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    Demon Feminist or Feminist Demon. You decide!

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  1. Considering all I knew about it was being on the Jubilee Line and told that Westminster Station was closed because of a police investigation. I whizzed merrily on my way to Marylebone and got on the train home. THEN got a phone call from himself asking if I was OK and managed to get away alright...
  2. Was GRRM influenced by Robert Jordan's Wheel of Time series?

    on Reddit? it's a fair bet...
  3. This is hitting home for me right now. I've got a 4 year old who starts school in September. I recently went to a literacy workshop about how to support him in reading/writing. The workshop leader said that boys tend to have a harder time writing because of not believing that they can. All I can do as a mother is counteract as much as possible the societal pressures and get him to behave well and let him know that he is fully capable of writing... But to address it on a society wide-scale will take a paradigm shift in addressing why we actually start enforcing rigid gender expectations from the minute they pop out of the uterus...
  4. US Politics: Lock Him Up!

    I'm gonna be honest it was that bit that made me think WFT?
  5. don't look now but from your text one could infer that you think those that do go to a counselor are some how lesser. Which is kind of what we need not to happen so that men don't feel the stigma of reaching out for emotional help. YMMV
  6. US Politics: Opening Pandora's Box

    Unfortunately Republicans want The White House and power too much to do anything substantive about this. There'll be a congressional hearing or two and a couple more resignations but that's it. Game over and he'll probably get in for another four years. If he can keep his small orange hands off the nuclear weapons.
  7. Feminism - Post-apocalypse version

    'tis done! @brook Feeling is mutual <3
  8. Feminism - Post-apocalypse version

    I dunno sometimes I'm a demon feminist and other times a feminist demon. I feel a title change coming on.
  9. Feminism - Post-apocalypse version

    But this isn't a problem with the tenets of feminism or what feminism looks like. There are other factors at play here the major one being that the people who don't want to move to egalitarian society for whatever reason have done a bang up job of painting all feminists as unnatural man hating/child hating humourless hairy beasts.
  10. Feminism - Post-apocalypse version

    I know you don't mean to, Maithanet but if we can not judge women on if they managed to escape a DV situation no matter their reasons. And to always be sensitive when discussing these issues there are victims of domestic violence on the board who may read and/or contribute to the thread. We don't need to be judging them...
  11. Feminism - Post-apocalypse version

    Honest to god, Lily, this gives me life.
  12. Feminism - Post-apocalypse version

    This is the feminist thread, buster. There will be no joy here!
  13. Feminism - Post-apocalypse version

    You'll get no disagreement from me at all. It's the extra work on top of a full time job that still disproportionately falls to the woman. And even given the partnership model of a SAHM/out to work husband* the SAHM is on call 24/7 and the husband tends to come home and thinks he goes to work all day he doesn't have to do anything around the home (am on a message board for moms and this is a feature of many conversations). *so, I'm aware I'm being hideously heteronormative here mainly because I don't have the knowledge of other partnerships/relationships. if anyone has info/anecdotes etc they'd like to bust out to help me, all gratefully received.
  14. Feminism - Post-apocalypse version

    So in the UK, you get mandatory 6 weeks at 90% ( you HAVE to take that it's ilegal for you to go back to work less than 6 weeks after birth - happy to be corrected if I'm wrong), thereafter you get statutory pay for then next 7.5 months which comes in at about £500 per month. And then you're entitled to 3 months without pay. The company must keep a position open for you on your return. Now, some companies are a lot more generous for instance my work gives 6 months full pay, 3 months statutory. Men get a rougher deal by far. They are guaranteed 2 weeks paternity leave and whilst you can split the parental leave the man isn't as likely to be paid for it. This needs to be addressed. If we can help sort out the disparity in who looks after the children then I think a lot of good will come of that. And from a personal point of view, I would have loved it if we could have afforded to switch primary care giving - I think my post natal depression wouldn't have been as brutal or as long if I could have gone back to work earlier. Mlle Zabzie: to your point re: working in the home not being seen as work. I didn't want to touch that with a barge pole but it's something that C4JS has hinted at previously in this thread i.e. he seems to not consider the work within a house to not be work because it's not paid for. And tbf, it's a pervasive attitude, I think. That if a woman is a SAHM she's sitting on the settee watching Jeremy Kyle and eating jam doughnuts and nothing goes into looking after children and running a house...