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Erik of Hazelfield

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    UK Politics: Deal, or No Deal. To May and Beyond.

    Heh. Inaction hero is now my new favourite word. Survives everything, fails to accomplish anything.
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    Dating - I love the way you swipe

    My take: Stuff like that can happen to anyone. In reality though, it happens far more often to some people than to others. The odds that you stumbled on an orderly and respectful-to-other-people's-time person on his one bad day of the year are probably not so good compared to the other possible explanation.
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    GATTACA!!!!!!!!!!!!

    I agree with Heartofice - the risks must be enormous. I can't imagine CRISPR is anywhere near as safe and well tested as human trials - on babies nonetheless - would require from an ethical viewpoint (but please correct me if I'm wrong). If a baby is born with some severe disability due to this... That's about as bad as it gets consequence-wise. I do agree with the idea of eradicating certain genetic disorders though, given that the method has been tested well enough. Take Duchenne muscular dystrophy, for example, where your muscles slowly fade away until you die of breathing failure in your early 30s or so. That kind of disease is absolutely horrible and we shouldn't let fear of genetical engineering stop us from trying to eradicating it. Science doesn't have to be a slippery slope even though it certainly can be.
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    Dating - I love the way you swipe

    I grew a beard a month ago and since then I’ve hooked up with a girl who in no uncertain terms said I looked hot in it. That’s the first time since summer since I hooked up with anyone, so I say it’s the beard.
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    Exercise and Fitness: bro science debunked

    I met a friend at a party yesterday. To everyone‘s surprise, he declined the offer of wine and instead asked for a glass of water. He also looked much fitter than I’d ever seen him. He usually drinks lots of beer (and I do mean a lot), smokes and does some other drugs too, and has a quite fragile mental health. But his new drug is exercise, he explained, and he was to get up early for a training session the next day, hence the water. I think this is super cool, that at the age of 36 you can have such an experience. He said he felt great being in good shape, being able to do things he never could do before. Just got a little inspired and wanted to share that.
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    Dutch man sues to change his legal age

    Ok I just now read the article. I guess the part that actually makes sense is that he wants to postpone his retirement benefits in exchange for a fair chance at getting a job. At that point I could sympathise with the public stunt that I thought it was - to highlight age discrimination. Then he said the part about not wanting to lie in dating apps and compared it to transgender rights and immediately he showed what an idiot and asshole he really is.
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    Dutch man sues to change his legal age

    I will watch this with interest. Maybe he’s right and it goes down well with the ladies?
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    Dating - I love the way you swipe

    This is sort of what makes me stand using dating apps. What’s a dealbreaker to you might be a dealmaker for someone else. I’m trying to think like that so I won’t feel so horrible swiping people away. I’m sure there are plenty of guys who are into girls taking selfies at the gym while making the same duckface in every picture. I just don’t happen to be one of them.
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    Dating - I love the way you swipe

    I know, Fifty Shades probably wasn’t the best example of a literary dealbreaker. Hmm. Terry Goodkind maybe?
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    Dating - I love the way you swipe

    I think I would take kinder to a date having Mein Kampf in the bookshelf than, say, all the Fifty Shades volumes or a huge number of Harlequin Romance novels (let alone Ayn Rand). That said - having books at all these days should probably be regarded as a plus.
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    SpaceX's Big Falcon Topic 2

    That’s cool! The Viasat press release contains some more motivation behind the decision to go with the Falcon Heavy: http://investors.viasat.com/news-releases/news-release-details/viasat-spacex-enter-contract-future-viasat-3-satellite-launch
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    Dating - I love the way you swipe

    Now for a question of dating app manners: what’s the deal with people who just stop responding? Some conversations I’ve had lately: Her: You like horse riding I see? Me: Yeah, I started a couple of years ago, really like it, blah blah... Do you like horses too? Her: (Silence) or this one: Her (after saying nothing for over two weeks): Hi there, new week! Up to anything fun? Me: going to a party on Saturday, my friend’s wife turns 30, otherwise no plans. How about you? Her: (silence) Up to now I’ve just assumed that they got bored with me and decided to go chat with someone else, but this has happened so many times now that I’m at a loss how to explain it. Is there any way of politely saying “hey did you get my last message?”
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    Dating - I love the way you swipe

    I like the idea that you cannot know why things happened like they did, because you only have your side of the story (or even less: what you remember of your side of the story). Instead of trying to figure out what went wrong, try to accept that you don’t know. Or at least settle with a rational, nice and preferably simple explanation that sounds good and try to accept that. That’s what I’ve been doing with my failed marriage and I have to say it works pretty fine.
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    Dating - I love the way you swipe

    I just want to balance the thread with some advice of the shorter kind. To Liffguard: YES!! To Datepalm: DON’T!! That’s pretty much it.
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    UK Politics: Austerity has ended - More cuts to come.

    “Europe protects us from our politicians” ”Best deal Brexit = Repeal Brexit” ”Where are the magical unicorns you promised us?” ”I never liked Scotland anyway”
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    Career Dead-Ended

    Being a child of the, uh, whatever it was called when you graduated in 2009, I have a somewhat different experience than you. I’ve switched jobs 3 times due to layoffs and closures (and once on my own accord), but every single time I’ve managed to land a new job before I even had to quit the old one. And while it was certainly no fun, I also learned not to fear switching jobs. This is my advice: - Look for a new job. Don’t accept to work somewhere you don’t feel appreciated unless you’ve got like two years to retirement. How many more years are you going to spend feeling miserable? Is your time here on Earth long enough to spend on a lousy job? - Do wait with resigning until you’ve signed on for the new job. Just quitting is never a good idea unless you feel your current workplace is so bad it’s a danger to your mental or physical health. - Don’t limit yourself to looking only in your current niche. Don’t know what you’re doing but maybe there are similar (or even quite different) areas where your skills could be wanted? Try to think outside the box. Maybe you can even start your own company? - Don’t be afraid, and don’t buy into the false security of having worked a long time for the same company. The corporate overlords (your words, not mine) don’t have your back. They won’t hesitate to chuck your entire business segment if they think it would improve the profits. Only you will look out for yourself, and the only real safety there is lies in doing a good job and staying attractive on the job market. - Do what feels right to you. Don’t accept a job that doesn’t feel good even though it’s highly paid or whatever. Good luck!
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    Dating - I love the way you swipe

    Theda and Liffguard: thanks (and hugs!). I’ll try to keep up the dating. If I start setting goals like “I want to lose 15 pounds before dating again” it probably won’t happen ever. I really don’t want to end up in the eternal comfort zone that singleness is, and it feels so easy to do just that.
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    Dating - I love the way you swipe

    Two days ago I chatted with two different girls on Tinder. One seems super cute and a very careful person, asking me a lot of questions and having a very detailed description on her profile what she wants from a date (we have a lot of common interests). The other girl seems more relaxed, comes from Poland but speaks six or seven languages and likes adventures and sailing, which is a big plus because it’s my passion too. I think both would be interesting to meet on a date, and I should probably try to set that up. My problem is that I’m having sort of a bad mood period right now. I don’t know why, but I’m struggling with finding the energy to go to the gym, I’m not getting much done at work, I’m tired and unfocused all the time and I just generally feel unworthy of dating. Like, why should someone else like me when I don’t even like myself? Anyone else who has any experience with this? Is it better to stay off dating until you’ve regained your confidence or is that just a bad idea that leads to more loneliness?
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    UK Politics: This Country is Going to the Moggs

    Thanks for the many and enlightening replies! Johnson’s decision not to run does make some more sense knowing about the Gove backstabbing story.
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    UK Politics: This Country is Going to the Moggs

    I’m not from the UK but am following the Brexit spectacle with some fascination. I read a Guardian article on the Tory conference and it seems like BoJo was criticising May and the EU equally on the Brexit negotiations. Now for my question: Can someone please remind me what his official reason was for not running for PM directly after the Brexit side won the election and Cameron stepped down? I mean, we all realise it’s because he’d promised impossible unicorns and knew he couldn’t pull it off, so preferred to stay on the sidelines telling people how badly they run things and if only he was in charge he’d do it much better. Which is exactly what he’s doing now. But I just can’t see how he can get away with it. Why isn’t everyone’s answer “shut up Boris, you chose not to take this job so stop complaining about how we run it “? Surely his unwillingness to take responsibility for the situation he campaigned so hard for should rob him of any shred of credibility?
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    Dating - I love the way you swipe

    Tinder does make things easier. It’s got its pros and cons, but it sure beats the crap out of going to a bar, getting drunk and hoping to find someone that is right for you. What I particularly like is that it removes the voice in your head saying you’re an idiot for trying to hit on a girl like her, that she’s out of your league and so on. Doesn’t matter! Unless she likes you back, she won’t even know you liked her. This is the true genius of Tinder in my opinion.
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    UK Politics: This Country is Going to the Moggs

    But what if there’s a second referendum and Brexit wins again? Not impossible, is it?
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    Exercise and Fitness: Keep On Keepin' On

    So I received the new scale I ordered. Set it up nicely (it’s got Bluetooth and an app and everything). Then I stepped up on it. 91.4 kg! Whaaaat? That’s a personal maximum by like a 3 kg margin. I’m actually in a kind of shock right now. One year ago I weighed 84. I mean, I knew I’ve gained some weight but I would never have guessed it was this bad. (The gym that I go to has this dumb policy of not providing scales in any of their gyms and I haven’t got around to buying one until now.) Dieting it is then. Counting calories, calculating the right amount, sticking to it, checking my weight once a week. I simply refuse to be in such a bad shape. I want my good-looking, well-performing body back. Most importantly, I want to stop this trend. Sure, no one but me may think I’m fat right now, but another year of this and there will be no denying it. I’d rather not go there.
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    Exercise and Fitness: Keep On Keepin' On

    From what I’ve read creatine is indeed the real deal. It doesn’t do much for long-distance running, but gives the muscles an extra store of energy during anaerobic exercise. This is mainly interesting for athletes who do short sprints, like football players, track and field athletes or swimmers, but can also be used to increase the effect of gym training if done right. This review study for example found an average 8% increase in maximum strength compared to the placebo control group: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/m/pubmed/14636102/ Of course, like all such added nutrition it’s just a complement to a good exercise schedule and a good diet with lots of protein etc. If you don’t get the basics right, no amount of creatine will do you any good.
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    Exercise and Fitness: Keep On Keepin' On

    Ordered a scale last week so I can keep track of my weight. I’m sort of dreading to step up on it after a summer with lots of beer and very little exercise. But it was definitely worth it after the shitty winter I had. The plan is to... wait for it... lose weight and gain muscles! (Bet you never heard that one before.) And also regain some stamina, right now I feel horrible during the first few runs I’ve done. I’m thinking I want to try an energy restriction diet for the first time, including weighing my food, counting calories and calculating how much to eat. I don’t know yet how much I want to lose but probably no more than 3-4 kg. It shouldn’t take that long in theory but we’ll see how I do.
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