Lady Whitestripe, on 03 November 2011 - 11:45 AM, said:
Raidne: Did you bother to read my follow up post before attacking me? It's #35. I'll quote it in case you missed it
Sigh. I'm not attacking you. Well, maybe I am, but as stated, it's not personal, you're just the exemplar. It's a total coincidence. Yours just happened to be the whatever number post I read saying basically the same hypocritical crap that other people were saying and/or have previously said on the multiple past iterations we've had of this thread.
And no, I didn't. But it's pretty predictable.
Lady Whitestripe, on 03 November 2011 - 07:04 AM, said:
Sorry, I just don't understand spending that much money on a ring...[but] I should have added that if you want a big ring and you can afford a big ring then, go for it.
With me, it's like, I just don't understand murder. I think it would make me feel bad about myself if I were a murderer. You know, sorry. I just don't get
it. But, on the other hand, if you're a sociopath and you're willing to do the jail time, well, go for it! No judgment!
As far as judging people, I actually don't give a flying fsck about anyone's engagement ring, shoes, car, house, zip code, clothes whatever. Does not matter to me one iota. I try not to judge people by appearances, really I do. I am much more likely to pass judgment on a person based on the grammar of their email than what brand of jeans they are wearing (if I could even tell what brand they had on in the first place).
As far as people judging me.... well, if people are going to judge me based on my jewelry, clothes, shoes, house, car, zip code, whatever, I really would prefer NOT to know them. I do realize that your outward appearance is a projection of who you are, and to that end I try to be neat and clean, well mannered and well spoken. Other than that, if someone doesn't want to be my friend because I happen to be wearing a sweater from Target along with my Boden skirt and Clarks shoes, then I really don't want to be their friend, either.
I don't know what to say about this. People do make judgments. The judgment might be an unconscious assessment of the absence
of a Bottega Veneta bag or something, and the resulting impression might be positive. I personally will admit that I judge people with big Coach or Loius Vuitton logo bags as being kinda tacky in most cases, if I think about it. Because it seems like they care more about what brand their bag is that how it functions as a bag. Here, as Cyr points out, there is no functionality whatsoever other than pure aesthetic. I will also fully admit that I would probably unconsciously have a more favorable impression of someone with a really unique and unpretentious engagement ring that was really reflective of their personality than I would of someone who had a perfect 2 carat solitaire diamond ring, which seems like a generically pretty ring for a generically pretty person. OTOH, that is precisely what one of my best friends has, and I don't think she's at all generic, so it's not controlling. But I'm pretty sure other acquaintances I have judged her harshly for it (I probably got that impression when the person said "your ring is a huge waste of money and if anyone gave me that I would take it back!").
My point is, there's this bar I like by my office. You would be judged to belong there. Some other people I know would not. It's not that great of a book, but William Gibson's Pattern Recognition
got me thinking about how hard it is to really avoid branding, and honestly, his character who supposedly succeeded at it wasn't very convincing to me - she just seemed to evince a minimalist aesthetic, not no
aesthetic, which I think is impossible. And so, judgment. Sorry. From what you've said, I suspect you of having bought something from the Delia's catalogue at some point. And perhaps Urban Outfitters. Sue me.
Howdyphillip, on 03 November 2011 - 11:32 AM, said:
...but I remember paying half of a comparable purchase at Zales. The one thing that I had to keep in mind about this was that there is no return policies this way.
Well, there is retail, and then there are mall jewelry stores for suckers.
Edited by Raidne, 03 November 2011 - 01:58 PM.