Lany Freelove Cassandra

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  1. I don't have "depressive thoughts" most of the time...in fact, I have very few thoughts or feelings when I'm not actively working on something. I posted a meme on facebook once that shows the feelings of depression (anxiety, et al) and 50% of it was "nothing" (I don't think I can find it at work). I think one of the biggest misconceptions about major depressive disorder is that a person always has depressive thoughts (and next biggest is that there is an external reason why you feel that way).
  2. That's because all the black men who would be homeless are in jail. The white men who run the country are the ones giving it to them
  3. It is that time of the year again, to sign up for the ASOIAF world-wide Secret Santa. As a way of getting to know each other better and bringing us closer together, every year for the past 11 years we have had a Secret Santa "game" here at Westeros. It has been a great deal of fun, and I am proud to once again host it. You do not need to celebrate Christmas to participate. We do have a $50 US gift amount. Please be mindful that this doesn't include shipping. I highly recommend using a site such as Amazon to ship the gifts, as postage can be very expensive. I say this every year, but it needs to be said again: PLEASE ONLY SIGN UP IF YOU ARE SURE YOU CAN PARTICIPATE! You have about a month to decide. You can see how previous years worked here and here and here It works like this: 1) Sign up between Oct 1 and Nov 1; Answer at least one of the questionnaires either in the thread or send to me privately; PM me your address, even if you have played before. Unless I have permission*, I do not keep your addresses from year to year. (*if I send you Holiday Cards, I have your address) 2) Nov 1: I will use random.org to assign you a giftee; secretly find out everything you can about your giftee (questionnaire, reading their posts, etc); Buy gift(s); Ship before Dec 1 (I will post shipping deadlines provided by the US Postal Service and others); PM me when you ship (I'm pretty anal about keeping track of things 3) Receive your gift--try to guess who it is from; Post in the thread about, even if you don't open it until Christmas, so your Santa doesn't worry that the gift was lost (this has happened, gifts have even been stolen, but Amazon replaced the stolen ones, another reason to use their service) or just PM me that your gift has arrived The Santas: Lany Cassandra Zar Lannister Helena KiDisaster Rocksniffer Lily Valley Anubiel
  4. Sounds like it was a good appointment! When I had the surgery for the cancer on my face, I bled excessively, so much so that the doctor commented that I was in the top 1% of bleeders not on blood thinners that he has ever worked on. He's a plastic surgeon who specializes/deals in these types of things several times a day, so it wasn't just the normal "faces tend to bleed more" things. Turns out that I am B-12 deficient (from long term use of antacids). Not eating much red meat is another cause (not mine though, I eat lots, but people who don't can have low iron too). I looked up the issues that can result from low B-12 and depression, anxiety and even psychosis can result. So I'm glad you did a blood work up too. I started taking 1000mcg of B-12 this month, so I'm hoping they help some too. My doctor said that multi-vitamins and even B-complex ones don't really contain much B-12, so a supplement that is just B-12 should be taken.
  5. I always thought it was "in like Flynn" and for some reason I thought it was about Earl Flynn
  6. This is so me at the end of my days. I've taking to do this too. I have 1 1/2 days worth of yard/house work to do, and I've broken it up to do over a week (plus the weekend if needed). I also know that after I stop for lunch, I'm not going to continue. No matter what I do, once I stop, I can't seem to manage to start again. I end up worse off and doing less if I try to do too much and fail. Then it's a complete shut down for months. I'm lucky if I get my laundry done, and only running out of clean underwear forces me to do it. I considered buying more, that would be more work than laundry.
  7. I spent the last two months reading tons of easy, escapist books - the kind that you read in 3-4 hours. A book a day (2 a day on weekends) on the nook at an average of $8 for two months made for a shocking credit card bill. I tell myself I am doing better, but when I do stuff like that there is obviously still a problem. But really, I am managing ok. (or rather I am managing work, and that takes every bit of willpower I have, so by time I get home, I have nothing left. But if I don't take my meds on weekends, I can't hardly manage getting off the couch, so my meds do work, but I'm at the max dose. Then last week my 15 yr old son left his sketch book open on the living room floor, and on the open page he had written what I thought at first was a poem about being depressed, but it turned out to be more of a letter to us. It started with "I lie to my friends. I lie to everyone, even myself." he then went on to say how he felt broken, that he just wanted to start over, to not be who he is. I could have written that myself. My heart broke for him. I put aside all my guilt, and talked to him about how he feels, that he's not alone, that we can get him counselling if he wants. He really doesn't want to, so I printed out a guide to teenage depression, a list of things for them to do (and not do) to help and we talked about it over dinner. I told him I have all the same feelings too, and that we will work together to get through it and make changes in our lives that hopefully will help. I did make him agree that if he hasn't noticed any improvement by the end of the year, we will see a counselor. It's hard, but we are working together. I am making him spend an hour with me every night with no screens. We're starting a tai chi dvd (he has P.E. this quarter, so he is exercising, but I thought it good to start this so it will continue when the quarter ends soon), coloring (I got him a swear word coloring book because all the others seemed rather girly and I didn't think he'd use them if he didn't like them), (both also for the meditative aspects) and I'm making better dinners (I could (and frequently do) skip dinner and just let him eat some leftovers or more often something frozen and quick to fix-without veggies) He actually went out and hung out with a friend after school yesterday instead of just getting on the computer and his friend called his boss at "Land of Fear" since they are looking for another zombie and Alex has an interview Friday afternoon. It's just an October job on Friday nights and weekends, but he's excited: "I'll even get paid money" but the getting out of the house will be so good for him. Jobs are very limited for 15 yr olds, but I hope he likes the "doing" of something and will try and find something after this gig is up. (I've told him to ask where his friends volunteer and do some of that too) It's a long process, and my husband doesn't really get depression, no matter how many times I've told him over the years, so Alex and I are doing this on our own.
  8. Thanks guys. For 5 years I felt pretty worthless dealing with periods of unemployment and temp jobs. I was sure I was going to have a horrible substandard job I hated the rest of my life. My confidence had been shot, I was turned down for a 2 month job re-organizing a Target store at night. That was my lowest point (I had an interview for that job, so it was a true rejection). My point in posting was not only to say thank you to my supporters, but to say to those struggling with the same problem to keep faith in yourself, don't give up.
  9. Questionnaire: Favorite Type of Food (i.e. Italian, Mexican, McDonald's, Burger King, etc): Favorite Scent (i.e. Fruity, Vanilla, Flowery, etc): Favorite Hobby (i.e. Scrap booking, Photography, things you collect, etc): Favorite books or types (romance, true store, mystery or just one you would like): Favorite animal: Favorite movies or types (romance, comedy or just a DVD/VHS you would like): Favorite Music Artist/Type or a CD you would like: Do you collect anything? Is there anything (not expensive) you want or need? What is your favorite: a. Color? b. Type of candy? c. Type of munchie? d. Puzzle to do? Do you collect anything for Christmas? (i.e. certain types of ornaments, nativities, snowmen...etc.) . What type of hobbies do you have? If you were going to theme Christmas with just one word... what would it be? Big family Christmas with everyone down to 2nd cousins...or just immediate family in their jammies? Favorite Christmas movie and why? Religious or non-religious Christmas/Chaunaka/ If you could spend Christmas in any one of these places, which one would you choose and why: a. A beach on a tropical island just a few very close family or friends, be lazy and open presents and then have a non traditional dinner including Pina Coladas and BBQ shrimp, wearing swimsuits, Bermuda shorts and tank tops b. Tiny cabin in the woods, fire going, very rustic, warm and cozy with your close family and friends, wearing jeans and sweaters. c. Biltmore Estates, full regalia, all glitter and glitz, all your close family and friends, wearing black tie and velvet d. NYC Christmas, Park Avenue, last minute hustle and bustle, haute couture with a 4 course meal and champagne with 50 of your favorite people. Wearing, of course. the latest fashion favorites. Favorite Christmas music What is your Christmas morning like" a. chaotic b. slow and relaxed c. organized, but fast paced d. "Christmas is HOW SOON???!!!!" e. all of the above. Name something you want but will never buy for yourself, just because you cannot see yourself being that flamboyant. What sizes do you wear (optional answer if you would prefer to not have clothing) What colors are in your home: What style is your home decorated in? (i.e. ethnic, country, southwestern...etc Anything else your SS should know about you? Do you have any wish lists?
  10. Shipping is at an all time high, so I have a list of links of places you can order from in various countries (you do not have to use these, it is just an extra thing I thought might help). If you know of any good sites for specific countries let me know and I will add them to the list. US: https://www.amazon.com/ Australia: http://shopping.kadaza.com.au/ Canada: http://www.amazon.ca/ http://www.shop.ca/ Germany: http://www.amazon.de/ Great Britian: http://www.amazon.co.uk/ India: http://shopping.rediff.com/shopping/index.html http://www.homeshop18.com/ http://www.flipkart.com/ http://www.amazon.in/ For the best Geeky Gifts, two of my favorite sites http://www.thinkgeek.com/ http://www.dudeiwantthat.com/
  11. I’ve been at this job for almost 16 months now. I mentioned back in March that I received a really great annual review, and a slightly higher than average annual increase. I’ve continued to learn new things (#1 being Business Objects/Web Intelligence – database-when I previously knew nothing about databases—and have been able to create some excellent reports that were much needed. No one else on the team was able to do this (the lady I replaced was the expert)), worked the deal that earned the company a pretty penny (so many pennies it was mentioned in the 2nd qtr earnings report), and just keep showing them that I was indeed the right person to hire. I’ve done such a good job of convincing them of this that I have received an unheard of mid-year raise –4.6% which is even bigger than my bigger than average annual increase. I am over the moon. I don’t think I have ever had a job where I always felt so valued and appreciated. So once again, a huge thank you to all of you who put up with my anxieties when I turned down the other position I had been offered while waiting for this one to post the job opening, helped me with the interview process, and just offered luck and prayers. I love you guys!
  12. Yes, it makes sense to me too. And it's not just the 50's but early 50's, divorce laws were complicated. It wasn't until 1969 that a person could even get a no-fault divorce. While the divorce rate may have been raising, and around 25%, divorce laws were fairly strict and greatly favored the man, especially in terms of support. From Clare's POV, she was new to America, not a citizen, not employed, and with no means of support. She has no living family. Any spousal support would have been minimum, and she could have lost custody of the baby too. Why Frank stayed with her is a different issue. She was a status symbol (like the other woman had mentioned in the previous episode), but Frank also wanted a family*. He cares about how his reputation too. His wife returns to him after several years of being missing and he would have been viewed a total cad to have abandoned her. I think he really did love her when they married, and maybe even so after the war. They had such a short time together though and then several more years of separation, he tried very hard to still love her when she first came back (I always felt he was in love with the idea of her). *it's been a while since I read the books, but I think it is hinted that he may have had some sort of fertility issue
  13. I play with strangers all the time. I've become friends with a couple of them
  14. We always do big groups too. Like Kalbear, we use facebook messenger and discord to co-ordinate them (ok, I don't use discord, but some of our group do, and they then post in the messenger group) What's an EX raid pass? I know a lot of people in my area bought a ton of raid passes when they had the special deals last month.
  15. I've been playing in the early mornings or an occasional raid in the late evenings since my skin cancer surgery. I had to put basically oil on the scar line for a few weeks, and can't really have any sun/heat exposure. Now that school has started again, I can't do my early mornings any more (I have to get my son up for school and make sure he gets on the bus, and that gives just enough time to get to work) Never did catch a Moltres I hope they come back again (they would have to at some point, for new players who join) Made my first attempt at a Raikou last night and failed.
  16. I plan to be there!
  17. I miss the game, but between work and other issues, I don't think I have the energy.
  18. MORE EVENTS! I really want to do the one in Philadelphia. Since it's on a Saturday, that really shouldn't be too much of a problem. (it's a 2 1/2 hr drive for me)
  19. Funny you say that, the medical/surgical assistant my doctor used the other day shares your name, and she was barely 22. I admit I was kind of surprised (would be the same reaction if she shared my name as it also falls in that group )
  20. no, they are new - caught/hatched within the past 24 hours
  21. I really don't like that "exclusive raid" thing. I'm going to be pretty limited in my ability to hit gyms the next 2 weeks. ok, but at least 1 weeks, which means I won't likely get many invites
  22. I think they would have to, otherwise no one new would ever sign up knowing they won't get a chance at them
  23. Glad you got an offer *hugs* good luck with your hunting!
  24. I hear ya. today some drama broke out on my local pokemon facebook group. It seemed really silly and stupid over a misunderstanding about someone being someone's son or something (seriously). (it was an older woman who hasn't yet figured out to not post drama on fb) and the funniest part, she said she'd be proud to be his mother...so then why all the drama? (by older, I mean she's likely in my age group, maybe just a bit older) eta: I am not as old as most people my age