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  1. TheRevanchist

    Wheel of Time Discussion (Spoilers)

    She was a decently written character at the beginning, but after she became AS, she lost her plot, and became a caricature. Sanderson just continued it.
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    Dating: to play the part of the one who doesn't wait

    I think that I am an idiot. Nope, I am definitely an idiot. I usually don't really care after a first date, but this time somehow I managed to suffer (as much as it is possible to suffer after a first date gone right turned wrong), feel guilty, and feel an idiot. After 3+ days of waiting, against my best logic, I did something that I never do (send a second message, which while asking for clarity, apparently it was aggressive when I look into it.) Me: Anti-social lass, while I still hope that you're in, I don't bite if you say no. On the other hand, ghosting is absolutely a shitty thing to do. (clarification: calling her anti-social was an inside joke, both me and her did that in the past jokingly). Her (immediately): ? Exuse me? Her: Very nice message after waking up from a 12 hour flight! Her: I cant do this! So then its a big NO. (thumbs down emoticon). I thought someone like you would be more understanding. Me: Oh Gosh, genuinely sorry for being a prick! Me: Ok. Sorry if I came as aggressive in that stupid message. If you were planning to continue seeing each other again until that message, I hope you reconsider it. The date was too good to not give it another shot, just because of that. Regardless of what you decide, I found you a cool person and was my pleasure to meet you. Have a great life! And then silence. Essentially I managed to be a prick in the process, while losing any chance of meeting her again. In addition to that, she went from 'kind' to trying to hurt me (with big no and thumbs down thing), and didn't give me any chance of an explanation (why should she). To make things even worse, while it is quite likely that the end result would have been the same either way, her just never answering that first message and so this being off, now in my little brain somehow it is all my fault and things would have been right if I didn't write that message. I feel guilty. I guess I just have to move on, and be wiser other times. I also think that a message like 'Hey Nat, I would appreciate an answer to the previous message, because you know, I have to book the bowling center' would have pushed her to reply me by either 'sure, 8pm is fine with you?' or 'sarrry, not interested' or just not replying at all which would have had the same effect. But no, I had to become a teenage idiot after almost a decade of not being a teenager. At this stage, it is more that I feel guilty for leaving a very bad impression to a person I like (and whom I think that at least had a good impression of me), rather than not getting a second date. Whatever, the only silver lining is that I will be off everything for the next 4 days, visiting Prague and likely trying to block this episode from my brain. Oh, the last time I had these strong feelings for someone after a single date is when I was in high school. FFS!
  3. TheRevanchist

    is the WoT series worth reading

    I don't remember this happening. She kept the rulers of some other (and much smaller) country as pets, not Shara IIRC. Isn't Demandred the only Forsaken who is on Shara, and he actually did a revolution there?!
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    Dating: to play the part of the one who doesn't wait

    Well, at least she has read the message now (blue ticks in WhatsApp), but of course no reply. I hate waiting!
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    is the WoT series worth reading

    If GRRM decides that he cannot finish his series, and leaves to someone else, no way in hell it is going to be Sanderson. Someone like Abercrombie or Abrahams would be much more suited to the task. Or he can just troll us and leave it to Pat Rothfuss.
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    Dating: to play the part of the one who doesn't wait

    She wasn't online until a few hours ago, but then she logged in and changed her whatsapp picture. She has definitely seen the message, just that has decided to not reply to it. Which is fine, I guess.
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    Dating: to play the part of the one who doesn't wait

    I sent it yesterday at around 1pm, so around couple of days. Of course, I am going to wait, there is not much else I can do. I don't text twice in a row (it never works, and it is a bit dignity-less), and I know that she doesn't own me anything. However, I think that ghosting in okcupid/tinder is okay, ghosting after a meh date is acceptable, but ghosting after already agreed for the second date is a bit jerk-ish. Just send a short message making clear that it isn't happening, like a decent being. I still have two friends with whom it wasn't meant to be, but I appreciated a lot them doing the decent thing.
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    Dating: to play the part of the one who doesn't wait

    So, went into a date from okcupid. The convo there went slow and awkward, she gave me her number without asking after teasing her for not replying to me, and then within a day we arranged the date. The date was superb, one of the best dates I ever had, and arguably the best one originating from some online site. There was real chemistry between us, no awkward silence and a lot of laughs. At the end of the date, she mentions that she had a good time and wants to see me again, we agreed to meet on this Thursday (long short story, she's a cabin crew and was going to Hong Kong, returning on Wednesday, while I am going to Prague for a long weekend on Friday, so Thursday was the only option). No kiss, but two long huggs. A couple of hours after the date, I sent her a message saying that I had an amazing time and want to see her again, she replies immediately that she had an amazing time, and want to continue seeing me, adding 'my treat next time'. Short texting continues, and we leave to call her in a few days to arrange the second date. Yesterday afternoon called her in Whatsapp but she doesn't reply despite being online. Then she goes immediately off, and until a couple of hours ago she doesn't get in online. Anyway, no reply, not even reading the text (obviously, she has read it with one of whatsapp tricks), and to be fair, not even logged in okcupid. Now, while I usually don't care after a first date going cold, this time it is a bit different cause it was really an amazing date, and we both agreed to meet again (including the day) both in person and with texting after. No endless messages after that to look needy. I don't mind too much getting rejected, it happens to everyone, but why on Earth she has to ghost me after this? It is totally classless. A polite short message telling that 'she doesn't like me romantically', 'or she decided to date someone else exclusively' is the right thing to do in these circumstances, right? And if the guy is not a total douchebag, he will accept it, send a short message to her thanking for letting him know, and that's it.
  9. TheRevanchist

    is the WoT series worth reading

    Ah, Demandred = Mazrim, yep, while I read books after they were finished, I was quite convinced that is real. Especially after it was revealed that Mazrim was dark. I honestly remember only once Shara mentioned (for that adventurer that has been there), and was a total shock to see them being arguably the strongest country in Randland, and their invasion. A bit unexpected. I liked Sanderson's ending (bar Rand/Ishamael thing in the very end). Btw, anyone has read Sanderson's short story of Demandred? I found it cool.
  10. TheRevanchist

    is the WoT series worth reading

    What was the theory about it? I actually don't like much the Sharan parts. It was just briefly mentioned, to play that big role in the end.
  11. TheRevanchist

    is the WoT series worth reading

    Moiraine is Gandalf only on the first book. Like the series, her character totally diverges from LotR comparisons. I find her one of the best written characters in the entire genre, and she has definitely a lot of depth. Oh, and the prequel is a must-read purely because she is the main character there. Siuan was good too, but unfortunately a bit under used.
  12. TheRevanchist

    Book series with best character development?

    Whom in particular? I thought that most of them were kind of the same, just got slightly more mature (the blonde girl became more manipulative) and the Tyrant became more evil with power. The others kind of remained the same.
  13. TheRevanchist

    May - Reading 2018 - Have another?

    Probably the worst book I managed to finish (3-body problem 2 was even worse, but I just stopped).
  14. TheRevanchist

    Book series with best character development?

    ASOIAF is obviously the best in the genre when it comes to characters (more fleshed than in any other fantasy series I've read) with Realm of Elderlings being second (although Rain Wild Chronicles sucked). Main character in Long Price Quartet has such an amazing development. Jorg is not bad in the Broken Empire .
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    May - Reading 2018 - Have another?

    I like you. You also hate Queen of Fire.
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