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When did Daenerys Targaryen become your least favourite character?


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#81 tze

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Posted 12 March 2012 - 09:44 PM

View PostQueen Cersei I, on 12 March 2012 - 08:23 PM, said:

super competent girl genius

Except Dany never actually was a "super competent girl genius". That's the whole point---she looked incredibly competent in the first three books simply because all of her adversaries were supremely incompetent. The tactics that seemed so brilliant at first---cheating the Astapori out of an Unsullied army and then slaughtering the Astapori nobility, "Dracarys!", freeing all the slaves so as to deprive the slavers of their armies---were "brilliant" only in the short term.  ADWD is merely the point at which the inevitable consequences of Dany's actions finally started catching up with her: she now has a rather well-deserved reputation for treachery, so her word is mud and nobody believes she genuinely wants peace; setting an emissary's tokar on fire just added to her terrible reputation, cause really, what kind of person attacks an envoy?; and the same actions that allowed her to neutralize the slave armies of Astapor and Yunkai led to a situation where she's stuck with tens of thousands of useless hangers-on whom she cannot feed or protect from disease; etc., etc.

All of our other POVs are centered in Westeros, so we got multiple viewpoints on characters and groups of characters. With Dany, we spent the first three (and most of the fifth) books only seeing events from her perspective, so of course she was going to be portrayed in a positive light. But if we look at Dany's entire arc with a critical eye, certain discrepancies pop up even at the very beginning: for example, was she really as well-integrated into the Dothraki, and as well-respected by them, as she believed? Were her "great military victories" in Slaver's Bay a result of her natural military cunning, as Dany and her hangers-on believed, or were they the result of incompetent adversaries coupled with Dany's own appalling lack of foresight and judgment, as ADWD seems to show? Is being a Targaryen the answer to Dany's problems, or is it the root of those problems? Is Dany really "a dragon", as she desperately wants to believe, or is she merely an ordinary person who performed a magic ritual and started buying into her idiot brother's delusions?

View PostQueen Cersei I, on 12 March 2012 - 08:43 PM, said:

GRRM shows Dany as a stupid, incompetent female. In the past, I've complained that there are no females to compete with the likes of the brilliant males-- Tywin, Tyrion, LF, Varys, etc. Dany has been put forth as a counterpoint. Rather than disproving this point, however, I think she proves it. The only really smart females are extremely minor characters who appear to have no desire to rule in their own right. (The queen of thorns and margary Tyrell are the only two I can think of, both of whom kind of make a point of not ostentatiously putting themselves foward and ruling as dumb Cersei and others do.)


Tywin, Tyrion, Littlefinger, Varys, etc. have all done some truly spectacularly idiotic things, things which either led to their downfall or seem poised to lead to their downfall in the future. The idea that they've been portrayed as naturally "smarter" than Dany seems bizarre. Dany has never been taught how to rule, has never had a mentor to teach her to rule (the only advisor she ever had who ruled anything in his life was Jorah, whom she sent away right before declaring herself Queen of Meereen), and she hasn't even had the opportunity of watching another ruler (save Drogo, who wasn't exactly a good role model here). She's trying to rule a city when she 1) has never ruled anything in her life, 2) was never taught how to rule anything in her life, 3) has nobody around her who's ever ruled anything in their lives, and 4) has a superiority complex that's been consistently fed and ennabled by literally everyone around her. The idea that it's her gender that's the problem is, to me, kind of absurd.

The whole point is that anyone who was raised in exile by a delusional narcissist, who was never taught how to rule or play any political game, who believes her gut reaction is always the correct reaction because nobody ever calls her on her BS, and who surrounds herself with yes-men whose goals aren't always in line with hers, isn't just naturally going to succeed in ruling anything. She's not learning from her mistakes, not because she's somehow naturally stupid, but because she has nobody around her who's willing or able to point out those mistakes. If she had people like Donal Noye, Aemon Targaryen, Jeor Mormont, Mance Rayder, even freaking Ygritte---people to smack her down when she needed it---I doubt she'd be in the situation she's now in. But a major reason why she doesn't have these kinds of people is because you can't consider yourself the uber-special "blood of the dragon" and be willing to get smacked down by non-dragons.

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Posted 12 March 2012 - 10:03 PM

Honestly, I cannot Dany yet for my case I think my dislike for her stems from what others thought she should have done. She is at her best in movement, listening to others and making decisions on the move, such as with conquest and other things. By staying in Meereen, she became too attached to her decisions, and people were able t overwhelm her with their needs. More people became more shadows to be feared from her Quaithe visions, and so she regressed back into stupidity. A month or two alone with Drogon should clear her thinking. Hopefully, because I am sick of her second guessing everyone and acting foolishly

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Posted 12 March 2012 - 10:15 PM

I can find reasons for lot of her behavior in recent books. Not that I approve, but I can understand. But two things I can't:

1. Forcing all of her best men to help her clean the mess made by bloody flux. And when Barristan warns her she tells him something like: I'm a blood of a dragon I can't get ill... really?  how about Barristan and others, Dany?

2. I can even understand locking up her dragons, because she really doesn't know how to tame them. But after that she rarely ever thinks about them and doesn't try to resolve that situation somehow!!!

I don't hate her, but I never really liked her either. Which is strange, because I used to find her interesting, and I liked lots of her actions in the past.

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Posted 12 March 2012 - 10:26 PM

I guess I've always kind of made a little inner groan when I came to a Dany POV chapter, but part of that, I think, was irritation that I was being pulled away from the Westeros action, which is what I was really invested in.  I did like and admire her starting with the courage I thought she showed when married to Khal Drogo (to say nothing of eating the heart of a stallion - I almost retched just reading about it).  But I had a hard time following her through the whole wilderness and Quarth bit, and from that time on, her storyline didn't hold much interest.  I did like her freeing the Unsullied and taking Astapor, mainly because I thought she was finally going somewhere and building some strength.  From then on, though, this thing about being the "Little Mother" began to wear on me and started to sound a bit like a Messiah complex.  

Starting with ADWD, I was just 'done' with her.  She sat bored to tears when 'her people' came to her with horrible problems.  She started making unbelievably foolish decisions, that is when she made any decisions at all.  She acted as if she were Queen of all  Essos, yet couldn't even figure out who to trust.  Evidently she thought she was invincible, yet she couldn't figure out how to help 'her children' who were starving.  She was totally irresponsible where her dragons were concerned, and then came Daario.  Could it get worse?  Yes...then came Hizdahr, and whoever the "Green lady" she started having tea with -- how could she possibly trust her?  In short, she became utterly helpless, yet continued to believe that Westeros was hers by right.  

The last chapter of ADWD gave me a glimmer of hope that she might once again show some courage and some accountability for her actions and decisions, but I'm not too sure.  One of the posts mentioned that she was becoming as mad as Aerys, and I think I have to agree.  

Can't we just leave Essos behind?  And Dany along with it?

Edited by OldOne, 12 March 2012 - 10:31 PM.


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Posted 12 March 2012 - 10:33 PM

Never. I really haven't loved her like I did in AGoT but she's still in my top ten.

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Posted 12 March 2012 - 10:35 PM

View PostQueen Cersei I, on 12 March 2012 - 08:43 PM, said:



GRRM shows Dany as a stupid, incompetent female. In the past, I've complained that there are no females to compete with the likes of the brilliant males-- Tywin, Tyrion, LF, Varys, etc.

As for the argument, "it was her age," simply look at Robb Stark. Or Jon Snow, almost the exact same age, managing to rule so brilliantly in contrast to Dany.



Well...Tywin got killed in a very humiliating manner, Tyrion got accused of murder, sentenced to death and now is living as a pauper and rogue with a heavility strained morality and behaviour.

Robb Stark and Jon Snow both got stabbed. Robb beheaded and paraded, Jon getting a "Et Tu Brutus" knifing spree. As many people have brought up here, they have made dozen and dozens of mistakes.


Sure, they had their great moments, but that didn't prevent them from facing nasty ends or life changes.

LF can't play his tricks forever. I will bite him in the ass one day.


Besides, you have to remember that even though there are two current representations of questionable queens, there has been a good buttload of very questionable (and horrible) kings:


Robert Baratheon
Aerys II The Mad
Joffrey Baratheon
Aegon IV the Unworthy
Maegor I The Cruel
Viserys II
Daeron I

And there has been how many stupid, incompetent males in the series? Many dumb, rapey or cruel knights, soldiers and lords that held a form of power over others. The list is ridiculously long.


Maybe it is just me, but...it just goes to show that power is genderless. It doesn't matter if you got a hole or a stick inbetween those legs, having the world at your hands can get to anyones head. It is huge huge huge responsbility and weight on your shoulders, with many hurdles to learn and overcome.  Many people constantly try to fight for that right to have that power, but are unaware of the realism of being a ruler and the talent that is needed to sustain it. Anyone can be a bad or good at it.


Just like we can't have a book where men are perfect, intelligent and wonderful while the women are all dumb and weak, we also can't have a book were all the women are perfect, intellligent and wonderful while the men are all dumb and weak. It wouldn't be fair to accept one over the other either way.



Back to women's roles in the series, you do have strong leadership being portrayed:

Joanna Lannister, said to be the real brains and power behind Tywin. His true and trusted partner.
Maege Mormont, head of her house, dresses in mail, is part of the council with Robb, has daughters who acted as guards.
Nymeria, a Great Queen from history.
Arya, obviously not a typical, dainty and weak little thing. Pretty much taking control and acting like the boss when she can.
Sarella, a princess getting her education by going through the unconventional route.
Meera Reed, an extremely skilled hunter, a necessary foundation and leader in the trio.
Melisandre, whether you love her or hate her, she did manage to make an entire army and their king/queen practically silly putty in her hands.
Sansa Stark, alleged potential powerhouse in the future.
Val the "Wildling Princess, able to kick a man's ass.
Alys Karstark, observant, intelligent, capable to handle a potentially tough future.
Asha Greyjoy, for crying out loud, she was a talented leader of a massive fleet and broke massive barriers!
Margaery Tyrell, a Queen that won the love of the people. She supported the economy and helped with charity.


Everyone is human in the book; and being human, they all make good and bad decisions, some more than others, some more successful than others. And a massive amount of character development in each individual basis. And overall, men and women go through life's experiences and woes together as one, a true sentiment of humanity and growth.




*Sevumar made a good commentary on how age plays a role, regardless of who you are. Many of these leaders in the story are teenagers, barely hitting even the age of 18; that is a big deal. A very realistic problem that happened incredibly frequent throughout history.

And this:

View PostSevumar, on 12 March 2012 - 08:42 PM, said:


Martin has shown us that patriarchy is anything but glorious. Throwing away the talents and potential of half of your society has never been a good policy and it's one thing that keeps real nations from developing as quickly and successfully as they otherwise might.



It's true, if anything, it seems that GRRM is actually showing that patriarchy doesn't work - it's just a way of constantly shooting yourselves in the foot over and over again.

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Posted 12 March 2012 - 10:37 PM

View PostMelpomene, on 12 March 2012 - 10:35 PM, said:

It's true, if anything, it seems that GRRM is actually showing that patriarchy doesn't work - it's just a way of constantly shooting yourselves in the foot over and over again.

But it is hilarious lol

Edited by King Bronn l, 12 March 2012 - 10:38 PM.


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Posted 12 March 2012 - 10:38 PM

Staying in Meereen, Madness! Madness!

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Posted 12 March 2012 - 10:49 PM

View PostSpotted Pate, on 12 March 2012 - 05:49 PM, said:

In Game of thrones she was my favorite pow character since her chapters meant we got to read about the awesome dothraki. In the following books she got less and less interesting.
Drogo and Viserys no longer present in her sto
ry made me lose about 50% of my interest in what was going on in her chapters.
My problem with Daenerys is not her character, i think she's very likeable considering how she is
suddenly put in a position of great power after leading such a dysfunctional life and being raised by her bi-polar brother. All things considered she turned out really nice if not exceedingly clever.
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Dont usually nitpick but since i like viserys...Viserys is not bi-polar.He isnt prone to alternate cycles of depression euphoria.He usually remains in one state of mind-Depression and bitterness.And since Drogo was too fucking proud to fulfill his bargain,cant say i blame him.I've gotta admire viserys for having the balls
for accompanying danerys with the khalasar,instead of safely remaining in Pentos.Who knows might've been an subconscious desire to protect his sister-but i might be pushing it too far.Anyway the reason viserys was bitter and therefore "mad" which people further intepret as "bi-polar" was due to the shit that happened in his life.Dany was born poor but viserys went Riches-to-Rags,he also gave up alot of family heirlooms like the crown to feed himself and dany,probably resulting in guilt,which further fucked up his psyche.
That said,he did "lust" for Danerys,so he had the classic targ incest shit(although Jahaerys 1 had the same and he ended up being awesome king)

The only case of bi-polar disorder is Rhaegar Targaryen,which has been hidden under the facade of "love which drove him to abandon his wife & kids,and cause the destruction of his family".

OP:How could someone so fucking awesome in ASOS make u wanna :bang: in ADWD?

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Posted 12 March 2012 - 10:52 PM

I always found her someone who is inconsistent in terms of leadership and morality. She always had her flaws.

In ADWD her story is kind of boring because I don't care that much about her love life, and not much happens in Mereen, she should have had shorter chapters with more happening and the battle for Mereen should have been in the book. When she disappears from Mereen things actually get more interesting in the place with Barristan POV, Quentyn also doing something crazy.

She was one of my favorites early on in GOT and her GOT story was pretty good. Overall though she is kind of disappointing. GRRM should have made her play a role into the Westeros story faster. We already had five books and she has just started riding one Dragon and has yet to land in Westeros.

No a favorite, not sure if among the main characters she is least favorite. She is probably not.  And things are always subject to change, previously Bran's storyline was among my least favorites but in ADWD that changed. I liked her story in AGOT and ASOS but ADWD and ACOK was somewhat disappointing.

Also rather obviously GRRM is not sexist, does not treat his female characters especially bad, etc. Actually the man is probably a feminist all in all and his books have a pro female anti sexist message. He is also somewhat realistic with the human conditions and human flaws, unlike many authors. Of course even he is not perfect and anyone extremely strict (or someone who is not fair in his judging) will always find problems with any author in regards to what they are judging them.

Edited by Qhorin Halfhand and Yoren, 12 March 2012 - 11:02 PM.


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Posted 12 March 2012 - 10:55 PM

@Melpomene
Again, i dont wanna be the nitpick guy,but Viserys 2 was actually good.The reason he is considered unpopular was that he reigned only for a year,but really as hand of the king for previous 2 kings,he was instrumental in keeping the realm intact while "Daeron warred and Baelor prayed" (wiki quote lol)

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Posted 12 March 2012 - 10:58 PM

View PostQueen Cersei I, on 12 March 2012 - 08:43 PM, said:

Do you hate Tyrion though, too? Because he too feasted on rich fare as the city starved. As Tyrion says (and as GRRM seems to agree upon, or at least when its his much glamorized little avatar in question, rather than some stupid girl), there is no reason why he should starve. Pycelle says he likes to keep a simple table during a famine, Tyrion says he likes to eat all he can since he has food.

Many of the morally bad things Dany does Tyrion is guilty of doing as well, he is just not made to look bad for it as she is.

I see the difference being, Tyrion makes no apologies. He doesn't go around proclaiming himself to be some paternal father figure, or some savior, or some benevolent demigod. Dany on the other hand has a savior complex going on, thinking all these people are her children. So yeah with that attitude, I'm more critical of her when she eats and they starve. At least Tyrion's up front about it.

I also have to say, broadly, that I think you read way too much into the issue of gender here. I don't think Martin sits down and actively thinks about how he can slut-shame Cersei or Dany next. This society and its historical parallel have/had very specific, rigid gender roles. It's not right or fair or ideal, but hewing to them is part of what makes this society work within the context that Martin's built. I don't read it expecting some academic treatise on subverting gender roles. I did enough of that in school.

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Posted 12 March 2012 - 11:05 PM

View PostApple Martini, on 12 March 2012 - 10:58 PM, said:



I see the difference being, Tyrion makes no apologies. He doesn't go around proclaiming himself to be some paternal father figure, or some savior, or some benevolent demigod. Dany on the other hand has a savior complex
going on, thinking all these people are her children. So yeah with that attitude, I'm more
critical of her when she eats and they starve. At least Tyrion's up front about it.

Its hard to empathize with people who call you twisted little monkey demon and  throw crap at you.

Edited by Revan Baratheon, 12 March 2012 - 11:06 PM.


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Posted 13 March 2012 - 12:14 AM

When she told Ser Jorah to take a hike.

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Posted 13 March 2012 - 12:52 AM

Who are the wineseller's daughters? i don't remember them.

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Posted 13 March 2012 - 01:17 AM

View PostInigo Montoya the Second, on 13 March 2012 - 12:52 AM, said:

Who are the wineseller's daughters? i don't remember them.

It's a reference to the scene in ADWD when Dany decides to authorize torture. The Sons of the Harpy have just killed 9 people in one night, including several of the Unsullied and a talented harpist who had been a freed slave, a favorite of Dany's, and a presence in her council. They're said to have maimed her corpse by cutting off her fingers.

The only captive they have is the wineseller from the shop where some of the Unsullied were killed. The conversation then goes like this:

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“Have any of the murderers been captured?”

“Your servants have arrested the owner of the wineshop and his daughters. They plead their ignorance and beg for mercy.”

They all plead ignorance and beg for mercy. “Give them to the Shavepate. Skahaz, keep each apart from the others and put them to the question.”

“It will be done, Your Worship. Would you have me question them sweetly, or sharply?”

“Sweetly, to begin. Hear what tales they tell and what names they give you. It may be they had no part in this.” She hesitated. “Nine, the noble Reznak said. Who else?”

“Three freedmen, murdered in their homes,” the Shavepate said. “A moneylender, a cobbler, and the harpist Rylona Rhee. They cut her fingers off before they killed her.”

The queen flinched. Rylona Rhee had played the harp as sweetly as the Maiden. When she had been a slave in Yunkai, she had played for every highborn family in the city. In Meereen she had become a leader amongst the Yunkish freedmen, their voice in Dany’s councils. “We have no captives but this wineseller?”

“None, this one grieves to confess. We beg your pardon.”

Mercy, thought Dany. They will have the dragon’s mercy. “Skahaz, I have changed my mind. Question the man sharply.”

“I could. Or I could question the daughters sharply whilst the father looks on. That will wring some names from him.”

“Do as you think best, but bring me names.” Her fury was a fire in her belly. “I will have no more Unsullied slaughtered. Grey Worm, pull your men back to their barracks. Henceforth let them guard my walls and gates and person. From this day, it shall be for Meereenese to keep the peace in Meereen. Skahaz, make me a new watch, made up in equal parts of shavepates and freedmen.”

Her anger over the murder of the harpist changes her entire view of the situation. The killings of the Unsullied have always bothered her, but at the mention of Rylona Rhee, Dany loses control, grows mad, and decides to go down the dark path of torture. She's lost the moral high ground again, and discarded justice in the service of vengeance and anger. Even if you didn't see her previous acts of murder and collective punishment as turning points in her character development, this one is hard to miss.

Edited by Sevumar, 13 March 2012 - 01:22 AM.


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Posted 13 March 2012 - 01:18 AM

I found that when I reread the series I usually skip the Daenerys chapters.

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Posted 13 March 2012 - 01:48 AM

View PostApple Martini, on 12 March 2012 - 10:58 PM, said:


I see the difference being, Tyrion makes no apologies. He doesn't go around proclaiming himself to be some paternal father figure, or some savior, or some benevolent demigod. Dany on the other hand has a savior complex going on, thinking all these people are her children. So yeah with that attitude, I'm more critical of her when she eats and they starve. At least Tyrion's up front about it.

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Does being up front about it actually make a difference to the people starving? Morally, from my perspective, it makes no difference whatsoever. Tyrion is every bit as outraged as Danerys is upon finding out that he is hated. Despite his cynical attitudes and his air of false bonhomie, he is every bit as narcissistic as the dragon queen, expecting the people to love (or at least like him) because he, the great Tyrion, is trying to protect them from Joffrey. Again, when he finds out that people hate him, he is outraged. When people laugh at him, he is outraged. He cannot believe the nerve of such people.

Tyrion Lannister is every bit as selfish, posing, and ridiculous as Danerys Targaryen, the only difference is that people are encouraged to sympathize with him every step of the way, whereas Dany’s faults are more clearly presented, occasionally satirized.

I respect the fact that you see it as a matter of Tyrion having more integrity than Dany (being less of a poser.) I simply see it as Tyrion being presented far more favorably.

View PostApple Martini, on 12 March 2012 - 10:58 PM, said:


 I don't think Martin sits down and actively thinks about how he can slut-shame Cersei or Dany next.

I don’t think Dany’s sexual behavior is ever presented as anything other than “natural” and positive. It is the inordinate length given to this subject that I find a bit vexing and mystifying.

As for Cersei, her entire POV is more or less one big ol’ slut shame. Ridiculous amounts of time are spent upon her sexual deeds that would have been better spent elsewhere. She is made to look like a victimizer/ predator, and her sexual activities are hammered in as wrong to a ridiculous extent. We are then treated to extended accounts of her sexual humiliation in various situations. All this is pointless, save for making Cersei look simultaneously grotesque and pathetic, and encouraging readers to loathe her on a specifically sexual level and obsess over her sexual deeds. (Something that many of the  posters on these forums have taken up with a great deal of zest and diligence.) Or, perhaps you can think of some great narrative based reason for GRRM describing Osney Kettleblack ordering Cersei to shag him with her crown on besides humiliating her and presenting her as dirty, foolish, and being degraded in her own wicked sexual snares. But for the life of me, I can’t.

View PostApple Martini, on 12 March 2012 - 10:58 PM, said:


 This society and its historical parallel have/had very specific, rigid gender roles. It's not right or fair or ideal, but hewing to them is part of what makes this society work within the context that Martin's built. I don't read it expecting some academic treatise on subverting gender roles. I did enough of that in school.

As I’ve stated numerous times, my issue is not anything with the norms of the land in which these are placed, but the way things are treated by the author.

View PostApple Martini, on 12 March 2012 - 10:58 PM, said:


I see the difference being, Tyrion makes no apologies. He doesn't go around proclaiming himself to be some paternal father figure, or some savior, or some benevolent demigod. Dany on the other hand has a savior complex going on, thinking all these people are her children. So yeah with that attitude, I'm more critical of her when she eats and they starve. At least Tyrion's up front about it.

I also have to say, broadly, that I think you read way too much into the issue of gender here. I don't think Martin sits down and actively thinks about how he can slut-shame Cersei or Dany next. This society and its historical parallel have/had very specific, rigid gender roles. It's not right or fair or ideal, but hewing to them is part of what makes this society work within the context that Martin's built. I don't read it expecting some academic treatise on subverting gender roles. I did enough of that in school.

Actually, what got me started on the gender role thing was the statement from GRRM in an interview that he had wanted to show Cersei and Dany ruling side by side because, he felt, they showcased the two ways women can rule in a Medieval environment. Despite the rather depressing fact that GRRM’s obvious parallel of the two from the beginning was incredibly problematic, (Dany the good woman submitted to her husband, adored him, happily bore his children, then got dragons—and power—by accident; Cersei the bad woman started in nearly the exact same situation--given by boss male relative to a king--only hated her husband, unnaturally rebelled, and thus ended up ruining her life and causing chaos, and always (and unnaturally, these books imply, because wanting power must mean she wants to have a penis) wanted to have power for herself)  I was still excited to see Dany rule as everything Cersei never had been. And yeah, there has yet to be a competent, brilliant female in these books who matches the many competent, brilliant males—whom, despite their individual failings, all meet with great success for a time, and are generally acknowledged to be brilliant minds or great men. Unfortunately, I was instead treated to the Dany debacle that was ADWD.

Edited by Queen Cersei I, 13 March 2012 - 01:50 AM.


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Posted 13 March 2012 - 01:51 AM

View PostMaester Nikolas, on 12 March 2012 - 09:01 PM, said:

Yay! Another Dany fan! I was hoping that it wouldn't be me and one or two others against the might or the rest of the thread.
No, I've posted in other anti-Dany threads defending her.

The arguments are almost always the same.  I can even RECITE THEM.

She's incompetent in Mereen, she nails up random 163 slavers (injustice! despite them killing 163 slave children to welcome her to Mereen). Dany has a shopkeeper and his daughter tortured for info (after her Unsullied end up murdered brutally).

She is impetuous and girly and hormonal and just wants to screw Daario.

Dany blows off Quentyn and RUINS any future alliance with Dorne.

Daenerys REFUSES to listen to Ser Barristan about her FAMILY BEING MAD!  And won't listen to him about Honorable Lord Ned Stark.  

She fails to identify the Harpy!

She locks up HER DRAGONS! She let her dragon EAT A CHILD.

And, my personal least favorite: Dany's a slut for sleeping with Daario! (trust me, it's been said in several threads; geez, sleep with two men you're married to, and one you're not, and that = slut, seriously people.  Ridiculous.)........sigh.

ETA: No I haven't read the entire thread.

Also, Queen Cersei I it seems you are bitter that GRRM made Cersei incompetent, moreso than you think Dany is a character written by a sexist author.  Cersei is Cersei.  She is who she is.  Doesn't mean GRRM's a misogynist.
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Ok, y'all are entitled to those opinions.

But here are mine: Dany cares about her people, even if she isn't native to that city.  She hears all court cases for hours, from freed slaves and former masters alike.  Her decisions are fair, and not brutal ala Randyll.

Dany empathizes with her freedmen and her Unsullied, and she won't kill her noble hostages out of compassion - they are only children.

Dany has much to learn, but well, SO DOES (did?) JON, so did Robb.  She is 16 - for that age, she is impressive as a ruler.

Does she make mistakes in Mereen?  Absolutely.  She realizes many of them in her final ADWD chapter.

But is Dany a horrible boring incompetent next Mad Queen?   HELL NO WTF are y'all reading?  IMHO.  ;)

Edited by Silmarien, 13 March 2012 - 02:02 AM.


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Posted 13 March 2012 - 02:02 AM

View PostQueen Cersei I, on 13 March 2012 - 01:48 AM, said:

Actually, what got me started on the gender role thing was the statement from GRRM in an interview that he had wanted to show Cersei and Dany ruling side by side because, he felt, they showcased the two ways women can rule in a Medieval environment. Despite the rather depressing fact that GRRM’s obvious parallel of the two from the beginning was incredibly problematic, (Dany the good woman submitted to her husband, adored him, happily bore his children, then got dragons—and power—by accident; Cersei the bad woman started in nearly the exact same situation--given by boss male relative to a king--only hated her husband, unnaturally rebelled, and thus ended up ruining her life and causing chaos, and always (and unnaturally, these books imply, because wanting power must mean she wants to have a penis) wanted to have power for herself)  I was still excited to see Dany rule as everything Cersei never had been. And yeah, there has yet to be a competent, brilliant female in these books who matches the many competent, brilliant males—whom, despite their individual failings, all meet with great success for a time, and are generally acknowledged to be brilliant minds or great men. Unfortunately, I was instead treated to the Dany debacle that was ADWD.


1. Who are the competent brilliant men? Littlefinger? (who had to shove his wife out the moon door since he could not control his urges)  Tyrion? (who is brilliant, but has lots and lots of flaws). Even Tywin had flaws, and his plotting eventually became his downfall. The one murderous player who is still safe and sound is Olenna Tyrell who offed Joffrey.
2. Regarding the role of women, what did you expect in a medieval environment?
3. Have you read a lot of other fantasy where a shocking amount of the characters are male and females make almost no appearance, if they are not warrior maidens or spechul tomboys?

In GRRM's world, we get different types of women and maybe you ought to face that fact that a highborn lady could normally not pick and chose whom to marry: she had to submit to the wishes of her family (normally her father). Is this nice? No. Is this portrayed as nice? No.
(For reference: see Sansa's marriage to Tyrion, or Lysa's description of her marriage to Jon Arryn.)

Dany subverts this by taking charge of her situation and trying to make the best of a pretty rough deal. Cersei tries to a degree, but fails because Robert is Robert and not Drogo, and she had already started down a different path.

In fact, I thought it was too much "voice of the author" coming through with Cersei where she complains about not being born a man. In her world, that is a very strong modern view. Too strong, almost.  The "slut shaming" is also very much a sign of the times, where a patriarchal society needed to control women's sexuality and be sure they were maidens on their wedding day, etc etc. This is also not shocking and I am not sure why you think it is. Is it nice? No. Is it presented as nice? Hardly.

Personally I feel quite sympathetic to Cersei. She's a bitter, twisted creature who made some awful and terrible choices in her life, but I really felt for her during her imprisonment and her walk of shame. She didn't want Ned beheaded, she wanted him at the wall despite death being the safer option. She was not behind the beatings of Sansa (even if she didn't do much to stop them either, or cared).  As for the Kettleblacks, I always felt that at this point, it helped illustrate what a depressing situation Cersei was in personally. She's lost Tywin, her father. She's lost Joffrey (people seem to ignore that this was her son she lost, even if he was a monster to others to her she was just her son). Cersei wanted Rhaegar, but could not have him. She was bedazzled by Robert, but he didn't care for her. She had Jamie, in a way, but lost him too. I always felt her shagging Kettleblack was more sad than anything else. Her depressive and desperate arc fit her actions, which were just sinking into paranoia and desperation.

In fact, one of the things I do like about the novels is that women are presented as having sexual desires as well. They get all bedazzled by good looking men, or they fall victims to lust/love/etc just as the men do, making them human, if nothing else. With Dany, it clearly shows she has grown up enough to look at a man and think "You're hot, let's shag". I never read that as something inherently wrong, but that she is letting her feelings for Daario cloud her judgement. Same as happened with Robb and Jeyne Westerling.

(I'm also surprised by everyone finding Daario offputting, he always struck me as quite an attractive man in the text, or at least he is presented as such. Is it the blue beard?)

It will be very interesting to see what Cersei does now btw, since if she gets cleared from the charges, Kevan is gone, Tywin is gone, Jamie and Tyrion are gone and the only one she has to compete with is Margaery. Maybe Cersei will come to surprise us yet. I sure hope so.

Edited by Lyanna Stark, 13 March 2012 - 02:23 AM.