, I'm curious as to what y'all talked about as well. How did feelings even come up? I should probably be more touchy-feely. The date did seem a bit flummoxed when I told him about the Buck Owens album I just bought. He's got his doctorate in music and doesn't appreciate old-school country. :D Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Melphis Amekia Posted July 5, 2015 Share Posted July 5, 2015 This is perfect; thank you. :) I should have known you would know exactly how to handle.Honestly, I have plenty of friends. I would like someone to hang out with, do things with, etc., but I'm looking for some attraction that was just not there today. So, tell him that. I mean, I said it in my post to tell him what you honestly feel(I just wanted to add that rejection hurts just about always, at least a tiny bit, however much anyone wants it not to hurt), and so did Chats. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Elder Sister Posted July 5, 2015 Share Posted July 5, 2015 So, tell him that. I mean, I said it in my post to tell him what you honestly feel(I just wanted to add that rejection hurts just about always, at least a tiny bit, however much anyone wants it not to hurt), and so did Chats. I will. I don't want to hurt anyone if at all possible. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lily Valley Posted July 5, 2015 Share Posted July 5, 2015 Haha ES. I despise long talks about feelings as well. Let's talk about BOOKS instead. Glad the date was ok. Keep getting out there. Online dating provided me with maybe one chemistry match out of 25 or so dates, but actually the practice helped me work up the courage to try to meet people and a willingness to talk to strangers and just open up a bit. I have another date with the gal from Friday. She texted again all day yesterday. Either she's fishing for my interest level or her sense of humor doesn't translate very well. If y'all recall, I quit dating the last girl I was hanging out with because of too many attention demands. I'm hoping to have a SHORT talk about expectations with ZERO feelings being mentioned. I haven't really dated anyone very seriously in six years. Even Gary and I kept things to about 1 weekend a month. Hardly a whirlwind romance, but it did let me know I was ready for something a little more serious. Also, my face looks worse today. BTW, I fell on it having to climb out of a friend's yard. She accidentally locked me in. Yes I was drunk. No I wasn't THAT drunk, but my foot got caught up and I hit the pavement pretty hard, with my forehead. (Thanks a LOT torque). Apparently I left some ..er... bruises on this young lady's arms. Hope we don't get called in for a domestic. I'll let you know how it goes. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lily Valley Posted July 5, 2015 Share Posted July 5, 2015 dp. Sorry nerds! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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