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  1. Do not underestimate my ignorance. Having never melted Jello, I did not know if that was a thing you could do (much less something you could do with a meat jello.) For all I knew, this was some kind of Super Jelly and you only needed 2 tablespoons to a cup of water to create normal broth or something. (Perhaps I imagined a jiggly bouillon cube.)
  2. Wonderful! Thank you. So if a recipe calls for 1 cup of broth, how much jelly is that? Do I need to liquefy it somehow?
  3. Please advise--what is this I have made? I am a poor cook but once in a while I will get a package of chicken drumsticks and slow cook them in the oven for that 'fall off the bone' goodness. Other times I will simmer the carcass from a store rotisserie chicken to make broth which I freeze into cubes and use for various other recipes. Recently I did the drumstick thing and thought, 'what's up with all that liquid that comes off the drumsticks? can it be used as broth?' usually I just pour it out but this time I put it in a container and just shoved it in the fridge. Wanting some broth, I fetched the container and found that it was some kind of chicken jelly. What do I do with it?
  4. The relevant bit is at about 2:40: If I told people the things I want them to know, all I would get is "thank you for making my last moments socially awkward."
  5. So two people are dead over a stolen car? I have had my car stolen and I was very happy to recover it undamaged and very thankful to the police but no matter how difficult its loss would have been to me (I was supporting myself as a pizza delivery driver at the time) there is no possible way that my loss would have been worth two people killed, even if one of them was guilty. Thinking in flow charts, I see how it happened. The escalation, the protection of citizens' property, the protection of police lives, fear, poor aim, desperation. But in the aftermath you have two people killed over a car. **** It seems natural to me that we can't make generalizations about the fitness of veterans for police duty. Besides the differences of personality, there are differences stemming from assignment--some veterans went house-to-house in a foreign country where they didn't speak the language with stipulated Rules of Engagement while other veterans served behind fences. There is no perfect solution to training police. We want them to be Navy Seals and social workers and mindless drones filling out tickets all at the same time. We often use the phrase 'the best and the brightest' but we need to be realistic. There are only so many 'best and brightest' to go around. Mostly we have average people with average levels of intelligence, compassion, courage, and virtue. Maybe we need to direct our attention more to the prosecutors and jurors.
  6. I'm good at what they call 'book learning' but not good with the unwritten rules of life. At 46 years old, I still struggle with these unwritten rules. I would like to compile a guide for the naive based on the unwritten rules of society. This is all based on my experience and observation so I have no doubt that my rules will seem outrageous to others. Still, you've got to do what works best for you. #1--Show no skin. No matter how nice it is to feel wind and sun on your shoulders, any exposed skin is perceived as an invitation to ogle or some kind of vanity. It is Not OK to just enjoy bodily freedom, if you are showing skin you will be judged in unsavory ways by both sexes. #2--Sex=Love--Do Not Deviate. My females friends understood this far earlier than me--you can have sex with as many guys as you like as long as you fall in love with every one of them. All you have to do is say 'I think he could be the One' and you're covered. People may think you are stupid and naive but they will not call you a slut. Sluts are women who have sex just for fun and pleasure. #3--Hair Restraint. I keep a pony tail 98% of the time because I can't stop flipping it around and messing with it. Hair fiddling = attention-seeking, all will judge you. #4--Defense. You can dress modestly and stay on your guard but if a strange man approaches you and you are defensive, that makes you a bitch. That man plays the victim, 'why would you throat punch me? I'm a nice guy' but if you get assaulted you will not only be assaulted but people will say 'why didn't you defend yourself?' One must cultivate the art of being casual yet formidable. #5--Diplomacy. Socially men are expected to make the first move and that is a rough assignment if you consider that we all fear rejection. Nevertheless,when a guy makes the first move and it is unwelcome, women can't just say 'go fly a kite' we have to reject a man with compassion and consideration so that he doesn't slit our tires or stalk us. There could be an entire other thread about how to reject a man without inciting hatred. I hope that others will add to the list from their own experience but I do not deceive myself.
  7. Kalbear, I would appreciate it if you stopped trying to paraphrase my argument. You didn't understand my argument, you cannot restate it with accuracy.
  8. I don't want to keep sparring with you because I understand that your mind is closed to what I am trying to say but I can't help myself. Poor impulse control, I am also guilty. You don't have to give them a wank room. They will find a way. If they need it, they will have it no matter the consequences. It's more a question of asking what impact it has on the greater population and what (if anything) should be done about it. Because I can't grasp it, it must apply to every man? WTF? I did not say that or imply it. You fabricated that and attributed it to me. You are saying more about your mind than mine right now. From my experience and observation, I wouldn't say it is a majority problem but I would say that it is not uncommon. I'm not talking about the 1%, I'm talking about the 20%. I won't bog the thread down with examples. You have your own examples if you are honest. Having said that, the thread wants to move on and I don't want to stop it. We can move it to PM or just let it go. You get the last word.
  9. Yes! Finally a shred of hope of being understood. I suggested a medical solution in my first post but acknowledged that there would be resistance to that idea. How can we help people who suffer from this condition for their benefit and the benefit of all when a reduction in sexual desire is not considered a desirable outcome? In other news, I compared sexual release to breastfeeding, migraines, asthma, blindness, and depression. I don't have any of these issues but that does not excuse me from giving consideration to the needs of people who do. "A small minority related to sexual deviancy" Where have I heard that argument before?
  10. One, two, three, all missing the point. I thought that I had covered this with the analogy that 'everybody sometimes gets a headache but some people have migraines' but I guess not. I would never enter a conversation about breastfeeding and say "Not all women breastfeed. I manage to go through the day without breastfeeding and it's ridiculous to suggest that accommodations need to be made for that." It should be possible for someone to suggest that a portion of the population suffers from the condition LCK describes and suggest that even if we don't understand it, we should consider it and how we can improve the situation. If reading my post led you to paraphrase my point with this fabrication, then you didn't get it. I'm not going to argue with you about it because you don't get it.
  11. It's like you didn't understand the bit you quoted and didn't even read the rest. Right, so as an asexual person you can't understand compulsive sexual behavior. Many heterosexual people also cannot understand it. Just because I don't understand it doesn't mean that it doesn't exist or that I should be dismissive to someone who is struggling with it. Here is the Louis CK bit I referenced: I don't know what that is like. I feel fortunate that I don't. It would be the easiest thing in the world to dismiss it. "Your big problem in life is a raging need to have an orgasm? Boo-fucking-hoo." But I can't watch that clip and not feel sorry for the guy and I don't think there's anything wrong with sympathy.* *to sympathize, not to excuse. Crimes need to be punished but we should still try to understand why the crime was committed and figure out if there's anything we can do to reduce it.
  12. Starkess, I should have known you would offer the pragmatic heroism I needed. Still, yet another step to responsible foundation garment management. [sigh] Being an adult can really suck.
  13. Stop here. Dr Pepper, I don't know you and this is not personal. You have expressed what I think is a very common opinion in very succinct terms. I have issue with it but it is very much something that I am still mulling and trying to come to terms with in my own mind. For me, I can testify to having made some mistakes while horny. I would postulate that the majority of people have made such mistakes. Among those who have made horny mistakes, I hope that most of us didn't hurt anyone else. I do not apologize for anyone who hurt others. One time I was arguing with a man and asked straight up, "Don't you think women get just as horny as men?" and he replied, "No, I don't think you have any idea." Louis CK echoed this in a bit where he said [paraphrasing] "You (a woman) Get to have perverted thoughts, I Have to have them." It is echoed again in the NPR show This American Life when they presented the POV of a transsexual man taking hormones. So intellectually, I have to consider the possibility that I have no idea. You would never say to a blind person, "what's wrong with you? It's right in front of your face!" or to an asthmatic "what the fuck? Just breathe! I do it all day, every day, even when I'm asleep" or a depressed person, "come on lazy ass, just get up and do stuff!" What if some people really can't control their urgent sexual needs? Or the struggle is much harder like a person with a migraine vs. a person with a headache? This is a particular quandary because our culture values male sexual aggression. Even if there was a safe, reliable, an-aphrodisiac most people would shun it. I don't think most men would take a medication which reduced their sexual urges even if it meant a release from stress, keeping them out of jail and making them better citizens. Nevertheless, there is historical precedent to cultures struggling with this issue. In WW2 the Japanese tried to employ comfort women to this purpose, there are many rumors of saltpeter in the military or in prisons. I'm sure this article has been referenced before on this forum, especially since it contains a GRRM reference. Right now I am particularly interested in the bit "We Think you are conspiring with our boners to ruin us." It is not a woman's fault if the mere sight of her induces a sexual frenzy in a man, that is the man's problem to deal with in a respectful manner. It is also not a man's fault if he experiences chemical triggers in daily life and he needs a private wank to overcome them. I just want to see us stop throwing stones of self-righteousness for the sake of the greater good. A civilized society should have mechanisms for "What should we say about the crop reports? Oh, right--have a wank and come back to the discussion." Just like (dare I say it?) "go ahead and change your tampon and come back to the discussion." or even "call your child care provider and come back to the discussion." Ignoring our personal needs doesn't work on any level and our personal needs don't negate our ability to attend to business. We just need to find a way to dance around all this shit and get the job done. YMMV
  14. Having achieved a state of maturity wherein I have submitted to the necessity of washing one's foundation garments in a mesh bag and not putting them in the dryer (shout out to past boarders who have helped me reach this place), I am now confounded with the dichotomy of the mesh bag and the bra hook. What the suffering fuck? Hooks and mesh are natural enemies--they must clash. Who is the heroine who will provide me with an alternative such that my foundation garments may breathe freely of water and detergent and yet not tangle in this visceral conflict?
  15. Depending upon how we all react to it, Louis CK may be the one who can humanize the problem and bring both sides together. I've heard the bit in his act where he describes the sense of being a slave to his animal sexual urges. He speaks to the duality of the human experience--Good Me, Bad Me. Some of his bits are specifically disputes between Good Me/Bad Me although he characterizes them as disputes between two different people. I can't help but relate that to our culture's attitude toward female sexuality and the madonna/whore complex. Many years ago, on this very forum (although it was in ezboard days) I questioned a fellow boarder who was stuck between love and respect for his SO and the dirty stuff he wanted to do sexually. The upshot was that the sexual acts needed to be taboo in order for them to be powerful but that if his loved and respected girlfriend engaged in these acts, he could no longer respect her. Whomever the hell started all this, men and women are both trapped. Progressives want women to be free from sexual power plays and free to be sexual but the message gets confused. In this article, a woman says " She was in her early 20s and went along with his request, but later questioned his behavior. " I've got no problem with that. Is she a victim? I can't say, only she can say. Where is the line between 'he is powerful and can benefit me or destroy me' and 'sure, I'd like to see your cock'? My point here is that whichever way the political winds may blow, we need to have compassion for both sides. No one should have to endure unwanted sexual behavior from their superiors and no one should feel alone and despised because of their human nature. Because LCK honestly relates his struggles with his own duality, he makes a better candidate for compassion than others. I don't excuse him because based on his work, I don't think he excuses himself. If he can have the courage to acknowledge his misconduct and open the dialog he could have a great impact for the good. Or maybe he will submit to his handlers and go the tried-and-true route of disparaging women. I watch with interest.