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    German politics. Flinten Uschi defying the laws of gravity

    We'll see if this has any effect at all during the municipal elections here in Bavaria. I guess those will be the only ones where Corona might matter.
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    UK Politics: Unboldy Go There Where No Country Has Gone Before

    Yes. Or did all Northern Irish IRA members get their British citizenship stripped? They were 'terrorists' too, and were ipso facto eligible for Irish citizenship.
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    UK Politics: Unboldy Go There Where No Country Has Gone Before

    The racism is in doing it even though it leaves her stateless.
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    German politics. Flinten Uschi defying the laws of gravity

    Why do I get the impression that our political system is imploding? The Weimar vibes are definitely intensifying right now.
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    To Tweet Or Not To Tweet? That Is The Question!

    Indeed, Isk nailed it. My social media usage is entirely restricted to messenger services and YT, where I tend to avoid the comment sections like the plague, plus what I need to do professionally.
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    Mental Wellbeing Thread

    In that case, I'd recommend cleaning up your messages folder and writing to me with a few more details like where exactly you are and how long you are going to be there, because most of SW Germany is easy for me to reach on the weekends at least
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    Mental Wellbeing Thread

    You might also look for people on this board who live close to where-ever you are right now. Sure, it's still getting to know new people, but there should be less time wasted looking for common interests.
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    Dating - I love the way you swipe

    Your chances that he's into you are pretty good. Go for it!
  9. Relevant quote from the great, late Terry Pratchett.
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    German politics xth attempt

    This is unfair. I do live in CSU country, but I never voted for these clowns and don't expect that to ever change.
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    European Parliament Elections 2019

    "Asymmetric (De-)Mobilization" has been the Conservatives' electoral Modus Operandi (and quite successfully at that) for all of Merkel's time in office. I don't shed a single tear for them finding themselves on the receiving end of that strategy for once. But yes, in retrospect Spahn suddenly looks like the sane one in last year's leadership contest; a statement I would not have thought possible at the time.
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    International thread 2

    Of course not. But that's how it was sold to the American public last time around.
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    International thread 2

    Which is why the current developments involving Iran are so scary. Bolton seems hell-bent on finishing the Job he started under GWB - because Nation-Building and the Export of Democracy (hah! Iran is probably the second most democratic mid-eastern power after Israel, at least more so than the Saudis or, sadly by now, Turkey) worked out so well last time around. These neocons should be kept far away from power.
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    German politics xth attempt

    I didn't, but some of my old stuff is still online there, so I keep checking up every few months or so. Also, I used to be a moderator there and had some interactions with him back then that told me to stay far far away.
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    German politics xth attempt

    This feels familiar. I think I left that very board eight years ago, in part because of the jerk-ass host. (Name is five letters long, starting with an H, right?) @Wolfgang I I feel you. Switzerland is already alienating with their cryptofascists, but the things going on in Austria right now are really scary. The Böhmermann interview lately was just the last in far too many cases where pro-democratic discourse was treated like lèse majesté.
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    How do you put on your bra?

    @Triskele make up your mind. If you don't take that title, I will. @Tywin et al.I have gotten quite adept at opening them, by men's standards. I have amazed quite a few hookups with my ability to pull it off in reasonable time. Improve your gane!
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    LGBTQ+ 6 -- It's a Rainbow of Flavors

    So... a person who has become a friend over the last two years told me on Friday that they are actually trans. I thanked them for their trust in telling me this and offered my support and care with that information. Still, this is a new experience for me, so if some of the good people of this board have any advice what else I can do for them, that is much appreciated.
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    New Forum Census (AKA Where Are You From?)

    Germany,but grew up in Switzerland. Probably counts as both, as I have both nationalities and live in Germany at this time.
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    Mental Wellbeing Thread

    So, my anxiety issues that I thought I had put behind me half a decade ago returned. This weekend, I've had massive panic attacks that were as ad as those twelve years ago, at the worst point of my life. Shit.
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    Dating - I love the way you swipe

    I think you misunderstand me there in the sense that I don't actually think that friend was right to call them out in that spot. I understand her situation well enough to get where she's coming from and don't begrudge her. It's just that it was too soon for me to be exposed to them for such a long time in my own apartment, which made me feel trapped in my own space. But it was my decision to allow that, so it's me who has to learn from it. They indeed didn't do anything wrong. As for feeling rushed, she can take all the time she wants with him. However, several people expressed to me afterwards that they would have liked to get to know him in a setting where going early was more of an option than at a New Year's party (with its relatively fixed schedule, so to speak) specifically.
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    Dating - I love the way you swipe

    It was a combination of all three. The first one alone I could have accepted, as I had seen them together before. I was also mentally prepared for that. But they started ignoring everybody else as the evening progressed, and that was indeed inducing quite a bit of jealousy in me (as well as unnerving at least one other guest - the one who spoke up). He's also quite a pedant, and considering I have the tendency to be pedantic as well and work in an area where pedanticness is indeed encouraged to some degree, I can stand quite high levels of that - but it was jarring even for me. I can't imagine how that was for the more sensitive people at the party, and one of them even suggested to me afterwards that that made her, in part, uncomfortable.
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    Dating - I love the way you swipe

    Well, the last three New Year's parties that I threw with my social circle were a smashing success, so I was rather optimistic. And indeed it came down to her bringing along her new boyfriend. Incidentally, I was told by two other invitees that they felt his presence was rushed and that they felt uncomfortable with him around. So it wasn't just me. But while I could stand him in short, 1-hour doses on neutral ground, having him in my apartment for close to 10 was quite a bit more exhausting. When I went to bring the friend who lives furthest away to the train station for his last train home, she asked if she could accompany us, saying she needed some fresh air. On the way back, she started asking me why I was so grumpy... that discussion did not end particularly well. When we arrived back at the party, after some time another one of the guests openly suggested to her that at such a party, people might want to interact with her instead of just watching her spend time with her boyfriend, she went into a flying rage and left. In the five years I've known her, I've never seen her like this. I'm quite concerned she might blow up multiple friendships over him by the rate this is going.
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    Dating - I love the way you swipe

    So, for those following my little trainwreck of a narrative, New ear's went about as well as expected - by which I mean, disastrously. Well, shit.
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    Dating - I love the way you swipe

    While it's nice to see my predicament sparked an interesting discussion, I don't think your advice is very applicable in my case, @Heartofice. There, friendship simply preceded any attraction, or, for that matter, any window of socially acceptable courtship (as we were both in relationships when we got to know each other, and at least one of us always has been for as long we've known each other until September). Anyway I'm certainly closer to Meera in my dating preferences, in part because I'm not really interested in one-night-stands (those I've had were not all that much fun tbh), in part because of the passage Rippounet quoted earlier. And I've had my success with my way of doing things, too
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    Dating - I love the way you swipe

    While I don't particularly like the term "friendzone" for several reasons (among them, as Meera, the way it's gendered - I have "friendzoned" at least two women, perhaps more, even if I didn't realize it at the time), you're right that dwelling on this for too long isn't going to be helpful. Anyway, the meetup yesterday went about as well as it might have gone, in spite of my anxiety beforehand. The bloke is certainly likeable enough, even if some of his mannerisms and interests were a bit too close to my own for comfort. Still, it helped me get some semblance of closure. I'm still a bit disappointed, but I guess I'm not bitter any longer. Certailny better than if I had called the whole thing off.
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