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  1. I wish there was some big photographic coffee table book, "Naked People". It would incorporate young/old, cut/uncut, little bitties/melons/post-cancer, a variety of scars--just lay it all out on the table and let them look. The object of which would be that many people have many bodies and everybody is fine. In other words, don't worry about your children seeing your body--just make sure they know that bodies are all fine. Everything is fine. No need to judge or worry about it at all.
  2. In honor of your post, allow me to contribute: Black Tom Explosion I was playing a video game which referenced damage to the Statue of Liberty and had to look it up to see if it was true. I had heard that people used to be able to go up into the torch and that it was damaged so that people could not go up there anymore but I never dreamed of this. This article reports that Russia sued a US company for negligence and that the incident contributed to both the Japanese Internment Camps and the creation of the CIA. Mind Blown. If this is inaccurate, please point it out to me. (Although, in fairness, my swear jar would be much higher than my 'unwelcome history lesson' jar.)
  3. I had a hand steamer and the best job it did for me was killing bed bugs. If you need garments steamed, just hang them up in a closed bathroom with the shower on As Hot As Possible. Walk away, come back 20 minutes later and it will be fine.
  4. I would love to imagine a world in which I can give direction and the crew would take me seriously and not presume that I don't know what I am talking about...because I have ovaries. Maybe I don't get it, maybe they don't get it--when I say "use these two road cases full of lights to place a light at each location I have indicated" and they do exactly not that... Today the biggest superpower in the world seems like the ability to make men believe that I know what I am talking about.
  5. This is interesting to me because standing fucks me up. When standing, I can't disconnect from the pain that standing causes me. In sitting, many will disparage me as lazy but if I am not in pain I can be much more efficient. It has come to a point where watching other people standing makes me uncomfortable because I assume they are in as much pain as I would be. It blows my mind to see someone standing unnecessarily because I can only think how painful that must be. 1) If they are standing unnecessarily, that is a clue that they do not feel what I feel. 2) That is amazing that they can stand without distress. 3) It's a shame that I seem lazy to them because I need to sit.
  6. Please continue with any and all stories of shelter cats who find homes. Tonight I have 2 foster kittens who are cavorting with no knowledge that we have about 36 hours before I surrender them to a better life. I hope it is a better life. I give all the nose scratches and tummy rubs possible but in the end, it has to be someone else who adopts them and gives them a forever home.
  7. Today's L'esprit de l'escalier moment: Photographer invades my space to store his gear, later complains that he has been tasked with shooting specific instances of diverse people engaging in white man activity. He has to fake a picture of women engaged with mechanics. Photographer decries the phoniness of his politically correct assignment, observes that women are only interested in the marketing and social media aspects of the trade. Professionally, I can't pick a fight with every sexist I encounter. Privately, I observe: "Yeah, it's funny how when you crowd everyone else out of a field you find that only white men are interested in the field." On the one hand "fuck you, you fucking fuck". On the other hand, I get it--you have no idea that you are part of the problem.
  8. OK, it's true that I am drunk and not entirely grasping the subject at hand. Nevertheless, I am suffering large amounts of cognitive dissonance with this sentence. Kalbear: 62 Warning points--disdains willingness to traumatize moderators...I suppose Kal is only traumatizing about 6 to 8 moderators so maybe that seems reasonable to him and he imagines that he is not a part of the problem at hand.
  9. Wow! Hot Damn! Nice Job! MC, I am not hip to the current parlance but You Go BOI! (apologies, I am painfully white.) Lately freelance work has picked back up--yay! I was serious about joining Uber but recently it seems unnecessary. Tonight I am pondering the variations of what is a 'good guy.' In a number of situations I have been advised by trusted colleagues that some contact is cool, a good guy, he will set me up. The men who make these recommendations don't necessarily understand that I get treated differently than them--he's cool to you, but he is an asshole to me. I have been around the block enough to understand that to disillusion these colleagues may work against me. Just now, the rational thing to do would be to invest $20k in gear but I can't secure proper financing. Carrying that much credit card debt is stupid. Maybe I should look into Woman Entrepreneur specific grants and loans but...as a participant in a Male Dominated industry, I shy at anything which smacks of Affirmative Action. The idea is that if I don't 'qualify' to normal modes of financing, I don't deserve financing. I know that is stupid but a lot of people don't know that is stupid. Far out drunk trip: Recently, I saw a colleague on LinkedIn post an opinion. This guy was instrumental to me achieving something great in my world. I owe him. Nevertheless, his posted opinion was directly contrary to my political outlook. To me he seems like a white supremacist who seriously does not know that he is a white supremacist. What do you do? Congenial, nice guys have no idea that they are fundamentally against you, on any level.
  10. It is strangely comforting to know that medical mishaps are universal and not personal. In one encounter, I participated in a program which provided low income women with mammograms and pap smears. It was the first time I had received sexual health screening in 20 years. I asked a personal health question. The technician gave a little laugh, 'we don't care about that.' Boom. Oh, I get it--I don't matter at all. You are not here for me. You have a grant to collect data points and I am a data point, that is all you care about. Do not underestimate mediocrity. Health professionals are no different than any other group of people.
  11. I don't think you can adequately examine the phenomena without putting it into a cultural and historic frame of reference. To my perception there is an old fashioned duality wherein the man toils relentlessly to provide for the family and the woman toils relentlessly to nurture the family. In my upbringing, dad toiled relentlessly to provide and in return he was the master of the household. My mother toiled relentlessly and in return she got several days in the year in which she was treated specially. Since she acted as a servant to the family, we all tried to convey some appreciation on those days. In a more egalitarian world, maybe Feb 14 is an insignificant day with superficial connotations. In some cases, Valentines is a time for a female power broker to demand tribute. In the old fashioned framework, sometimes a woman just needs reassurance that she's not just a chump-- cooking and cleaning for a man who takes her entirely for granted. The price of flowers is not really the point. If you are just buying flowers to shut her up and provide a token of affection that you don't really feel, you deserve to pay the price for roses. If you want to make a point of showing her you love her, daffodils will work fine. If you are in a relationship of mutual admiration and appreciation, the flowers are superfluous because you already demonstrate your love on a regular basis. In other words, why not take a random day in the cold dark of winter to reconnect and enjoy each other? If it's fake, it's fake and all the expense of observing the forms won't make either of you very happy. If it's good all the time, there's no particular reason to conform to the cultural dictates.
  12. Today I have been quieter than usual. It has made me aware of the sounds my neighbors make. In silence, my neighbors can be kind of annoying. Presumably that means that I am also annoying when I am less quiet. Food for thought.
  13. That's the most quotable thing I've seen in years. Nice job.
  14. Lately I have been thinking that Valvoline should add Electronic Device Search to their service menu. When getting an oil change, I would totally pay an extra $20 for them to sweep the vehicle for any unauthorized GPS devices. I'm in a gray area where I think it is possible that a possessive ex could plant one on my car but not paranoid enough to buy a detector for myself. It would be such a relief to just drive in and ask someone else to check for me. I have visually inspected the wheel wells but otherwise, I am too lazy and it is too cold to do an exhaustive physical search. Of course, when paranoia takes hold one might imagine Bro Culture would lead to a service tech who chooses not to disclose the information. For fun, if you found a GPS device on your car--what would you do with it? The best I can come up with is asking a truck driver if I can plant it on the vehicle. Tractor or trailer? Not sure.
  15. Liff, that is a seriously adorable cat you have there. My current foster kitty I would characterize as: Loves climbing and finding crevices in which to sequester. Loves playing Blanket Monster. Enjoys knocking over water glasses.
  16. Ode to the Frozen Fruit Snack in my Freezer: To my frozen raspberry treat, Huzzah! Always you have seemed like an oasis to me You promise relief on a hot day, and yet n'er have I partook in your succulence No matter how sweltering the circumstances, I have never decided to just eat you. I believe I may have transported you from old home to new, which means you are at least 10 years old. Too precious to destroy, too hard to eat--wherefore may we meet in harmony? You ask little in way of space and consideration. Over and over I decide to keep you--just in case. But now you are a shackle, endlessly claiming my mind. Every time I open the freezer, what about me? Not now, maybe later. One day I must eat you or discard you. No matter the relief you portend, I must be free.
  17. Chats, I know you are resilient and also predatory in your own way. The thing that would bug me is wondering when he decided he was going to dump me (with prejudice.) I would picture him smirking to himself even as he gave me pleasure and that would ruin whatever pleasure I got once I realized what his true intentions were. Hopefully you got enough value out of the tryst to make it worthwhile. Sounds like it was good while it lasted. Examining the journey from innocence to experience and beyond: Innocence--I am attracted to him, he seems like a decent person. Why would he want to hurt me? Let's Go! Experience--the more attracted you are, the more you should stay away. Your judgement is poor. Beyond--assume every man wants to denigrate you in some way, turn the tables and extract what value you can get while always keeping in mind that he will hurt you if he can. In other words, "If you are not going to embrace your inferiority, I have no use for you."
  18. Not worthy of a thread, just frustrated that I can't figure this out. On my computer I have Left speaker, Right speaker, Sub. There is practically no sound coming from the left. When I run the test feature the right speaker is doing both the left and right sounds. On the properties tab I found a section called jack information which says: L R RL RR C Sub This seems to imply that it is sending 6 signals--1 jack for both left and right, 1 jack for Rear Left and Rear Right, and 1 jack for Center and Sub. I'm trying to figure out how to convince the computer that I only have 3 speakers and it should send the correct signal to each of them but I just keep falling down one fruitless rabbit hole after another.
  19. MC, I hear you. Just remember that you have brains and talent, you can forge a path any way you choose. Any chance of getting any of your signature hot sauce? I don't remember if that was a kickstarter thing or you couldn't source the right ingredients. Please update. Maybe you can poach the promising guy and start a food truck or something.
  20. I also have no idea what my job or career will look like in 6 months. As a freelancer, I am in a problematic area of the live event industry. A drastic reduction in live events means few freelance opportunities. Currently I have a two pronged strategy for making a living in my field. If those prongs fail, it's either education for a new field or delivering for Amazon. While I am grateful that extended unemployment and stimulus has allowed me to survive these last two years, I still can't go back to 'normal' life. Quite possibly my old life is over....which makes me sad, I liked my old life. That is not to say that a new life might not be better but right now I just have a lot of fear and uncertainty. Most recently I saw a job posting for which I am both over-qualified and under-qualified. Over-qualified in knowledge, under-qualified in youth and vigor. I know my value but does anyone else?
  21. I have 2 sewing machines and I am a complete neanderthal. My advice is that: 1) yes, do it. 2) you will fail. 3) Don't worry about it. If you have a sewing machine and also a thread ripper, just do the best you can--you're fine. Personally, I hate floppy pant legs. My first attempt at pegging my jeans was bad--I overcompensated in narrowness. Allow me to reiterate--It's OK to fail. For comfort, allow me to suggest: when it comes to pillows and drapes--you are literally the only one who cares. For clothes, If at first you don't succeed, try try again. Own your body, own your life. Financially, a sewing machine is roughly 3 dinners and 3 movies. The compensating sense of ownership and control is worth it. Be fearless!
  22. I have watched too much of the British Baking Show on Netflix. These are my complaints: I am sick and tired of white-haired white guys sitting in judgement. Paul Hollywood can bugger off. I get it that it's part of the shtick that his judgement is supreme and his handshake is golden but I don't care. I am filled with the desire to break all his rules and bake something delicious which he will scorn just so I can tell him to fuck off. What is the deal with British people and their 'crisp biscuits'? How can you have multiple seasons of a baking show in which cookies are not allowed? Chocolate chip, Snickerdoodle, Peanut Butter dipped in chocolate, all are discarded in favor of something to dip in your tea. Hogwash! The hosts. If I was under pressure and one of these morons came in my space to heckle and distract me, I might conceivably resort to violence. I guess it's a good thing I am neither British, nor a good baker.
  23. I was not clear. I was referring to his age, not the firearm itself. In the Coffee case you linked, the guy was in his own home. He was not brandishing the weapon in the street. That makes the difference to me.
  24. Really? I mean, really? Do you live in a world where it's better to kill people than get an ass-whooping? I don't believe he would have been killed. I believe that he was a pubescent male using a weapon as a penis extension. I believe he was a coward who would rather end a human life than be punched. So now we have gone through the looking glass into a world where you can kill anybody you want as long as you say the magic words, "I was scared."
  25. I can't get away from the basic notion that if you were in the wrong, you lose. Like in car accidents, you can look at who made the driving mistake but if one person is--intoxicated, invalid license, no insurance, etc. the law looks at it as 'you had no right to be there in that car. Even if the other person was at fault, if you weren't breaking the law, it wouldn't have happened, you lose.' He carried an illegal firearm and he killed people with it. Doesn't seem that mysterious to me.
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