scotcat Posted July 31, 2016 Share Posted July 31, 2016 13 minutes ago, Lily Valley said: CONGRATULATIONS THEDA!!! Now, FFS woman. Quit worrying and enjoy falling in love. I did have a threesome the other night. Yep. The cats and I sat on the front porch for 4 hours eating tuna fish and judging everyone who walked by. It was actually pretty fun. Yes, congratulations, Theda! I wish you all the happiness Lily Valley - sounds like my Saturday night, only it was me the cat & the dog. It could've been worse. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Theda Baratheon Posted August 1, 2016 Share Posted August 1, 2016 So in term time hes in uni (hes my age, 22) but for the next month hes at his parents. So far ive stayed over there twice and just come over to hang out once. Ive said hi to his mum and talked a little bit but I keep making excuses not to stay his (even though I really want to) because im worried his mum will think im super rude or hate me. Am I just being silly? Hes asked me to come over tomorrow and really want to. Should I? Am I just being really silly worrying about this? He is grown man! If you were his parents would you think the girl that slept over THE DAY SHE MET YOUR SON and slept over again another night (both times quite drunk but not rude or messy) was a totally horrible person would you just not give a shit because your son is 22 years old anyway and I haven't eaten anything or done anything too rude I dont think??! Ive bee panicking about this like crazy but we haven't had much of chance to really hang out in private so im still not even sure whats going on??!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The guy from the Vale Posted August 1, 2016 Share Posted August 1, 2016 Theda, stop freaking out. If he's inviting you, it's his responsibility to make sure you'll be fine, not yours. You're also both adults. You'll be fine. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Theda Baratheon Posted August 1, 2016 Share Posted August 1, 2016 thanks i just needed another point of view ive been so nervous about this ?? why am i an idiot ?? i panic about the silliest stuff Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Angalin Posted August 1, 2016 Share Posted August 1, 2016 Theda, my main concern would be "are they using condoms? They'd better be using condoms" and "is this person going to get between me and my coffee". Otherwise, if he's okay with it and you're happy to go over, yay. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Arch-MaesterPhilip Posted August 2, 2016 Share Posted August 2, 2016 Theda, do you think he would invite you to stay if his mother didn't like you? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lily Valley Posted August 2, 2016 Share Posted August 2, 2016 16 hours ago, Angalin said: Theda, my main concern would be "are they using condoms? They'd better be using condoms" and "is this person going to get between me and my coffee". Otherwise, if he's okay with it and you're happy to go over, yay. THIS. Everything else is none of my business. My son is 19. I have liked some of the girls he brought home and disliked others. As long as they behaved with courtesy, I minded my own business. Also, why would you worry about eating? If he prepares a meal EAT IT. Go over there and have a good time! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Warlock of Qarth Posted August 2, 2016 Share Posted August 2, 2016 Guy automates his Tinder game, swipes 200.000 women Quote I automated everything. Openers, follow-up messages, swiping, bookmarking, text messages and phone number recording. The machine was well-oiled. Summer 2015: Sebastian Stadil, a lonely IT-nerd, automates Tinder, dubbing it Tindernet. The system goes on-line August 4th, 2015. Human decisions are removed from the matchmaking process. Spring/Early summer 2016: Tindernet continues to learn at an exponential rate. August 24th, 2016, 2:14 a.m. Eastern time: Tindernet becomes self-aware. In a panic, Stadil tries to pull the plug. August 24th, 2016, 2:15 a.m. Eastern time: Tindernet fights back. Taking over the American Nuclear Missile Defense system, it launches a nuclear first strike on Russia and China. The resulting counter-strike wipes out most of Western Europe and the United States. Three billion human lives end on August 24th, 2016. The survivors of the nuclear fire call the war Judgment Day. They live only to face a new nightmare: the war against the machines... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aniel Posted August 3, 2016 Share Posted August 3, 2016 Theda, just be yourself and polite and no one will hate you. The first time I met my SO's family I stayed in their house for three weeks in a different country in a different culture and it was nerve-wracking but I survived and no one hates me yet. I've even been invited back! Granted, if she has some rule like "don't shower together" then following that might be a good idea... (unless she isn't in the house...) If I may say so, you actually remind me a bit of my SO when he worries, and I'll tell you the same thing I tell him: You'll be fine. Not the most constructive or calming advice maybe, but I'm usually right when I say that Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Theda Baratheon Posted August 3, 2016 Share Posted August 3, 2016 we spent the whole night watching campus and green wing and laughing. Cuddled and kissed a lot on couch, I always feel fine in the evening but then in the morning I always feel uncertain and have no idea whats actually going on. We're both NOT morning people though which might be why im feeling weird. Still dont know if we're going out or what but I mean I feel like we are. I wish I could just CHILL OUT and not think so much about everything lol. Oh well, was a good night though, I think. Im not like voicing any of these worries to him dont worry lol. He liked my friends (I think?) And they liked him which was good. Anyway its like super early days anyway lol i need to CHILL Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
maarsen Posted August 3, 2016 Share Posted August 3, 2016 4 hours ago, Theda Baratheon said: we spent the whole night watching campus and green wing and laughing. Cuddled and kissed a lot on couch, I always feel fine in the evening but then in the morning I always feel uncertain and have no idea whats actually going on. We're both NOT morning people though which might be why im feeling weird. Still dont know if we're going out or what but I mean I feel like we are. I wish I could just CHILL OUT and not think so much about everything lol. Oh well, was a good night though, I think. Im not like voicing any of these worries to him dont worry lol. He liked my friends (I think?) And they liked him which was good. Anyway its like super early days anyway lol i need to CHILL Theda, when the doubt starts to surface, go back and read the words of your friends here. We are all really happy for you and hope for the best because you deserve it. He does like you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Theda Baratheon Posted August 12, 2016 Share Posted August 12, 2016 lol nvm, didn't talk to me for a week after staying his house and then broke the silence by asking one question to do with work, i answered and hasn't replied for another 3 days. i don't know if i can bother messaging, im not gonna get tied up over anything. will just wait for him to reply/message. maybe won't. oh well... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HexMachina Posted August 12, 2016 Share Posted August 12, 2016 The blade runner thing was a warning, Theda. But I am sorry things don't seem to be working out there. His loss. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Buckwheat Posted August 14, 2016 Share Posted August 14, 2016 Sorry to hear that, Theda, maybe he still answers? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Theda Baratheon Posted August 14, 2016 Share Posted August 14, 2016 well i just messaged him with a sort of open invitation to get together to do a book club type thing we talked about as my friend just finished the book he recommended and loved it so if he ignores this then i'll know for certain nothing is happening and i was a bit of an idiot to expect anything especially when someone is drunk when they say nice things hahha Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kelli Fury Posted August 14, 2016 Share Posted August 14, 2016 At this point he just doesn't sound good enough anyway. Our Theda deserves a very sweet attentive boy not some bumbling dumbass living with his parents who can't bother to text Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Theda Baratheon Posted August 14, 2016 Share Posted August 14, 2016 thanks guys you guys have made me smile, it's nice to know people care about me. im not like pining or anything, im more disappointed, irritated with him and annoyed with myself for getting my hopes up. this is why ive been single for so long...but...on the plus side, after this i actually feel way more capable of dating and seeing people in a more casual way as long as it's clear what's going on. i'm in a pretty good place in my life at the moment and haven't been feeling as gross about my body lately, which is why im also pissed off at him for making me panic about the way i look again when he basically didn't message me after i stayed his ??? that's just pretty rude right??? i honestly am a total novice to dating and seeing people so i don't know etiquette or whatever but not messaging/replying to someone after theyve just spent the night with you seems a bit...dickish to me. i guess im just growing up and getting on with life and this is just one part of that lol, dealing with immature people. he was hot though, damnit. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lessthanluke Posted August 15, 2016 Share Posted August 15, 2016 It is dickish don't second guess yourself, sounds like an immature guy but if you can take positives from this then win Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Theda Baratheon Posted August 15, 2016 Share Posted August 15, 2016 sort of talked with him again, aahh i hate uncertainty and being confused. said he was gonna be away for a few weeks and would want to hang out after. fuck it though, i'm not thinking anything more of it, if he wants to hang out then sure, but if i miraculously meet another person i fancy and want to date/see/hang out with then im not gonna let him stop me hahahah. i feel a lot more confident in a lot of ways though, like a weird wall has been broken that i put around myself and now im like ''ohh, i can flirt and socialise with people and im not totally gross/undesirable'' so that's a good positive thing to come of this !!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Marquis de Leech Posted August 16, 2016 Share Posted August 16, 2016 In a rare bit of good news, I've met a nice girl off a dating site, and we've been chatting for the past couple of weeks. She lives about two and a half hours' drive away; I'll be driving out to see her either this weekend or next. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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