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  1. 20 minutes ago, Datepalm said:

    BTW, in general times, what's the issue with cross-border dating in this case? If it's within a reasonable radius, does it matter if said person is in Croatia, etc? 

    (BTW, I have a semi-colleague here who identifies, absolutely and only, as Yugoslavian.)

    I tried it, had a long-distance thingy with the Viennese guy. It works for a while. Until it doesn't. So right now, I wouldn't be interested in it because of that experience. I automatically swipe left every time the app offers me anybody from another country. Not because I am opposed to the people, but because I really don't want to bother stumbling in another long-distance thing.

    6 minutes ago, Chataya de Fleury said:

    What happens in Croatia stays in Croatia :)

    I am sure now everybody is wondering about what happened in Croatia.

    For me, nothing ever happened in Croatia. Oh wait, no, the first time I heard somebody might be slightly into me was in Croatia. But that led nowhere.

  2. I am enjoying your trying to determine my geographical location, complete with the Slovenia/Slovakia mixup (that's a classic :rolleyes: ). :lol: It is Slovenia indeed, and we do mostly try to forget about Melanija.

    So I haven't been kidnapped, assaulted, murdered, or bored to death by Creepy Stranger From The Internet, which is good news. In fact, I had a pleasant time. The person turned out to be funny, good conversation partner, and actually quite good-looking. He has a great corny sense of humour. We spent more than three hours talking, drinking a lemonade, eating ice cream, and walking around, which I consider very long for a first meeting. The words "let's hear from each other again" and "next time" have been mentioned.

    So that's that I suppose. What now?

  3. I am supposed to meet Mr. Creepy Stranger From The Internet in 20 minutes. I will post in a few hours to prove I have not been kidnapped/sold/assaulted/murdered by boring conversation. If I don't ... then IDK, contact anybody you know in this country to check on me I suppose. :leaving:

  4. 12 hours ago, Tywin et al. said:

    I think that's awesome! Good for you!!!

    I hope it turns out good at least.

    12 hours ago, Chataya de Fleury said:


    Of course, I would have already run off to Belize with this guy, so just make sure your passport is current, just in case.

    I think my idea on what to do when I first get to know a new person is very different than yours. :p 

    Also, I still don't know if I will be allowed to travel as far as Germany without having to quarantine first any time soon. Going anywhere outside of the Schengen area is probably not going to be possible anyway ... 

  5. 3 hours ago, Tywin et al. said:

    I was talking about at the university level. HS summers after a little break were about football training camps for me. 

    What is the grading system in your neck of the woods? I'm always curious to learn how countries do things differently.

    Right. I teach in a high school, so that is all that is on my mind these days.

    In primary and secondary school, we have a 1-5 grading system, with 1 being non-satisfactory and 5 being the best. And there are only full numbers, none of that decimal complications. At university, there is a 1-10 grading system, with anything below 6 being non-satisfactory (I think most of the professors just grade between 5 and 10).

    3 hours ago, Tywin et al. said:

    Pulp Fiction is a top five movie for me. 

    I've been reluctant to give you advice in the dating thread because I think we both can agree we want very different things, but it's a good thing to take yourself out of your comfort zone. There's sexual violence in A Clockwork Orange, as well as hooliganism and psychological torture, to name a few themes. It's about the leader of a street gang, at least to start. But it's a fascinating film, it's very well done from a technical standpoint and it will haunt you. I really do recommend you give it a chance. If you don't like it 30 mins in you can always turn it off (though I am of the mindset that one should always try to finish a film they decide to watch).

    I know Pulp Fiction counts as a classic and all ... but I just didn't like it.

    Oh, I am trying to get out of my comfort zone, no worries. I just want to do it at my own pace!

  6. 12 hours ago, Tywin et al. said:

    I took summer courses every year and didn't complain about it. Carried a 4.0 during them as well (although I'm not sure the grading system transfers to where you are).

    It doesn't. Our grading system is different. And we also don't have summer courses that count as a part of the secondary education (only for university students), you have to pass the subjects at school and that's it.

    12 hours ago, Tywin et al. said:

    Regardless, go watch A Clockwork Orange. It's a very good film, albeit creepy in many parts (and doesn't age very well to boot).

    If it's that creepy as you and @Argonath Diver say, I probably wouldn't like it much ... you are talking to the person who thought Pulp Fiction was disturbingly violent.

    12 hours ago, DMC said:

    A Clockwork Orange is much more of a British film than an American film, both in spirit and in practice.  Really, it's a London film.

    Ah, I didn't know that, thanks for correcting me.

    To be on topic, I watched a cute movie with a curious title The Guernesey Literary and Potato Peel Pie Society. It takes place in 1946 in England.

  7. 4 minutes ago, Tywin et al. said:

    To not further derail the dating thread, I'm moving this here.

    What do you mean you haven't seen A Clockwork Orange? Or Team America??? 

    Teacher, you have your own weekend assignment to do.


    It't almost summer holiday, it is not like I will be graded anymore, so I don't need to do this assignment! :P

    I mean ... how many Slovene movies have you seen, on the other hand? I am sure I have seen more American ones than you have seen those ...

  8. 1 hour ago, larrytheimp said:

    They are common enough in the US that many profiles say "I swipe left for fish pics"


    22 minutes ago, Tywin et al. said:

    They're the norm where I'm from, but Minnesota is called the land of 10,000 lakes for a reason.

    Wow. USA must be a weird place. :P

    Here there are just pictures with dogs, cats, cars, motorbikes ... many pictures from the beach too.

  9. We moved the conversation from Tinder to another app yesterday. This allowed me to see his whole name, so I obviously googled him. Now I feel much better about talking to an unknown person because I can at least check some things online (his first name is quite common, but his surname is unusual, so it was easy to find that) and I trust the whole thing better.

  10. 1 hour ago, Maithanet said:

    If you have learned enough about him that you feel reasonably confident he's not a danger to you or a complete jerk, then I'd say go for it.  There's only so much you can learn from exchanging messages.  If when you meet in person there's no chemistry or he's lying and is actually 70 years old or something, the sooner you find that out, the better. 

    I mean, the messages don't sound jerky or dangerous, but I am still not completely sure about meeting in person, even with safety precautions. I think I will exchange a few more messages first. But I suppose the danger of somebody lying about literally anything on the Internet is still there.

  11. I, uh, think, a hint has been made about meeting somebody with whom I exchanged a few friendly messages in person. The hint came from his side obviously, I am waaaay too shy and distrustful and all. :blushing: What have I gotten myself into now?

  12. 3 hours ago, Isalie said:

    This is not a hill i would be willing to die on, but when the purpose is to show what u look like (or any time really), why would a selfie be silly?

    IDK, I suppose I just don't like how they look. They are all taken from the same angle and I prefer to see what people are doing with their hands instead of knowing they were just holding a phone. Maybe it takes me out of the immersion of a picture as a moment in life knowing that somebody was holding a phone to take it, you can't really see one doing something in it. Not really a hill I am willing to die on either, I just generally don't like them. :dunno: 

  13. 41 minutes ago, Toth said:

    I'm fairly sure that's because men tend to not have any photos of themselves around whatsoever because it isn't exactly socially acceptable for a guy to say "Hey, I look great right now, would you mind taking a picture of me?". So a quick walk into the bathroom and making a photo of yourself in the mirror is the easiest way to get one. Same reason for the fish pics because that's a situation where a photo of you is being made. If the person in question didn't make the selfie without clothes I wouldn't be as judgemental myself, though I admit that I at least went outside and made selfies at a river or in front of historical buildings for my profile, mostly because the lighting is better. However during my research I still found scathing comments saying that selfies are always a red flag because it shows you don't have friends.

    I don't have many photos of myself either, those I have are mostly from holidays or special events. I still avoid making selfies and just used slightly older pictures on my profile - it is not like I changed that much in the last year or so (I don't have any photos from the covid time, it is not like I went anywhere to want to make it memorable ...).

    I don't even consider the "this person doesn't have friends" angle, I just think selfies in general are silly. :dunno: I suppose in front of historic sights is still better than in the bathroom mirror.

    41 minutes ago, Toth said:

    Surely doesn't sound quite as much like giving up like your previous post make it sound like.^^ Well, I wish much success with the new matches!

    Thank you. And same to you!


  14. So, so many bathroom selfies. Do people seriously not realise that a bathroom selfie is just ... IDK, not the best thing you can post on there? Or do people actually fall for them?

    Am also having the first conversation that goes beyond some "hi, how are you" smalltalk. (Okay, no, it is actually the second one. The first one stopped responding after a few messages.)

  15. 15 hours ago, RhaenysBee said:

    A kid was lost? Oh my, how did that happen?  How silly can they be to get lost on a walking tour? :uhoh: 

    ... :dunno:

    After spending about a year working where I work ... teenagers can be more stupid than you think. And in some ways, much more clever too, so they are always full of surprises.

    Tour managed. It was about 4 hours all together. Some parts were really hot, especially when we went uphill. But now I am already home and showered, which was very refreshing. I need to make something to eat.

    15 hours ago, RhaenysBee said:

    oh no :( I just have two days off at the beginning of next week. 

    Enjoy the long weekend!

    We have a national holiday coming on the 25th, so that will be a long weekend for me.

  16. 6 minutes ago, RhaenysBee said:

    Oh no, really? I’m sorry :( I do like a nice walk. But I can see that the heat isn’t ideal. :( 

    eh thanks, I’m looking forward to a relaxing long weekend. 

    I mean, as is known, I am very much ... not into sports. A tour up a hill is not my idea of a fulfilling workday. But oh well. I hope I get assigned to some group of well-behaved kids at least. (And that we don't lose any in a forest this time, which happened the last time I went on an outing.)

    Long weekend? Is there a holiday coming? Our weekend will be of the usual length.

  17. 1 hour ago, RhaenysBee said:

    The walking tour sounds great! Though I’m sorry to hear that you have to rise early. 

    I don’t know, I’m stressed out for no reason. Maybe it’s hormonal. Or too much caffeine. 

    I didn’t really draw, I just thought I’d express my support even though I seem to have failed to stream the match. That also annoys me. Well it’s not like we stand a chance, we are playing world champion teams. I’ll change my avatar back once we’re out. 

    I think I should make dinner and have a drink. 

    Walking tour sucks. It will probably be way too hot and boring. :dunno: Ah well.

    Feel better soon.

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