Yukle Posted November 13, 2016 Share Posted November 13, 2016 16 minutes ago, Xray the Enforcer said: This is not true for quality bras -- which sadly US chain stores seem to carry very few of. Same in Australia. Or the ones they do have are reeeeaaaaaallly expensive. I usually opt for too big, rather than too small. I'm at 12C (seems like sizing is different Down Under), which is... not my actual cup size. I can either go down to a 10 band and suffocate or go larger with cups, which I do, and find that I have to let the proud ladies jiggle a bit more than I'm entirely comfortable with. I find I often pad out slightly because I'm not at all well-endowed and I kind of prefer the look of a bit more volume. Edited to add: When it comes to underwear it can be really tricky to buy online. It's kind of a hard thing to do, given inconsistent sizing, and it can be quite expensive to go with trial and error. The best thing I can think of is to find something that you like and maybe try paying before trying on, or offering to, just to show that you're serious. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Xray the Enforcer Posted November 13, 2016 Share Posted November 13, 2016 12 minutes ago, karaddin said: I think I was too busy swooning when we met to really pay attention to how much make up you were wearing, so it clearly works anyway I am sure it was the klieg lighting aesthetic in the convention center that gave my complexion such a healthy glow. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
karaddin Posted November 13, 2016 Share Posted November 13, 2016 yes I'm sure that was it. I fall between sizes as well in bras, 14DD is a tiny bit tight around my ribs, but 16D slips out of position all the time so I go with the former (38DD and 40D I think in US sizing). Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sivin Posted November 13, 2016 Share Posted November 13, 2016 6 hours ago, Dr. Pepper said: omigosh, tiny town. I'm already freaking out just at the idea of maybe moving to the Chattanooga area soon. It's pretty rural. I keep getting told that Chattanooga is nice, and I drive through it at least once a week, but I can say little. I know they have a Popeyes chicken. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Xray the Enforcer Posted November 13, 2016 Share Posted November 13, 2016 They also have a Sephora so you can get your makeup on. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sivin Posted November 13, 2016 Share Posted November 13, 2016 12 minutes ago, Xray the Enforcer said: They also have a Sephora so you can get your makeup on. Using contextual clues and my Beautiful Mind style knowledge of the Epic Rap Battles, I can assume Sephora is a beauty parlor. Possibly specializing in some kind of eye makeup? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dr. Pepper Posted November 13, 2016 Share Posted November 13, 2016 48 minutes ago, Sivin said: It's pretty rural. I keep getting told that Chattanooga is nice, and I drive through it at least once a week, but I can say little. I know they have a Popeyes chicken. I also don't really have much opinion about Chattanooga, either. The few times I've been up there have been bad weekends weather wise. This weekend there are thousands of acres of wildfires so the entire area was cloaked in smoke. But there was an anti-Trump rally and there seems to be a rather large number of gay couples in the surrounding areas (at least for small city/rural town bible belt area). My gf's work has been moved up there, hence my considering moving up there too. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Theda Baratheon Posted November 13, 2016 Share Posted November 13, 2016 Late to party but you can definitely do jeans and t-shirt/casual clothes and be very feminine. All I wear is jeans and t shirts and doc martens and jumpers AND I have a shaved head AND I wouldn't even call myself tomboy looking and still feel and an happy with being very feminine Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Xray the Enforcer Posted November 13, 2016 Share Posted November 13, 2016 1 hour ago, Sivin said: Using contextual clues and my Beautiful Mind style knowledge of the Epic Rap Battles, I can assume Sephora is a beauty parlor. Possibly specializing in some kind of eye makeup? It's a chain of stores that carry a lot of different beauty brands. And you can go in there and get a makeover. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sivin Posted November 14, 2016 Share Posted November 14, 2016 You guys managed in a weekend what my shrinks have been failing at for a year. I bought a pair of Womens jeans, though results are inconclusive. Unfortunately they did not fit, but because the were too large! Perhaps there is hope for me yet. I need to outfit myself with more information before attacking again, but the pants in question were a 31" inseam and 22W (I believe that is waist size measurement) The 31 " was at least 2 inches too long, and they were very baggy overall. Believe it or not, I am encouraged. For 25 bucks I found out that I am not completely unable to wear store bought clothes. Now it is just a matter of dialing in the appropriate sizes. You all have my most sincere thanks. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SerHaHa Posted November 14, 2016 Share Posted November 14, 2016 Quote So, this is a request of advice for you nice people. I'm currently in my fourth out of six year of medicine but I'm considering changing my studies. I was in a bad place during my last years of high school, so I basically let my clueless (or not?) parents decide my university for me. Unfortunately I have always felt extremely dissatisfied with medicine and I'm still trying to gather enough courage to quit (therapy is helping, thankfully). Problem is, I basically have no idea about what to do. I realized that gender studies are one of the very few things that never fail to interest me and I am actually passionate about, but what kind of studies could bring me there? Consider that here in my country this is still a niche topic. This post caught my eye. My opinion is this: I think you should stick it out in medicine right now. Firstly, only 2 years left to go on a 6 year sentence, it makes a lot of sense from this perspective. More importantly though, your interest in gender studies - you can do more from being inside the medical establishment for gender rights, as well as pushing forward medical research in this field of study, than you can outside of it. There are still many in the medical community that feel that biology dictates only a binary solution set, 1/0, male/female, and particular in the field of psychology, where some still cling to old ideas that sex/gender are the same, etc. Not all, perhaps no longer even a majority, but still a sizable number of backwards thinkers. This being the case, again IMO, I feel that you have both the chance and the potential to do much good work if you stick it out and finish your next 2 years, and then focus on the area of gender within the medical community in some element or another. My parents too were big on pushing me towards medicine, but I was fortunate enough to convince both them and myself to follow the path I truly wanted, but I commend you for going so far in a difficult program, in any country. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Yukle Posted November 20, 2016 Share Posted November 20, 2016 On 14 November 2016 at 7:32 PM, Sivin said: I bought a pair of Womens jeans, though results are inconclusive. Unfortunately they did not fit, but because the were too large! Perhaps there is hope for me yet. ... The 31 " was at least 2 inches too long, and they were very baggy overall. Believe it or not, I am encouraged. For 25 bucks I found out that I am not completely unable to wear store bought clothes. Now it is just a matter of dialing in the appropriate sizes. YAAAAY! You go girl! Most jeans I buy are too long, but I get them taken up. Way back when I lived at home my mum did it for me but these days I just pop into an alterations store to do it. It's not that expensive. So aim for a correct waistline and then take them up if you need, I reckon. I've found lots of jeans run too long when I buy them, but it's better than having them too short. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Xray the Enforcer Posted November 20, 2016 Share Posted November 20, 2016 That's great Sivin! I encourage you to get a tape measure and actually get your measurements. It will make things MUCH easier. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Xray the Enforcer Posted November 25, 2016 Share Posted November 25, 2016 I figure that this is the better place for this discussion than in the literature subforum, but damn is it difficult to find quality genderqueer and transgender smut anthologies. Of the ones I've found, I think all three have been edited by or written by Tristan Taormino. Which doesn't surprise me -- she's a generally savvy and intelligent person. I really appreciated how in the introduction to the most recent anthology she directly addresses a weakness in the collection: underrepresentation of women who have had bottom surgery. So for those of you who feel qualified to write about such a topic, know that there's at least one editor out there who wants to buy your stories! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TerraPrime Posted November 28, 2016 Author Share Posted November 28, 2016 On 11/5/2016 at 1:10 PM, aptdando said: So, this is a request of advice for you nice people. I'm currently in my fourth out of six year of medicine but I'm considering changing my studies. I was in a bad place during my last years of high school, so I basically let my clueless (or not?) parents decide my university for me. Unfortunately I have always felt extremely dissatisfied with medicine and I'm still trying to gather enough courage to quit (therapy is helping, thankfully). Problem is, I basically have no idea about what to do. I realized that gender studies are one of the very few things that never fail to interest me and I am actually passionate about, but what kind of studies could bring me there? Consider that here in my country this is still a niche topic. Which country are you from? I am guessing somewhere in eastern Europe? If gender issues interest you, and you're already past the halfway point in medicine, perhaps the more biological side of gender issues might be a natural extension? Gender studies can be approached through several routes, such as sociological, psychological, biological (development, neurology, endocrinology), anthropological, etc. You'd need to know some of each of those approaches but then focus on one. So, you can foreseeably stay in medicine but work on areas that impact on people's lives in regards to gender, like becoming an endocrinologist specializing in trangender issues. Not knowing how the university curriculum is structured it's hard for us to give you specific suggestions. But as a start, I would encourage you to look into women's studies classes. In most universities, it is either its own program, or a program in another department (English and Sociology seem to be the most common homes). Check out their introductory courses on feminism and gender theories. Talk to the faculty who teach those classes and ask for their input. Someone with a strong science background can actually bring a lot to the field, imo. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
karaddin Posted November 29, 2016 Share Posted November 29, 2016 On 26/11/2016 at 10:38 AM, Xray the Enforcer said: I figure that this is the better place for this discussion than in the literature subforum, but damn is it difficult to find quality genderqueer and transgender smut anthologies. Of the ones I've found, I think all three have been edited by or written by Tristan Taormino. Which doesn't surprise me -- she's a generally savvy and intelligent person. I really appreciated how in the introduction to the most recent anthology she directly addresses a weakness in the collection: underrepresentation of women who have had bottom surgery. So for those of you who feel qualified to write about such a topic, know that there's at least one editor out there who wants to buy your stories! I actually hadn't realised there were additional collections after the first, although I probably should have guessed there would be. Most of the firs tone wasn't so much pitched for where I was at the time, but I've changed and the others might be more so, I should give it a try! aptdando - Just to elaborate on Terra's advice above, an endocrinologist educated on trans issues and compassionate could have a huge impact in the right area (able to practice as such in a way that gets known in the community - if the country is too repressive that you'd get shut down to subject to violence this wouldn't work so well officially). Another option that is often poorly served is gynaecology. Some vagina-owning people will prefer to see a female gynaecologist, but I know others actually go the opposite direction and in my very limited experience - supported by many conversations with others - there are an awful lot of male gynaecologists either lacking in compassion or outright hostile to women. There is also the possibility of specialising in trans people here too, as trans men who have not had surgery, trans women who have and non-binary folk with vaginas all have the potential to need a gynaecologist and its very very hard to find one that knows anything about us. I know I haven't been able to find one where I live. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Xray the Enforcer Posted November 29, 2016 Share Posted November 29, 2016 It might have been the first -- sadly genderqueer and trans smut seems to be thin on the ground. A lot of the characters were in either pre-op, post-op, or non-op, so I could see how that could be difficult to connect with, depending where you were in your own journey. The latest lesbian anthology I read had a TON of trans characters in it (and yeah, I'm well aware of the problems with that decision!) so I think that, at least from the smut anthology standpoint, everything is being generally rolled into "queer." Which is good in that it's becoming more accepted for mainstream audiences (at least one one side), but bad because sometimes it's really nice to have clear representation. I don't read a whole ton of specifically kink smut, so there might be representation under that umbrella as well. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sivin Posted December 8, 2016 Share Posted December 8, 2016 I seem to have found a new unexpected symptom from my hormones. Family Guy has me in stitches. I'm making great strides as a woman, but at what cost? AT WHAT COST??? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Theda Baratheon Posted December 8, 2016 Share Posted December 8, 2016 7 minutes ago, Sivin said: I seem to have found a new unexpected symptom from my hormones. Family Guy has me in stitches. I'm making great strides as a woman, but at what cost? AT WHAT COST??? LMAO I'm so so sorry this is happening to you Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Xray the Enforcer Posted December 8, 2016 Share Posted December 8, 2016 39 minutes ago, Sivin said: I seem to have found a new unexpected symptom from my hormones. Family Guy has me in stitches. I'm making great strides as a woman, but at what cost? AT WHAT COST??? NO Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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