Weeping Sore Posted October 3, 2016 Share Posted October 3, 2016 23 minutes ago, Theda Baratheon said: LOL!! A few hours ago I had all my hair shaved off!!!! Right on! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Theda Baratheon Posted October 3, 2016 Share Posted October 3, 2016 26 minutes ago, Weeping Sore said: Right on! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Robin Of House Hill Posted October 4, 2016 Share Posted October 4, 2016 On 10/1/2016 at 8:12 AM, karaddin said: Feeling outside the community can be so hard, in my case I feel like I missed the entry age for it and now even if a space is trans inclusive its just so hard to introduce yourself cold and join in as a huge introvert when social groups are already formed and not really looking for new people. 4 I wasn't going to say anything till I saw this. I've always found myself feeling outside community. I tried to change that but came to realize that what worked for the community, simply didn't work for me. What should have been "us," was, in reality, "me and them," and was in danger of becoming "me vs. them." So I just shut up. I transitioned in an era when there was no community. I lived as an individual. From 1985 till 2014, I didn't have a face to face conversation with another trans person. It was the most stress and anxiety-free time in my life. When it comes to degrees of introversion, I think I've got you beat. Maybe I need a t-shirt that reads, "Doesn't play well with others." Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Xray the Enforcer Posted October 4, 2016 Share Posted October 4, 2016 Theda -- I have a lot of thoughts on this, but am having a very difficult time at articulating them. Just want to send you Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Weeping Sore Posted October 5, 2016 Share Posted October 5, 2016 I think "the community" is to a certain extent imaginary- it's not as if there's an all-welcoming throng of queers waiting for you to say the magic word so they can press you to their bosom and you'll never be lonely again. I mean there are individuals that you happen to have something in common with, but you could meet a lesbian or bi girl that doesn't like Blade Runner, and then what good would that do? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Theda Baratheon Posted October 5, 2016 Share Posted October 5, 2016 2 hours ago, Weeping Sore said: I think "the community" is to a certain extent imaginary- it's not as if there's an all-welcoming throng of queers waiting for you to say the magic word so they can press you to their bosom and you'll never be lonely again. I mean there are individuals that you happen to have something in common with, but you could meet a lesbian or bi girl that doesn't like Blade Runner, and then what good would that do? IN THE BIN i won't be friends with such folks (kidding) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
karaddin Posted October 6, 2016 Share Posted October 6, 2016 15 hours ago, Weeping Sore said: I think "the community" is to a certain extent imaginary- it's not as if there's an all-welcoming throng of queers waiting for you to say the magic word so they can press you to their bosom and you'll never be lonely again. I mean there are individuals that you happen to have something in common with, but you could meet a lesbian or bi girl that doesn't like Blade Runner, and then what good would that do? I certainly don't think that it's a universal community where everyone is all friends together in this one massive social circle, but at least in Sydney there is certainly *a* community with various social circles with varying levels of intersection. They're shaped by the age groups of the people they contain along with their temperament and desires, and given I live in the lesbian heartland of Sydney I'm around a lot of said community enough to recognise it. That said I guess I'd say I'm genuinely part of that community at this point, but its harder getting into any one of the already established social circles within it. Also given my heavily online self, and that I feel younger in my queer identity than my age, I'm much more connected with the social circles substantially younger that also lean heavily into online presences. In terms of section I feel more comfortable in vs one I feel less so: I just moved from the younger, more inner city area (right next to Sydney Uni, expensive but still public housing around etc - its complicated mix) and I pretty much had always felt comfortable with my local cafe there. My crush/turned into friend works there and so on. Moved 1.5 suburbs away and its a slightly older community, instead of students a lot of the queer ladies there have started families, a lot of kids around and so on, and the local cafe at the new place is even more overtly LGBTQI but it's older demographically. A lot of the women around it are much more masculine in expression (while there are a lot more femmes and non-binary peeps in my younger circles), and I feel a complicated mix of anxiety around fear of rejection in the new one. Its probably irrational, but it comes down to different chunks within "the community". Martha - would love to hear your thoughts on it as well when you feel up to articulating it. I don't want to be the first to talk Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Weeping Sore Posted October 7, 2016 Share Posted October 7, 2016 Obviously you're not going to feel a part of a community unless you're open to it. But still, the bi experience can be like "always a tourist, never at home". Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Theda Baratheon Posted October 7, 2016 Share Posted October 7, 2016 31 minutes ago, Weeping Sore said: Obviously you're not going to feel a part of a community unless you're open to it. But still, the bi experience can be like "always a tourist, never at home". Yeah. Saw two LGBT writers on BBC last night actually and might have inadvertently outed myself by showing extreme interest when biphobia was spoken about and kept replaying it lmao Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sivin Posted October 18, 2016 Share Posted October 18, 2016 Hi, all. Doing my semi-annual checkup on the board. Been on hormones for like 6 months, pretty cool. I've got squishy hips/butt now which is great. I've also got boobs that cannot be dismissed as 'man', which is great. But the most striking change to me is my face. Much softer, but also more lean and defined. After I shave I almost feel confident when I look in the mirror. That 3 month or so high from the hormones has been gone for... like 3 months, but it was nice when it lasted. I'm making some money now and am almost optimistic about the future. My thanks to you guys for helping me out in a number of ways. Oh, and I'm even losing weight. I'm down about 20 pounds or so from mid summer. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Weeping Sore Posted October 18, 2016 Share Posted October 18, 2016 @Sivin Congrats on your courage. I'm glad you're happy with the way things are going. I'm wavering on a knife's edge myself, with a literal do or die feeling coming up more and more. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Xray the Enforcer Posted October 19, 2016 Share Posted October 19, 2016 @Sivin Glad to hear that things are going well. Sending good thoughts your way. @Weeping Sore I hope things get more tolerable for you, no matter what you choose. Good luck and lots of love to the both of you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Weeping Sore Posted October 19, 2016 Share Posted October 19, 2016 10 hours ago, Xray the Enforcer said: I hope things get more tolerable for you, no matter what you choose. Good luck and lots of love to the both of you. Thanks for the kind words, honey. Tarot card of the day is Strength. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
felice Posted October 19, 2016 Share Posted October 19, 2016 If anyone's interested in genderqueer fiction, could you consider supporting this? I know the editor, and they're pretty cool. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Maester Drew Posted October 20, 2016 Share Posted October 20, 2016 From Queerty: Are Gay Rights No Longer a Wedge Issue? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Weeping Sore Posted October 20, 2016 Share Posted October 20, 2016 13 hours ago, Maester Drew said: From Queerty: Are Gay Rights No Longer a Wedge Issue? Maybe Trump doesn't care, but if conservatives no longer have a problem with LGBT people, where did the bathroom bills come from? I think it's just a case of the headline over-stating what's in the article. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Theda Baratheon Posted October 20, 2016 Share Posted October 20, 2016 On 18/10/2016 at 8:47 PM, Weeping Sore said: I'm wavering on a knife's edge myself sending you love and good thoughts Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Maester Drew Posted October 20, 2016 Share Posted October 20, 2016 3 hours ago, Weeping Sore said: Maybe Trump doesn't care, but if conservatives no longer have a problem with LGBT people, where did the bathroom bills come from? I think it's just a case of the headline over-stating what's in the article. Queerty was specifically talking about gay rights/issues, not LGBT rights in general (which would include trans rights/issues). But I can see your point, which baffles me as to why these bathroom bills didn't have more presence during the debates. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Weeping Sore Posted October 20, 2016 Share Posted October 20, 2016 2 hours ago, Theda Baratheon said: sending you love and good thoughts Thanks, Theda- the hair looks rad, btw! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Theda Baratheon Posted October 20, 2016 Share Posted October 20, 2016 Just now, Weeping Sore said: Thanks, Theda- the hair looks rad, btw! Thank you! <3 I love it! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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