Lily Valley

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  • Birthday 01/12/1975

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  1. The translator of the second book was waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay better IMHO. His name is Joel Martinsen. The Dark Forest had a completely different feel. Martinsen is translating another novel by Liu called Ball Lightning, coming out in November. I CANNOT WAIT.
  2. I am SHOCKED. The second book was even better. The darkness of the author's view of human nature and the nature of life in general really shines. I am very saddened by this review. I didn't find the science to tough to swallow. I found it whimsical. ZOMG. I thought we were FRIENDS!!!!! Liu tends to run towards silly even ridiculous. The Wandering Earth has shorter pieces that begin with a symbiotic ant / dinosaur society and get more ludicrous from there. He's marvelous. No it wasn't. Not at all. It was just very pessimistic about human nature. :just lays down and dies: WHY DO I EVEN COME HERE?????
  3. Quit talking about Liu. I am still FURIOUS the Dark Forest got snubbed. It was the best book of the trilogy.
  4. I just downloaded the complete guide to the void. How did I miss this? My amazon suggestion filter is broken.
  5. I WANT MY PACKET! In the meantime, thanks for this.
  6. They must have been SMOLL!
  7. They're pretty bad. I have some stuff going on at home. Nearly cancelled trip. Freaked out, I called her and told her all about it. She was actually freaked out that I wasn't calling back because I didn't like her anymore. People are so stupid. Trip is on, Home problem is not fixed AT ALL, but I am going.
  8. I am crying laughing. Do tell us your findings when you are done, professor.
  9. You must lose your SHIT when you visit the south. Walking through the French Quarter is Hell on Earth if you need to be somewhere. Our tourists are the worst pedestrians and in addition, Southerners are NEVER in a hurry to get anywhere.
  10. HEY QUEERS! I just wanted to check in. Our organization at the school is going to meet for the first time on Tuesday. We hope we have 10 students ready to get going. I didn't want it to move this fast, but we have a childless English teacher in the mix. She is just getting that shit DONE. Wish me luck. She's pretty great. I want to be associated with the group, but glad she's running point on dealing with administration and the fucking school charter. In other news, I am going to visit my girl for Easter break/ I leave Thursday. I suspect three hellish days at work ahead of me. I have hidden in my house for the weekend. As a result, my fucking neighbors have a jazz "flautist" blasting garbage tootling all over the neighborhood. I am not denigrating flute players, just this particular style. I am going to rock some metal and pre-clean the house for my trip. I CAN'T WAIT TO SEE MY GIRL! Thanks nerds! Much love to you all.
  11. Scot, all I have to add to this is that I surrendered my own license because I am a shit driver. Since I am a "professional woman" I am treated with scorn by both men and women for not driving myself. I do NOT understand this. I wish more US drivers would just admit they are crap at driving. Seriously, the road is dangerous. I'll go back and read this tomorrow. In the meantime, let's remove the stigma from non-drivers. We are ABSOLUTELY doing you a solid by staying off the road.
  12. I've got nothing bad to say about AA / NA. I have friends who are alive today because of the program. Al-Anon has gotten me through some really hellish life experiences. It's program also helped me be a better listener and have a hell of a lot more empathy. No really, you guys should have met me before. The most remarkable thing about AA is the human network it creates. People in the program, at least here, take their responsibilities to their sponsees very seriously. I've seen people in that program drop EVERYTHING to help a member in crisis. For one of my friends, who is an atheist, the Higher Power is a type of awe at how generous those in recovery are to the newbies they sponsor. I imagine that what he sees is some global rug woven of compassion that is standing by to help. I also know that my friends who have been through AA or are currently involved have a lot more maturity than the ones that haven't as a general rule. They are very good at saying, "no." They are very self-aware. They're good at minding their own business. They have an emotional maturity that most people, frankly, lack. Personally, I've never seen more kindness anywhere than I have at Al-Anon. When I've needed it, just walking into a room knowing that everyone I am looking at understands why I'm there feels like shedding a huge load. There is something comforting about being around people who GET IT. Sometimes I don't say anything at all. Sometimes I just sit there and cry and it's fine. The Al-Anon program is much different than AA, the motto is, "Take what you need and leave the rest." Sometimes it's the damndest little thing that someone says that will help get through a tough situation. There's always someone available for a coffee after in case one needs to vent. There's also a phone list. People on it don't mind taking calls. They just don't answer if they can't. Anyway, I'm getting long-winded. Trisk, I can see your point. It hasn't been my experience, but New Orleans is unique in a lot of ways. Addiction is a huge fucking problem here. Everyone I know has been hurt by it in some form or another. There are so many different groups in town that it's pretty easy to find a meeting that works for each individual. I went to several that were really unhelpful before I found a couple of good ones that are extremely well run. I'm now wondering if our Catholic tradition doesn't make it a little more helpful here. Taking time every week and every Lent for self-reflection and conscience searching is part of the culture. Maybe it makes the groups here a little better. I don't know about the overall success rates. I do know that the first year is critical.
  13. You know I am going to fisk the SHIT out of this, right?? Unfortunately, my internet connection in Third World USA is shit (high traffic on Friday, how could a cable company ever predict that?) We are in agreement about the "moral panic" part of this argument. What I will say in response to your defense of MP is that WE HAVE MORE PRESCRIPTIONS FOR OPIATES THAN PEOPLE in Louisiana. We have something called "pain clinics" where people just show up to get their prescriptions filled. MORE PRESCRIPTIONS than every man woman and child. The system (as it was) would pay out of medicare / medicaid to fill the prescriptions, but not much for the chronic health issues that caused it. Also, a simple TEN MINUTE conversation with a health care provider could prevent a dependent person from becoming an addict in the first place. I really want to get into this some more as I think you have some great points. I think (and what little science on the subject that is available backs me up) that there is a pre-disposition in a fairly large group of us. In other words, there's a chance that anyone can "turn on" under the right set of circumstances. Medical practitioners have an obligation to warn people and have resources for their patients available.
  14. Yes, and the shame cycle. The incredibly opaque nature of the courts AND hospitals to deal with this shit is infuriating. People who are already fragile spending hours and hours on the phone dealing with bad information and obstinate bureaucrats is fucking infuriating. In addition, the stigma makes them so much less likely to ask for help. So they die. They die and die and die and it is fucking shameful. This is a derail from the OP and I apologize. The moral policing isn't working. At either end of that argument leaves an enormous burden of the irresponsibility on the shoulders of the medical profession. IMO, they fucking deserve it. They haven't listened to their peers on addiction and know less about pain management. It's not that fucking hard. Especially since this is such a big deal right now and LAWS are changing to govern their practices as a result. A few fucking hours of professional development for ONE Doctor in each large practice could make a difference. The fact that this isn't happening is just fucking sickening. Edit: X-Ray, I am so sorry for your losses. I miss my mine too.
  15. Watching an addict recover from close quarters is the most heroic thing I have ever seen. Watching an addict do addict stuff from close quarters is the most hellish thing I have ever seen. Nobody would pick that. Nobody. It is absolutely disgraceful that addiction is stigmatized the way it is. I understand why, it's easier to hate something than to look at it. It's still inexcuseable. I want to say that it's not necessarily lifelong toil. I know a lot of people who recovered and a decade later they are more self-aware than most non-recovered peers. They KNOW when they need to get some help. They KNOW what type of thing pushes their buttons, etc. They are some of the most vibrant and self-aware people I know. I was frankly shocked to find out that many of them ever had a substance abuse problem. It hits across everything.