Lyeder, on 05 May 2012 - 04:59 AM, said:
I am one of the "did not find out by myself". And I am not sure if I agree to the theory.
However, a few ideas: Lyanna was a Stark and as such, like Ned, bound to honour much more than most Westeros families. Even if she had fallen in love with Rhaegar, she was betrothed to Robert and I doubt that a Stark would break an engagement, moreover if it was for a married man. Regardless of the fact if Rhaegar loved his wife or if her expected life-span was feeble, he was by all laws of Westeros, married. So, the idea of Lyanna running away with Rhaegar because she loved him does not convince me at all. He must have taken her away by force, If then ,he raped her or she consented willingly - in the eyes of Westeros man, it makes little to no difference.
The thing is, we do not know much about the other Starks to assess if the strict codes of honour were engrained in all of them as deeply as in Ned. We do know, though, that the wild wolf Brandon deflowered a noble-born maiden, which, IMHO, is rather dishonourable conduct. We do know that Ned's own children abandon the codes for the sake of survival, and Ned himself places his daughter's life above his honour, so, all in all, it seems it has actually never been "honour above all". Also, there is the matter of Lyanna's wild blood that led her to an early grave, whch suggests she was somehow complicit in her fate. History is full of young girls from highly principled families who fell for totally wrong guys and acted against all the priciples, and we know too little of Lyanna to assess for sure if she would meekly undergo a marriage she didn't find appealing, or rather rebel and elope with Prince Charming.
Then, there is the matter of Rhaegar. By all but Robert's accounts, he was a paragon of virtue and loved Lyanna; abduction and rape somehow don't fit in the picture. However, even if all these PoVs could be dismissed as biased, there are are other hints. For instance, I remember that when I was reading AGOT the first time and came across the favourable comparison of Rhaegar and Robert (when Ned wonders whether Rhaegar also frequented brothels and thinks that the asnwer is probably "no"), it seemed to me a very weird thought about someone who supposedly kidnapped and raped his sister; this virtually set me on the track. Then, the dried blue roses which Lyanna was holding on her deathbed: where did she get them, and why was she holding them in her last moments, if they were from her rapist? If it wasn't just some part of Ned's dream and the roses were really there, it is possible that the dried roses were her crown from the Harrenhall tourney, in which case she can't have been abducted, since victims of abductions are hardly ever allowed to take their possessions with them (and especially such fragile ones)
Finally, the question of Rhaegar's marriage. Even if we don't take into account RL, where younger girls have affairs with married men on quite a regular basis, there is still the matter of Targaryen polygamy and Rhaegar's potential second marriage with Lyanna, which would then make Jon legitimate - qutoing myself from earlier in the thread:
Actually, Jon's legitimacy is the basis for the explanation while the three KG stay at the Tower of Joy instead of rushing to Viserys, yet at the same time claiming that they are keeping their vows. If Viserys is king, then at least one of them is bound to be at his side, no matter what Rhaegar's previous orders might have been. Not doing so would be dereliction of duty and definitely would fall under breaking their vows - so, if they stay AND keep their vows, Viserys is not king, and the person who is king is at ToJ. With Rhaegar, Aerys and Aegon dead, the only explanation that makes sense is another legitimate son of Rhaegar - and with the Targaryen history of polygamy, aptly combined with the Northern tradition of marrying in front of trees, bigamy would be perfectly legitimate :-)