TTTNE 463 - A Thread for Craziness

[Lady Olenna]

23 hours ago, Eyron said:

It's not like it's usually the first thing I mention when meeting people either, unless interests or fandoms etc are what we're talking about. 

Also, I'm in danger. Currently at a sci fi convention (a fair more like) and there is a big market... I've spent so much money. It's wonderful 

 awesome!

4 hours ago, ab aeterno said:

 

The only real need I have for friends is to talk about stuff I like with them. Just about all the things I like are pretty geeky, either entertainment wise or academically. If someone doesn't want to talk about that stuff, why would I want them around?

That's not to say I'm not friendly with people who aren't geeks, but I don't have many actual friends who aren't. Why would I?

To learn different and new things outside of your comfort zone from people you may have nothing in common with? 

 

2 hours ago, ab aeterno said:

Well, I can't speak for everyone here, but speaking as one so endowed, I consider not having my genitals bitten off a cause for celebration.

I suppose for the women here, not having demons living in your vaginas is cause for celebration too, no?

Apparently this woman needed help in that department. 

How can we forget the ultimate Demonic vagina?

[Eyron]

2 hours ago, ab aeterno said:

Well, I can't speak for everyone here, but speaking as one so endowed, I consider not having my genitals bitten off a cause for celebration.

I suppose for the women here, not having demons living in your vaginas is cause for celebration too, no?

When you put it that way, definitely.

2 hours ago, Buckwheat said:

Maybe the demon itself would not be so bad. I am sure having a bitten-off, dead, rotting penis staying in there is worse.

Well well, the things you learn! It wouldn't be so bad would it? 

1 hour ago, She Who Must Be Obeyed said:

I am so glad I chose today to check in or I might have missed this enlightened discussion on vagina demons and iron dildos, and best mental image of the day - Japanese grannies sucking on dick pops! I can die happy! 

Welcome back

40 minutes ago, Lord Sidious said:

I know what you mean, I tend to not tell people I'm a Sith Lord until they get to know me better. 

It's a title, you should use it.

Also did you ignore Bunnicula?

[First of My Name]

17 hours ago, Eyron said:

FoMN, it's a great step in the right direction for you to go on a date! Better luck with the next guy

I guess it is. Though I'm not sure a date is the right word, but thanks anyway  

5 hours ago, ab aeterno said:

 

The only real need I have for friends is to talk about stuff I like with them. Just about all the things I like are pretty geeky, either entertainment wise or academically. If someone doesn't want to talk about that stuff, why would I want them around?

That's not to say I'm not friendly with people who aren't geeks, but I don't have many actual friends who aren't. Why would I?

Because there are non-geeks out there worth knowing too? If you build your entire social circle around your own existing interests you're bound to miss out on a lot of stuff.
(Imagine if I had shunned you for not liking Cowboy Bebop's intro music, I would never have watched Code Geass )

4 hours ago, ab aeterno said:

I'm sorry, but this just needs to be shared:

 

"Known as the Festival of the Steel Phallus—or colloquially as the “Willy Festival”—legend has it that in the Edo Period (1603-1868) a sharp-toothed demon inhabiting a woman’s vagina castrated several unfortunate young men on their wedding nights.

A local blacksmith came to the rescue by forging an iron dildo to break the demon’s teeth and today a three-meter black steel phallus sits in the shrine’s courtyard to honor the Shinto deities of fertility, childbirth and protection from sexually transmitted infections."

"Giggling festival-goers, including young children and grandmothers dressed in kimonos, sucked on penis lollipops and posed with phallus-shaped sculptures."

I feel better for knowing this. The world is a brighter place than it was this morning.

4 hours ago, Buckwheat said:

FOMN, this is good news. *nods*

abbie ... this raises several questions. Most of all ... why?

Yeah  He also let me know there's a party aimed at LGBT teenagers in our town in two months, that might be a good place to meet new people.

Obligatory 'Why not?'

3 hours ago, HelenaExMachina said:

Depends what sort of thing you're into i guess  

 

[ab aeterno]

1 hour ago, Lady Olenna said:

To learn different and new things outside of your comfort zone from people you may have nothing in common with? 

 

14 minutes ago, First of My Name said:

Because there are non-geeks out there worth knowing too? If you build your entire social circle around your own existing interests you're bound to miss out on a lot of stuff.
(Imagine if I had shunned you for not liking Cowboy Bebop's intro music, I would never have watched Code Geass )

I never said I don't want to meet new people, or converse with them, or learn from them. I said that I don't have any desire to be friends with them. I am not one of those people where everyone I meet is my friend.

If they don't enjoy talking about the same things I do, or doing the things that I do, all I'll be doing is making the effort to talk about things I don't want to talk about, or do things I don't want to do, or vice versa. That's not fair for me or for them.

And it's not that people need to have exactly the same interests, but if someone is not interested in either geeky things (generally) or sports, or politics, or academics/philosophy, then I'm not going to have much to discuss with them. 

[Lady Olenna]

10 minutes ago, ab aeterno said:

 

I never said I don't want to meet new people, or converse with them, or learn from them. I said that I don't have any desire to be friends with them. I am not one of those people where everyone I meet is my friend.

If they don't enjoy talking about the same things I do, or doing the things that I do, all I'll be doing is making the effort to talk about things I don't want to talk about, or do things I don't want to do, or vice versa. That's not fair for me or for them.

And it's not that people need to have exactly the same interests, but if someone is not interested in either geeky things (generally) or sports, or politics, or academics/philosophy, then I'm not going to have much to discuss with them. 

I didn't mean to say that you don't - just a generality about being friends with people that have dissimilar interests. I guess I don't actually have friends that are interested in geeky things that I am interested in (besides my sister) which is why I am on this forum. I don't often meet "geeks" so I suppose I'm missing out on that friendship level. They must be here somewhere in SoCal, I just haven't figured out where. So most of my friendships are based on knowing neat people that I don't necessarily have much in common with  

I didn't intend to come off snarky, just trying to relate it to my own experiences. 

[ab aeterno]

12 minutes ago, Lady Olenna said:

I didn't mean to say that you don't - just a generality about being friends with people that have dissimilar interests. I guess I don't actually have friends that are interested in geeky things that I am interested in (besides my sister) which is why I am on this forum. I don't often meet "geeks" so I suppose I'm missing out on that friendship level. They must be here somewhere in SoCal, I just haven't figured out where. So most of my friendships are based on knowing neat people that I don't necessarily have much in common with  

I didn't intend to come off snarky, just trying to relate it to my own experiences. 

I didn't mean to sound snarky to you LadyO, I was more being semi-snarky to FOMN, because we were arguing about this last night.

I generally find I don't need or want a wide circle of friends, and I have pretty high standards when it comes to friends anyway, so I only tend to make the effort to be friends with people who like similar things. It's true the pool of such people isn't massive, but I'm okay with that because I don't really want a lot of friends. Too much work.

[Lady Olenna]

It's funny, in high school and college I had a very wide circle of friends, not even really by my making any real effort. I just did. But I only had a select few that I really was close to and even then I was always very much alone in many respects. I guess just an introvert pretending to be social. 

Now I have very, very few friends. Mostly because I am pretty dull socially. And my friends have all scattered to different states and countries. But I don't drink really or party and even though I'm sorta older and a mother - most other parents my age still party all the time or are into stuff I'm not into (i.e. I've met quite a few swingers around here and people into drugs). 

And as you said, it's too much effort. I see my friends on FB doing all these fitness and nightlife things and I think to myself, eh, too much effort. I'll watch Netflix and play games with my kid and be just as happy. This could also be depression  

sometimes I really think something must be wrong with me as I prefer the company of my child and family to other adults. 

[RhaenysBee]

12 minutes ago, Lady Olenna said:

It's funny, in high school and college I had a very wide circle of friends, not even really by my making any real effort. I just did. But I only had a select few that I really was close to and even then I was always very much alone in many respects. I guess just an introvert pretending to be social. 

Now I have very, very few friends. Mostly because I am pretty dull socially. And my friends have all scattered to different states and countries. But I don't drink really or party and even though I'm sorta older and a mother - most other parents my age still party all the time or are into stuff I'm not into (i.e. I've met quite a few swingers around here and people into drugs). 

And as you said, it's too much effort. I see my friends on FB doing all these fitness and nightlife things and I think to myself, eh, too much effort. I'll watch Netflix and play games with my kid and be just as happy. This could also be depression  

sometimes I really think something must be wrong with me as I prefer the company of my child and family to other adults. 

No, no, no, no. Don't let yourself be deceived. You don't have to work out five times a week  or party every Friday night to be happy. Just do what makes you feel good. Besides, it's social media. You don't actually know if they are actually happy and if it's actually parties and fitness that make them happy. 

[Eyron]

Lady O xD the old -am I finally doing what I enjoy the most or am I depressed? -question. For me, I figured that it is the first. The thing is I used to read and listen to music all the time as a kid, I just added a few other non social things to that as I grew older. And being social online is a great alternative that I didn't have until my mid-late teens but sought out quickly. I feel I'm right where I belong.

I don't have a lot of friends either and that's all well for me. 

[Buckwheat]

3 hours ago, Lady Olenna said:

How can we forget the ultimate Demonic vagina?

Well, it was hinted that she was stealing Stannis' male life power away ...

3 hours ago, Eyron said:

When you put it that way, definitely.

Well well, the things you learn! It wouldn't be so bad would it? 

A few years ago, I had such a discussion with a few ... acquaintances maybe? We spent time together at the summer course and I would have said we were friends, but never saw each other after that. Anyway, we kind of said everybody has a little devil or demon inside them that makes them do naughty things.

(I was sad because I thought that my little devil was dead.)

1 hour ago, Lady Olenna said:

sometimes I really think something must be wrong with me as I prefer the company of my child and family to other adults. 

I sometimes prefer the company of my grandmother and my frankly bratty 13-year-old cousin to some people of the same age. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. You know what you like doing and this is great.

52 minutes ago, BB-Rhae said:

No, no, no, no. Don't let yourself be deceived. You don't have to work out five times a week  or party every Friday night to be happy. Just do what makes you feel good. Besides, it's social media. You don't actually know if they are actually happy and if it's actually parties and fitness that make them happy. 

Also this. It gives you a completely fabricated view of other people's lives.

I have very little friends. They also tend to not know each other (and live in completely different places - that would be most of you, dear BWB!), so I can never spend time with them all together. So I do generally make little socialising. I am quite often lonely, but I realise now that this is my fault.

[Eyron]

Hey Bucky, your little devil is clearly alive and growing stronger

If you feel lonely perhaps there are some activities you could try out? I know that sounds trite, but I don't believe there are other ways to go about it. I don't know exactly what it is you are after. Don't feel bad because me and others are different than you, I would not say that I'm a good example for anyone in any case Do what you want to do and what makes you happy. 

A song for you all:

I didn't like this song hearing at first (and for a long while), but it grew on me until I love it. Which ironically fits with the lyrics xD The lyrics are sweet.

This on the other hand, I loved at once and still do:

 

[Jen'ari]

4 hours ago, Eyron said:

It's a title, you should use it.

Also did you ignore Bunnicula?

I do, after they mistake me for a kindly person :).

Ignore what?.

[RhaenysBee]

I don't have many friends either. I had always had just a handful of friends. 

1. Nobody has many friends. Real friends don't come in an abundance to anybody. The 2000 Facebook friends and the 50 buddies you have a beer with are not friends in the true sense of the word. You will not tell them your deepest insecurities and they will not drop everything and get in a car when you are in actual trouble. They are great and fun, but friendship is not a chat about makeup over a mojito.

2. As a person more on the introverted side, I enjoy alone time and I do not feel the need to keep in touch and hang out with dozens of people. It takes more from me than it gives, it drains me more than it fills me up. Forcing myself to do things I don't actually want with people I don't actually want is a chore. And there are enough chores in life already. If I socialize I want it to be fun rather than a chore, so I will only socialize as much as it fills me up. 

3. I am picky as fuck. With people, with activities, with everything. And thus there are only few people whose company I genuinely enjoy. 

4. I am lazy as fuck. We live in a world where we can get close to everything done with three things: a device, a credit card and wifi. And in such world, it feels like an effort to get dressed and put on makeup and travel an hour just so I can have a coffee with someone. 

 

[Eyron]

Well spoken, Rhae! Completely with you.

 

On 2016-04-01 at 11:41 PM, Eyron said:

http://mentalfloss.com/article/77423/15-scary-fun-facts-about-bunnicula

Lord Sidiouuuus, come out to plaaay.

^

2 minutes ago, Lord Sidious said:

I do, after they mistake me for a kindly person :).

Ignore what?.

 

[Lady Olenna]

1 hour ago, Eyron said:

Lady O xD the old -am I finally doing what I enjoy the most or am I depressed? -question. For me, I figured that it is the first. The thing is I used to read and listen to music all the time as a kid, I just added a few other non social things to that as I grew older. And being social online is a great alternative that I didn't have until my mid-late teens but sought out quickly. I feel I'm right where I belong.

I don't have a lot of friends either and that's all well for me. 

Lady O the Old   That fits quite well! I don't necessarily correlate being introverted with being depressed - I actually find I am happiest when I am by myself with my own company but coincidentally I am diagnosed as depressed though I believe that to be a result of all the stress I carry. I find now that it is the social activities that cause me anxiety and depression. And like you, I find I feel right where I belong when I am with my son and family, which is a very nice feeling.

I can only speak to this online social group as I haven't spent much time anywhere else on the web. But I consider myself quite lucky to be in the online company with this awesome group. I only wish I would have figured it out a bit earlier. I was always working full time and going to school full time so I never really had time to do much of anything.

I think at this point I can count my friends on one hand. I used to be kind of embarrassed by that but now I don't care. I do sometimes wish I had a group of friends to do things like talk about comics or tv shows or watch shows together but any time I look for those things on places like Meet Up I realize I don't have anyone to watch my son if I were to join in. And let me tell you - the "mommy" groups on those places are absolutely terrifying. Tried that once and was like NO F*ing thank you.

 

42 minutes ago, Buckwheat said:

Well, it was hinted that she was stealing Stannis' male life power away ...

A few years ago, I had such a discussion with a few ... acquaintances maybe? We spent time together at the summer course and I would have said we were friends, but never saw each other after that. Anyway, we kind of said everybody has a little devil or demon inside them that makes them do naughty things.

(I was sad because I thought that my little devil was dead.)

I sometimes prefer the company of my grandmother and my frankly bratty 13-year-old cousin to some people of the same age. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. You know what you like doing and this is great.

Also this. It gives you a completely fabricated view of other people's lives.

I have very little friends. They also tend to not know each other (and live in completely different places - that would be most of you, dear BWB!), so I can never spend time with them all together. So I do generally make little socialising. I am quite often lonely, but I realise now that this is my fault.

I do wish more of us were closer to each other. I still feel so badly for being so feisty with you when you said you didn't feel pretty or not being able to be intelligent and pretty? I would have better served myself if I had simply just explained that what I meant is that when you get to a certain age and look back at yourself you want to grab hold and shake the old you because time is precious and doubting yourself or having insecurities is a debility that hinders happiness that time can not replace. Anyway, hold on to the time with your grandmother because those moments are also precious and probably even more so for your grandmother. There is something very healing about being around older people, imo.

About FB and fabrication... I have a friend that I've known for about a decade now, and although there are aspects of her personality that irk me I just accepted them as being who she is. Well, now that I am on FB - OMG- I can hardly tolerate her posts. Which is so mean of me, but it is the truth they are all selfies that are supposed to be about her child but are really about her taking a picture of herself. Which really bugs me. I guess I see how in love with herself she is. I suppose I shouldn't be bothered since it means she just has confidence? But it does. I guess because the premise is that it is supposed to be focused on her kid. I sometimes regret having started FB

And sometimes I feel strange for not being lonely and enjoying being by myself so much. I feel like it should not be so enjoyable. I really think I would be a successful recluse. Which is exactly opposite of how I felt in my 20's at which time I always felt like a loser if I didn't have plans lined up for my weekend. Of course, that goes back to wishing I could shake the old me and say that there will be a time when you will really enjoy sitting at home on the computer or in front of the tv or a book on the weekend!

[Lady Olenna]

42 minutes ago, BB-Rhae said:

I don't have many friends either. I had always had just a handful of friends. 

1. Nobody has many friends. Real friends don't come in an abundance to anybody. The 2000 Facebook friends and the 50 buddies you have a beer with are not friends in the true sense of the word. You will not tell them your deepest insecurities and they will not drop everything and get in a car when you are in actual trouble. They are great and fun, but friendship is not a chat about makeup over a mojito.

2. As a person more on the introverted side, I enjoy alone time and I do not feel the need to keep in touch and hang out with dozens of people. It takes more from me than it gives, it drains me more than it fills me up. Forcing myself to do things I don't actually want with people I don't actually want is a chore. And there are enough chores in life already. If I socialize I want it to be fun rather than a chore, so I will only socialize as much as it fills me up. 

3. I am picky as fuck. With people, with activities, with everything. And thus there are only few people whose company I genuinely enjoy. 

4. I am lazy as fuck. We live in a world where we can get close to everything done with three things: a device, a credit card and wifi. And in such world, it feels like an effort to get dressed and put on makeup and travel an hour just so I can have a coffee with someone. 

 

Sorry for the DP but this is worthy.

I wish I could sig this because this so succinctly sums up exactly how I feel.

[ab aeterno]

2 minutes ago, Lady Olenna said:

Lady O the Old   That fits quite well! I don't necessarily correlate being introverted with being depressed - I actually find I am happiest when I am by myself with my own company but coincidentally I am diagnosed as depressed though I believe that to be a result of all the stress I carry. I find now that it is the social activities that cause me anxiety and depression. And like you, I find I feel right where I belong when I am with my son and family, which is a very nice feeling.

I can only speak to this online social group as I haven't spent much time anywhere else on the web. But I consider myself quite lucky to be in the online company with this awesome group. I only wish I would have figured it out a bit earlier. I was always working full time and going to school full time so I never really had time to do much of anything.

I think at this point I can count my friends on one hand. I used to be kind of embarrassed by that but now I don't care. I do sometimes wish I had a group of friends to do things like talk about comics or tv shows or watch shows together but any time I look for those things on places like Meet Up I realize I don't have anyone to watch my son if I were to join in. And let me tell you - the "mommy" groups on those places are absolutely terrifying. Tried that once and was like NO F*ing thank you.

Being alone is awesome.

Also, whenever I see those mommy groups I have a sudden urge to invoke divine protection and flick holy water at them. 

[First of My Name]

3 hours ago, ab aeterno said:

I never said I don't want to meet new people, or converse with them, or learn from them. I said that I don't have any desire to be friends with them. I am not one of those people where everyone I meet is my friend.

If they don't enjoy talking about the same things I do, or doing the things that I do, all I'll be doing is making the effort to talk about things I don't want to talk about, or do things I don't want to do, or vice versa. That's not fair for me or for them.

And it's not that people need to have exactly the same interests, but if someone is not interested in either geeky things (generally) or sports, or politics, or academics/philosophy, then I'm not going to have much to discuss with them. 

If I only became friends with people who shared all or most of my interests I wouldn't have any outside of this forum. I'm fine with not discussing everything with them though I'm always glad when a shared interest does crop up.

3 hours ago, Lady Olenna said:

I didn't mean to say that you don't - just a generality about being friends with people that have dissimilar interests. I guess I don't actually have friends that are interested in geeky things that I am interested in (besides my sister) which is why I am on this forum. I don't often meet "geeks" so I suppose I'm missing out on that friendship level. They must be here somewhere in SoCal, I just haven't figured out where. So most of my friendships are based on knowing neat people that I don't necessarily have much in common with  

I didn't intend to come off snarky, just trying to relate it to my own experiences. 

It's the same with me, none of my friends are interested in reading and that was why initially came here. Fortunately many of them have gotten into watching shows now and I can geek out over those with them, but that's all. I don't have a single friend I'd describe as a geek.

2 hours ago, ab aeterno said:

I didn't mean to sound snarky to you LadyO, I was more being semi-snarky to FOMN, because we were arguing about this last night.

 

17 minutes ago, BB-Rhae said:

I don't have many friends either. I had always had just a handful of friends. 

1. Nobody has many friends. Real friends don't come in an abundance to anybody. The 2000 Facebook friends and the 50 buddies you have a beer with are not friends in the true sense of the word. You will not tell them your deepest insecurities and they will not drop everything and get in a car when you are in actual trouble. They are great and fun, but friendship is not a chat about makeup over a mojito.

2. As a person more on the introverted side, I enjoy alone time and I do not feel the need to keep in touch and hang out with dozens of people. It takes more from me than it gives, it drains me more than it fills me up. Forcing myself to do things I don't actually want with people I don't actually want is a chore. And there are enough chores in life already. If I socialize I want it to be fun rather than a chore, so I will only socialize as much as it fills me up. 

3. I am picky as fuck. With people, with activities, with everything. And thus there are only few people whose company I genuinely enjoy. 

4. I am lazy as fuck. We live in a world where we can get close to everything done with three things: a device, a credit card and wifi. And in such world, it feels like an effort to get dressed and put on makeup and travel an hour just so I can have a coffee with someone. 

 

 Well said.

[ab aeterno]

15 minutes ago, First of My Name said:

If I only became friends with people who shared all or most of my interests I wouldn't have any outside of this forum. I'm fine with not discussing everything with them though I'm always glad when a shared interest does crop up.

But you're a type of person who needs a lot of friends. I don't particularly care either way; I only consider someone a friend if I really enjoy their company, and if they're not interested in similar sorts of things then I'm not likely to enjoy their company.

 Unless someone is into geeky stuff, such as video games, science fiction, fantasy, etc. if they're not into sports I enjoy, or subjects such as politics, philosophy, or science; or other academic pursuits, what the heck am I supposed to do with such a person?

Oh, and to be clear, that means multiple things, or a broad interest, not just "oh yah guys, I totally watch game of thrones, wasn't it so shocking when that mountain guy killed that guy fighting for Tyrion?" I actively dislike people like that.

 

[Buckwheat]

1 hour ago, Eyron said:

Hey Bucky, your little devil is clearly alive and growing stronger

If you feel lonely perhaps there are some activities you could try out? I know that sounds trite, but I don't believe there are other ways to go about it. I don't know exactly what it is you are after. Don't feel bad because me and others are different than you, I would not say that I'm a good example for anyone in any case Do what you want to do and what makes you happy.

You are just saying that because you are mean!

I know, no worries. The problem is that I do not know what activities I should try either. I know I should to more sport, but nothing sounds like fun to me after I left dancing. I do try to make contact - or rather, stay in contact - with many people from uni like I did with those from high school, but I just too often get repeatedly told "no time", and then never get an invitation back, so that gets really frustrating. I feel like I am on the receiving end of such treatment disproportionately often.

But then, just earlier a friend that I know likes to spend time with me (because she is also geeky and an ex-dancer and we have fun) wrote that we can have lunch together on Tuesday, so those small things are very cherished!

And you are a great life example for anybody, I am sure.

34 minutes ago, Lady Olenna said:

I do wish more of us were closer to each other. I still feel so badly for being so feisty with you when you said you didn't feel pretty or not being able to be intelligent and pretty? I would have better served myself if I had simply just explained that what I meant is that when you get to a certain age and look back at yourself you want to grab hold and shake the old you because time is precious and doubting yourself or having insecurities is a debility that hinders happiness that time can not replace. Anyway, hold on to the time with your grandmother because those moments are also precious and probably even more so for your grandmother. There is something very healing about being around older people, imo.

About FB and fabrication... I have a friend that I've known for about a decade now, and although there are aspects of her personality that irk me I just accepted them as being who she is. Well, now that I am on FB - OMG- I can hardly tolerate her posts. Which is so mean of me, but it is the truth they are all selfies that are supposed to be about her child but are really about her taking a picture of herself. Which really bugs me. I guess I see how in love with herself she is. I suppose I shouldn't be bothered since it means she just has confidence? But it does. I guess because the premise is that it is supposed to be focused on her kid. I sometimes regret having started FB

Had to cut your post a bit because it is fairly long, but I agree with you that this is an excellent online community. I am not part of any other forum either, and my fb account was mostly made for communicating with people on here in the beginning. TTTNE is nice, and the rest of the forum mainly as well.

And you were never feisty with me, you do not need to explain or apologise for anything you ever said to me! You are one of the most polite people on here, actually I do not think I have ever seen an angry post from you directed at anybody else.

Do not feel bad about deleting or unfollowing anybody on facebook. I do that not because I do not repsect people, but just because I know which things I do not want to see every day. Excessive selfies with a baby would do that to me too.

(Speaking of which, you are free to add me as a friend if you can find we have any common friends! I promise, no selfies from me. Do not feel obliged, of course, I have refused people from here before because I did not feel I knew them enough, so no hard feelings here if you feel this is inappropriate.)

15 minutes ago, First of My Name said:

If I only became friends with people who shared all or most of my interests I wouldn't have any outside of this forum. I'm fine with not discussing everything with them though I'm always glad when a shared interest does crop up.

It's the same with me, none of my friends are interested in reading and that was why initially came here. Fortunately many of them have gotten into watching shows now and I can geek out over those with them, but that's all. I don't have a single friend I'd describe as a geek.

I have two that I would describe as geeks, one is the one I am meeting this week, and the other one is more of a gaming-oriented one, which I am not, and lives in another country. The rest of the "geeky people" is this forum.

ab, that is quite a variety of topics you offer - I think this is fair. It is not like you are expecting them to be interested in all of the same topics, just one or two that you can share.