I'm curious as to how many guys would like it if their wife performed a song (as well as Megan did) at their birthday party, and how many wouldn't.
This is a pretty awkward issue. A few years (and two kids ago) my wife took a poll-dancing class with some friends and then performed at a recital with a very large audience. She was easily the best or second-best person to dance that night (and if you met my wife and her two-left feet and 10 thumbs this would surprise you as much as it did me). I really, really thought I would be super-embarrassed and squirm in my seat as she came over and rubbed up against me. But nothing like that happened; I actually felt amazing for my wife; I thought she legitimately "rocked; I was so proud of her and also just mesmerized by her. It wasn't just the titillation or the sexual energy around her but the fact that she controlled a whole room of perfect strangers and did it effortlessly.
But then she (her stripper name was “Vixen” btw) was doing that where she was the center of attention and was not doing it as a sort of duality with one of the viewers (I was just one of many). With Megan she clearly was putting Don on the spot; something Don hates. He also is not in control and everyone is looking at him; something else Don hates. Don likes to be the power behind the popularity. He demands to be in the shadows more often than not. There are exceptions but they are few and far between. And when his personal life is concerned, he wants nobody to have that sort of access.
Megan did all that; she gave all these people Don keeps at a firm distance this unprecedented access to him. Hell, he hated inviting Roger to dinner one night! Now his whole office is there and Megan is Zo0ma-Zooma-Zooming all over the place. I can clearly see why that would make Don uncomfortable.
And Megan clearly did not understand the full ramifications of all this, most notably how the office will view her even if its crudely demonstrated from Harry’s POV or more subtly by Pete or Roger. Yeah, when you dance like that you get to have the power but (as Roger says under far different circumstances earlier on) “heavy is the head that wears the crown” and you have to be prepared to live like that now that all those eyes are upon her (and she does not love that).
Personally, I thought she was absolutely gorgeous and it was a really cute scene. Don obviously had a stick rammed up his ass so far that it was interfering with his thought processes.
She was gorgeous. There is no mistaking that. But I am not sure "cute" covers that scene. "Cute" has a sense of harmlessness and innoccence. That song and dance had no trace of that; this woman was empowered and that empowerment has a boat-load of baggage. Don is uncomfortable but its more detailed then him being a prude or having a rod up his ass; its an exposure that others now have to his life. And don loathes that.
She kind of reminded me of the old Dick Van Dyke Show's Laura Petrie (young, gorgeous Mary Tyler Moore.) They'd have musical routines like that at their house parties every once in a while.
I do think that comparison has some life, but only to a point. Rememberm Dick van Dyke was a writer on a TV show and performances were part-and-parcel with the job and Dick's job had huge penetration into his personal life to the point where the two were indistinguishable. And Laura's dances, while sexy in their own fresh and energetic way were NOTHING like what Megan did. Megan, to some degree, used Don and did the dance (toa degree) at his expense. Laura never did anything like that to Dick.
Now, full disclosure, Dick is not Don. Don is not a good man and Dick clearly was (to Laura most notably). I think Don is changing but in some areas he'll always be Don... or Dick... wait which Dick am I talking about again? Van Dyke or Whitman.... sometimes I need a scorecard to keep up here. Seriously, I think to look at Don (and all his faults) and say "You are so stiff! Lighten up" is being unfair to Don when you look at that dance from Megan's (maybe) not-so-innocent perspective.