I also have problems with the term proactive. My problem is more with the usage and connotation of the word. I view the term rather negatively, as in action for actions sake, when strictly speaking it means acting before an incident as opposed to reacting to it.
As long as the assumptions of the proactive person are right, that is great. But there's little as annoying as someone guessing your moves and getting it completely wrong. If the intentions are good it only makes it more sad.
This probably goes back to my father telling me his favorite quote - "There is no good unless you do it.
(Es gibt nichts Gutes es sei denn, man tut Es. Erich Kästner)" - which has a lot of truth to it.
I used to counter it with - "The good, this word is true, will always be the evil you don't do.
(Das Gute dieser Satz steht fest, ist stets das Böse das man lässt. Willhelm Busch)" - which is from a poem called Die Fromme Helene, calling out the hypocrisy of the pious.
I think my father was right and I was really dumb, I just don't feel it.
Action brings good fortune ... Chapter 24, Syd Barrett.