Red Tiger Posted February 1, 2016 Share Posted February 1, 2016 24 minutes ago, Arkhangel said: How is what? Dating? Sex? Being a twelve year old boy? Because that last one is honestly pretty tricky as a 25 year old woman, but I'm giving it my best shot. LOL, I meant dating, off course. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Arkhangel Posted February 1, 2016 Share Posted February 1, 2016 Er, fine? Had a nice if unremarkable second coffee date on Saturday, then met a guy playing this game where you run around the city solving clues and we're going for drinks soon. Nothing spectacular, but it's ticking along. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The guy from the Vale Posted February 2, 2016 Share Posted February 2, 2016 Darn. She texted me today, saying she doesn't have time tomorrow as she's dealing with some personal matters. What those matters are I can only guess. I told her to contact me once those problems are dealt with, but that I'd also be happy to offer her a drink and a talk anyway in case she wanted some distraction. I guess I left the ball in her court; we'll see where that goes. If I don't hear from her for two weeks, I may give her another call and ask if she's still up for it; if she isn't, I guess I'll just let it rest. Still, I've had some hopes for this to work out, and so today's message stung a fair bit. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Arch-MaesterPhilip Posted February 3, 2016 Share Posted February 3, 2016 So the woman from work ultimately flaked out on going to the Ranger game with me. I found a taker so the ticket isn't going to waste at least. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lily Valley Posted February 3, 2016 Share Posted February 3, 2016 4 hours ago, Mandy said: I would be happy just to have a dinner like that with you guys lol One of these days Mandy! I'd like to get back to Austin when it wasn't 23 degrees out. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ravenhair Posted February 3, 2016 Share Posted February 3, 2016 9 hours ago, Mandy said: I would be happy just to have a dinner like that with you guys lol Come see us then. You have a place to stay; you know that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wise Fool Posted February 3, 2016 Share Posted February 3, 2016 On 1/31/2016 at 3:17 PM, Ded As Ned said: On a whim, I just signed back up for plenty of fish and okcupid (where I met my rebound fling/friend a few years ago), to browse. I'd forgotten how many crazy scary people there are out there. I'm on both of these things now. I forgot how utterly depressing it is to see an endless supply of strangers, firing off one message, then another, then another with the simple hopes of initiating some sort of human contact, only to meet the wall of silence. It's so sad. I'm not even looking for anything but friends now, because the friends I have are... distant. For various reasons. And it's all quite lonely. But nobody likes lonely, sad people - they're needy. So the cycle just continues. I have to overcome loneliness somehow, but in such a way that involves nobody else. Years of no intimacy. Years. But the rule seems to be, I can't let that motivate me. Nossir, doesn't motivate me, doesn't bother me, I'm just a cool customer. Nonsense. I hate pretending. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TerraPrime Posted February 3, 2016 Share Posted February 3, 2016 Being with emotionally needy people does two things to me: 1. It scares me to no end that someone else's happiness depends so much on my words and actions. It stresses me out. I chose not to go into medicine because I don't like being in control over someone's life and death. Same anxiety applies here. 2. It wears me out. I am mostly an introvert and value alone time. A lot of alone time. Emotionally needy people make me feel that my space is being violated. There's a reason I am more a cat person than I am a dog person, and why I chose not to have children. People's mileage may vary. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The guy from the Vale Posted February 3, 2016 Share Posted February 3, 2016 I guess fortune really favors the bold. Had some e-mail sent back and forth with her today about some things that still need to be done by me retroactively (which wasn't unexpected). She seemed quite exasperated, so at some point I just wrote a PS: "You sure you don't want to come for drinks at 6pm?" To which the response was "Guess it'll do me some good. Only got half an hour though." (paraphrasing here). Still it was a nice enough chat, and I will try to invite her again for next week. We'll see where all of that goes. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Marcus Agrippa Posted February 3, 2016 Share Posted February 3, 2016 On 1/22/2016 at 6:45 PM, Theda Baratheon said: When I say there was no chemistry I mean like zero. No easy casual chemistry. Not even friendship chemistry D: I don't know if I even wanna hang out with him and I mentioned I'm moving back to cornwall for a bit where he's also from so I feel like ive accidentaly led him on or something and I feel horrible It's okay, we guys are dense. He'll get over it eventually. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Red Tiger Posted February 3, 2016 Share Posted February 3, 2016 21 minutes ago, Marcus Agrippa said: It's okay, we guys are dense. He'll get over it eventually. ....Well, when you're right, you're right. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
karaddin Posted February 4, 2016 Share Posted February 4, 2016 9 hours ago, TerraPrime said: Being with emotionally needy people does two things to me: 1. It scares me to no end that someone else's happiness depends so much on my words and actions. It stresses me out. I chose not to go into medicine because I don't like being in control over someone's life and death. Same anxiety applies here. 2. It wears me out. I am mostly an introvert and value alone time. A lot of alone time. Emotionally needy people make me feel that my space is being violated. There's a reason I am more a cat person than I am a dog person, and why I chose not to have children. People's mileage may vary. I'm also an introvert that's a cat person and has never wanted kids, yet I'm hugely emotionally needy I'm also a very open person generally though, I like deep intimate connections when I do socialise with people. I'm also quite open to the idea of falling in love with a second person for how I'm doing polyamory. As you say, mileage may and does in fact vary. I also have emotional modulation issues (part of the sensory modulation issues) so anything I feel is an overpowering torrent, it makes it hard to stay detached. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Arch-MaesterPhilip Posted February 5, 2016 Share Posted February 5, 2016 So I was ultimately stood up by the woman who agreed to go to the hockey game. I went to MSG and gave the tickets to a couple of foreign tourists. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TerraPrime Posted February 5, 2016 Share Posted February 5, 2016 Sorry to hear, AMP. :-( Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Arch-MaesterPhilip Posted February 5, 2016 Share Posted February 5, 2016 28 minutes ago, TerraPrime said: Sorry to hear, AMP. :-( I was still going to go and say fuck it but a friend got diagnosed with cancer today so just couldn't enjoy myself. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Arch-MaesterPhilip Posted February 5, 2016 Share Posted February 5, 2016 I'm not upset about getting stood up honestly. That means nothing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wise Fool Posted February 5, 2016 Share Posted February 5, 2016 oh my god already. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The guy from the Vale Posted February 5, 2016 Share Posted February 5, 2016 Second date agreed on. Also, Friday evening at last. My new work is killing me. Otoh, it's far more interesting than what I did before, so there's that. Can I say I'm happier than I've been in months, if not years? I guess I can... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mr. Chatywin et al. Posted February 5, 2016 Share Posted February 5, 2016 18 hours ago, Arch-MaesterPhilip said: So I was ultimately stood up by the woman who agreed to go to the hockey game. I went to MSG and gave the tickets to a couple of foreign tourists. Sorry to hear about this and your friend. I just wanted to give you one quick piece of advice. Offering to take her to a hockey game is a bad idea for a first date, even if you already know the person. That's better left for a 3rd or 4th date. It might not seem obvious, but a first date offer like that can put a lot of pressure on a person. 39 minutes ago, theguyfromtheVale said: Second date agreed on. Also, Friday evening at last. My new work is killing me. Otoh, it's far more interesting than what I did before, so there's that. Can I say I'm happier than I've been in months, if not years? I guess I can... Congrats man! I'm happy to hear that and I hope it goes well for you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The guy from the Vale Posted February 5, 2016 Share Posted February 5, 2016 The best part that it wasn't me who proposed that second date Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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