...I do recognize a situation that has elevated beyond simple every day standard dysfunction. There are going to be long term consequences for not addressing this stuff, and you as the grandfather need to involve the rest of the family for an intervention. If you can't lead the charge, find someone who can.
I wonder how involved a grandfather (or other relatives) can actually get. I remember that Stego had some nephews and nieces (?) a few years back that were in some really dire straits, and he really couldn't "do" anything about it.
If Stego can't cause a relative to do the right thing vis a vis their kids, what chance does a less physically imposing (I imagine, because Stego is pretty damn imposing) person have?
Not that I'm thinking that Cantabile should throw his hands up in the air, just that we're all talking like he can actually DO something. And I think the most responsible thing he can "do" is make suggestions to his son - my suggestion, as stated, would be to get the kid into therapy...it would hopefully help the kid realize he's normal (or solve any problems he has)...but, if Cantabile says, that's not realistic, given Cruella...well, ah, good luck
And my vote is for never calling Child Protective Services unless a life is in danger. IMO, sometimes that causes more problems than it solves.
Edited by Chataya de Venoge, 05 December 2010 - 04:21 PM.