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What was up with the loving relation between Dany and Drogo?


Alyn Oakenfist

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Tywin Lannister was a mass murderer and rapist by proxy, yet he and Joanna were in love.  Marriages for love are unusual in this world, but it's not unusual for a woman to fall in love with a brutal warlord.   In real life, plenty of brutal warlords have had loved ones.

Martin certainly intended the love between Drogo and Daenerys to be real and genuine, even if some readers dispute this..  By Dothraki standards, he was enlightened in his treatment of her, and a big improvement on Viserys.

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7 hours ago, Alyn Oakenfist said:

So Drogo was a mass rapist and murderer, the living embodiment of the worst Dothraki culture has to offer. So where the pink Jesus did the "love" between him and Dany came from?

Because he was powerful, dangerous, handsome guy and he was good to her (for a dothraki). And she was beautiful, mysterious, cool and bright girl. It is not XXI century Europe. If you are told since you are little that sth is wrong, sinful, degrading then it is wrong, sinful, degrading, etc. Otherwise - not necessarily. 

somebody talking about rape and stockholm syndrome in 3.. 2.. 1...

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45 minutes ago, broken one said:

somebody talking about rape and stockholm syndrome in 3.. 2.. 1...

Not really. Dany begun to feel towards Drogo quite a long time after their relation became a lot more consensual. It wasn't rape and then we're in love, it was more rape, Dany slowly getting accustomed to power and taking a more active role, turning into something more and more consensual and then into a "loving" relation. I just don't get that last part

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On 10/21/2020 at 3:37 PM, broken one said:

Because he was powerful, dangerous, handsome guy and he was good to her (for a dothraki). And she was beautiful, mysterious, cool and bright girl. It is not XXI century Europe. If you are told since you are little that sth is wrong, sinful, degrading then it is wrong, sinful, degrading, etc. Otherwise - not necessarily. 

somebody talking about rape and stockholm syndrome in 3.. 2.. 1...

You rang :D

I read it completely like stockholm syndrome. Yeah, she still thinks nicely of him and how much they loved each other - but she hardly have had the introspective or maturity to reflect properly on what their marriage was. I'm thinking she might reconsider once she hits his age and sees how young a child of 12-13 really is, or has the same revelation as Jason in True Blood has about his sexy teacher after romanticising her for years and years.

Falling/feeling in love is a real part of the syndrome. 

Her having stockholm doesn't mean he didn't love her, or that they didn't both power trip on the stallion that mounts the world - it just means their marriage might not have been so consensual as she might like to remember.

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