The bloody cloak beneath the summer silks definitely seems to signify hope for a better day for them. I mean her decision to keep it in such a personal place with her clothing highlights that connection/bond between them.
Good point on what the objects represent to those who have them, Starbird. And we know who already has the man's heart.
During his journey across the Riverlands with Arya, he showed her how to give the gift of mercy, which he gave the dying soldier with a surprising tenderness. He gave him water, as much comfort as he could muster and finally, the gift of mercy. It's ironic that Arya had to learn something like this from someone she considers a cold blooded murderer. I also noticed that he paid no attention to things like burying the corpses they encountered, he even told her it was a good idea to loot them. Again, no pretences, it will do them no good, so why bother? But helping a fellow soldier, an unfortunate wretch like any of them could easily become as well; that, he didn't shun.
What gets my attention is how he insists on teaching the girl where the heart is and to have mercy on the fallen, at least by offering them some comfort and humanity when they found themselves at death's door.
When he thought she was about to kill him, he goaded her, asking her to remember where his heart was and to pierce it in a final act of mercy. A lot of insistence and references to the heart on Sandor's part. Maybe to show the readers he had one, and that it was made of flesh and not stone? After the manly tears in Sansa's bedroom, this references make me think of how important matters of the heart have become for Sandor. It's as if his had been thawed by Sansa's warmth and now it's raw and aching, full or remorse, regrets and other things he probably can't understand.
For other characters, power struggles, strategies, claims and politics are the main thing, but not for Sandor, every one of his motivations seem to be related to the private, the most intimate part of a person: his family issues, his trauma, his Cain versus Abel dynamics with his brother, his possible reticence when contemplating kinslaying, his loyalty, his feelings for Sansa, everything.
What makes him tick? What are his motivations and his role in ASOIF story? He's not driven by power, greed, ambition and maybe not even revenge ( he should have tried to kill Gregor before, he's already in his late twenties and no coward).
It seems that personal matters and not public ones are the relevant ones for Sandor. These apparently small things (small when compared to power and ruling Westeros) are very important for Sansa. She's the dragonfly (as some of your mentioned in Sansa's thread) to Dany's dragon and Cersei's lioness.
Sansa and Sandor have most of their encounters in the darkness and in private (nobody else knows of them) but dragonflies are light in the darkness and Sansa is the light in Sandor's darkness.
Why has Martin given so much relevance (see how much he's mentioned) to a character whose motivations are reduced to the private sphere of life?
Sandor wants Sansa to look at him and see him for what he is: Sandor the man and not the Hound, without prejudices and pretences. She's quite clueless and can't give him what he needs from her because ,at some kind of instinctive level ,she can connect with him but he's still too much man for her, older and too complicated. So much saying: look at me, sometimes in a forceful desperate way probably means that one day she'll see him and recognise him as the one for her: her man. She wanted a knight, a protector and her own song; she had all that in front of her and didn't realise. I hope she will one day.
Edited by MaryaStone, 23 February 2012 - 07:52 PM.