No, str8t does have a point - some of you just feel like ignoring it.
Somebody being offended doesn't mean you were in the wrong. Plenty of people claim offense over things that are utter and complete bullshit. Like drunks, and young children. It's sad.
Sure, there are times when you can actually be offensive, and not mean it, and likely should apologize, but assuming just because somebody claims offense, you were wrong?
And, Dante, sorry, but it's likely a good thing you don't worry what others think when you lose your shit in a post, again. Because it's pretty fucking sad, and, dude, it turns you into a joke. It has to be strictly an internet thing for you, because reacting like that, this often, to people would pretty much destroy any chance you have to be taken seriously.
It's like you can't, or won't, filter out comments that are just about you, with no bearing on whatever ethnic group you belong to, from actual racist comments.
Seriously, I really can't see you screaming fuck you over and over in public because somebody called you a dick, or disagreed with you.
What is ok with you and your Asian wife, or you and your black friend...may not be socially acceptable to a stranger of the same ethnic background. Your Asian wife or your black friend is not the be all, end all authority on the subject of what is or is not offensive to their particular race. Nor are their thoughts on what is or is not acceptable give you a free pass to make blanket statements that can be offensive to others of the same race.
That's true. But does that mean it works the other way - just because one person finds it insulting, everybody must act like they find it insulting too? I mean, should our baseline be the most sensitive person in a group? It's a real question, not rhetorical, folks.
No matter how many times I try, "I didn't mean it so it's ok" never seems to be an adequate defense. It is however lazy as all hell, so it's got that going for it.
Except that, actually, we all know it often does pass, because mature people generally can understand that shit happens. The other side of it, tho, is when somebody is determined to take offense, whether or not it even occurred. Or connects one statement or action to another one, in order to justify their offense.
Dante gives great examples here. Call him oversensitive, bam, you're a racist motherfucker, with a dead dog dick in your mouth. Except, he's not really reacting to being called oversensitive, he's reacting, I guess, to somebody telling him he isn't actually always right when he reacts to some things. I guess.
Or maybe he's reacting to the gall of being called wrong in a thread, technically, that relates to his own experiences.
But it's pretty hard to care what he says, when he posts what he does. And, sadly, no matter how little you care, dude, what people like str8t (and I) think about you actually should matter. Because, well, if you are right, it's us that need to change, but turning into a raging honey badger isn't going to win us over. It just gets any contribution you might have made ignored, or missed, in the venom.
I've already said I agree that personal experience, and relationships, don't mean that those standards are shared by everybody.
eta -I'm so not even concerned with "Oriental" in the context of this, just on things like "oversensitive", and apologies.
Edited by Nukelavee, 11 March 2012 - 05:03 PM.