A closer look on Lady Dustin in A Dance with Dragons Posted Thursday at 01:10 PM On 7/31/2020 at 8:31 PM, SansaTakingUpNeedle said: Of course, all this travelling took some weeks, but Lady Dustin says herself that she and Willam were married for some six months when Ned called his banners, so I don’t think a few weeks matter. What matters is that they wed before Ned married Cat, maybe even before Brandon died! So marrying Ned instead of Brandon wasn’t a real option for Barbrey Ryswell even before those events, so Lord Ryswell found another match for his daughter. (But of course, they might have thought about the possibility when Brandon’s betrothal to Cat was announced – that was when Cat was only 12, and Brandon and Barbrey weren’t that much older!) So, Barbrey already has one less reason to be pissed, having never actually been betrothed to Ned or something similar. I don't see the problem here Brandon was betrothed to Cat for years before the Rebellion. So, Barbrey hoped to marry Ned instead, but she never could. Her father made the choice for here. The timeline doesn't matter here. Second. Ned was in the Vale when Brandon was murdered and it took him a while before getting into the North, being smuggled to the Three Sisters by fisherfolk first and then to White Harbor. On 7/31/2020 at 8:31 PM, SansaTakingUpNeedle said: And actually, I don’t think Brandon taking her maidenhead is such a big problem either: When Roose Bolton tells Theon about Northern houses and clans still practicing the first night, he doesn’t list the Ryswells or the Dustins, but he says that “where the old gods rule, old customs linger” (ADWD, Reek III) and, as we will see again later in this essay, Lady Dustin is a big fan of Northern tradition. So losing her maidenhead to her (future) liege lord mayhaps wasn’t that unusual for her, and given Brandon’s reputation she and her father couldn’t really expect him to marry her because of it. No. These "traditions" apply to the common folk. No lord in his right mind would go around deflowering the daughters of vassal houses or demanding the first night' right. Something like that would quickly turn into rebellion.