TerraPrime Posted January 13, 2016 Author Share Posted January 13, 2016 Fabulous. :-) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
First of My Name Posted January 13, 2016 Share Posted January 13, 2016 Thanks for all the reactions. I feel confident that this is the best way to tell them; I'm sure it'd be a long time before I could gather up the courage to do it in person. I'm going to put more thought into this after test week at school ends so I can make a balanced decision. I'll let you guys know what it's going to be.Reading that article about Russia is making me so fucking pissed. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ellstaysia Posted January 16, 2016 Share Posted January 16, 2016 the things I read about russia in regards to queer oppression scare the shit out of me! so much love & bravery to any homos or trans folks resisting in the face of overwhelming violence & bigotry.hope everyone has had an all right week though. curious to hear how you're doing first of his name. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
First of My Name Posted January 19, 2016 Share Posted January 19, 2016 On 16-1-2016 at 2:56 PM, ellstaysia said: the things I read about russia in regards to queer oppression scare the shit out of me! so much love & bravery to any homos or trans folks resisting in the face of overwhelming violence & bigotry. hope everyone has had an all right week though. curious to hear how you're doing first of his name. I'm doing great but the desire to come out kind of faded away after a very busy week. It'll probably pop up again in three weeks or something, I'll re-consider it then. But right now I'm getting along better with my friends than I have in months and it doesn't feel like the right time to drop this bombshell. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TrackerNeil Posted January 19, 2016 Share Posted January 19, 2016 33 minutes ago, First of My Name said: I'm doing great but the desire to come out kind of faded away after a very busy week. It'll probably pop up again in three weeks or something, I'll re-consider it then. But right now I'm getting along better with my friends than I have in months and it doesn't feel like the right time to drop this bombshell. I don't think there's ever an optimal time to come out, but there are definitely better and worse. In any case, any time you are not feeling into it is a bad time to come out. Speaking of bad times to come out, I would like to bring up bad ways to receive the news. (I don't know how many straight folks are reading this thread, but if some are, take note.) One person I came out to took the opportunity to lecture me on how to judge who to come out to. So I'd be safe. This was back in the early 90s when the term "straightsplaining" had yet to be invented, but that's what happened to me. I learned from that the only good response to a coming out: acceptance, support, affection--and no goddamn advice. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lord Lannister Posted January 21, 2016 Share Posted January 21, 2016 Maybe I'm just tired, but I was expecting this thread to be about cats. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TerraPrime Posted January 21, 2016 Author Share Posted January 21, 2016 10 hours ago, Lord Lannister said: Maybe I'm just tired, but I was expecting this thread to be about cats. The thread is only two pages long. Give it time. *meow* Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TrackerNeil Posted January 21, 2016 Share Posted January 21, 2016 19 minutes ago, TerraPrime said: The thread is only two pages long. Give it time. *meow* Sooner or later, everything on the Internet becomes about cats or porn. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Robin Of House Hill Posted January 28, 2016 Share Posted January 28, 2016 On 1/9/2016 at 1:46 PM, TerraPrime said: Robin: Language evolves. C'est la vie. I, like you, actually prefer the use of transsexual over transgender. But that boat has sailed. As for "transwoman," I think it will depend on the context. If it's chosen as a self-identifier, then I have no problem with it. If it's used in a context to alienate, then yes, that's a problem. TP, Sorry it has taken me so long to respond, but having just moved, I've been a bit distracted by getting things back to normal. That didn't sail. It was intentionally sunk. But, I have to admit that there may be no way to repair that damage. If one says trans woman, it is similar to saying tall woman, white woman, old woman, married woman. They all reference woman. When someone says transwoman, they have created a separate category, altogether. I can't say it intentionally alienates, but it does intentionally separate. I don't think that is a good thing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
karaddin Posted January 28, 2016 Share Posted January 28, 2016 For what it's worth I don't like it either. I'm not going to correct a trans woman who uses it, but I won't like it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Robin Of House Hill Posted January 28, 2016 Share Posted January 28, 2016 Actually, knowing I'm not the only one who doesn't like it, is worth quite a lot, to me. What I can't understand is that all those folks who are offended if transgender is used as a noun, haven't said a word about transwoman. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
karaddin Posted January 28, 2016 Share Posted January 28, 2016 If it's other trans women using it maybe they feel the same as me. I wouldn't call another trans person out for using transgender as a noun either even though the really bothers me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Weeping Sore Posted January 28, 2016 Share Posted January 28, 2016 To the extent that anyone cares, I am identifying as male again. Thinking of myself as transgender has either been a locus of psycho-sexual anxiety that I've been unpacking in a different way recently, or I'm some kind of long-sine-wave-genderfluid person. I believe that to an extent I had been conflating transvestic fetishism with being transgender. Oddly enough that doesn't have much of a charge for me anymore either, perhaps now that it doesn't bear with it the drama of a potentially life-changing transition. So on a level I feel like I've been making a fool out of myself, but I think there has been value in a journey even if it's more of a round trip. Anyway, all the best to the community here as I haven't been actively posting in awhile. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TerraPrime Posted January 28, 2016 Author Share Posted January 28, 2016 Sometimes the destination to the journey is not what you think it is, and that's okay too. :-) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lily Valley Posted January 28, 2016 Share Posted January 28, 2016 2 hours ago, Weeping Sore said: To the extent that anyone cares, I am identifying as male again. Thinking of myself as transgender has either been a locus of psycho-sexual anxiety that I've been unpacking in a different way recently, or I'm some kind of long-sine-wave-genderfluid person. I believe that to an extent I had been conflating transvestic fetishism with being transgender. Oddly enough that doesn't have much of a charge for me anymore either, perhaps now that it doesn't bear with it the drama of a potentially life-changing transition. So on a level I feel like I've been making a fool out of myself, but I think there has been value in a journey even if it's more of a round trip. Anyway, all the best to the community here as I haven't been actively posting in awhile. Well, I've certainly missed you. Glad to hear you're feeling some resolution, even if it winds up being being temporary. Nothing foolish about it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Xray the Enforcer Posted January 29, 2016 Share Posted January 29, 2016 42 minutes ago, TerraPrime said: Sometimes the destination to the journey is not what you think it is, and that's okay too. :-) Could not have said it better myself. It's great to see you posting again. I've missed your snark. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Weeping Sore Posted January 29, 2016 Share Posted January 29, 2016 @TerraPrime Thank you, Gay Godfather. @Lily Valley Missed you too, love . @Xray the Enforcer Thanks, Xray. I always appreciate your support. We might head your way soon... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rocksniffer Posted January 30, 2016 Share Posted January 30, 2016 sniffing through just to show support for all who love to ... well love Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Robin Of House Hill Posted February 2, 2016 Share Posted February 2, 2016 So, the latest X Files episode has a drag queen portray a trans person as a stereotypical sex worker, so they can get in a joke about underwear, and then have Fox Mulder give a horrendous explanation about transgender, so they can joke about surgery. Is this the progress I keep hearing about? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
karaddin Posted February 2, 2016 Share Posted February 2, 2016 Robin I'm angry with you (as in sharing your anger) up until that jab at the end. I've pointed out the impact progress has had on me personally, I see plenty of evidence of it in those around me, and I see a backlash against us and shitty media portrayals. In the case of the latter the progress is that that isn't all there is. The shitty things don't invalidate the good, it's a complex world. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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