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On 7/26/2022 at 4:19 PM, Toth said:

I guess that I'm still hurting very much about my ongoing isolation and continue to be clueless about how to get real life friends. Having spent the last three weeks at home isn't helping in that regard and given that I'm screaming this here out into the void, it seems I also have severe trouble processing any of that because of my lack of vents. And all this together caused me today to pretty much shut down and not do anything at all as I was crippled by my awareness of that extreme isolation. Life sucks.

I'm so sad for you.  I wish I had advice, but knowing nothing of where you live and so on, I don't.  Other, than, often it seems, animals help.  Even working in a stable, learning how to care for horses, is good for that sense of isolation -- but one has to like horses, presumably, to make this work?

This shouldn't be THE REASON to find work or activity at a stable, but stables tend to have a lot of women coming in and out, riding, working, boarding, etc.

If the only reason one goes to stables to meet women, that won't work out at all.  For one thing, the horses always, always -- or should -- come first, in everybody's minds. :thumbsup:

Horses, particularly those who have been raised and trained and treated right, are damned interesting all by themselves

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Controlled vents are okay. One of my friends and I had complaint passes for those days. I call a distress line sometimes. The only thing I could not support was her beginning to attack her husband because she was on a drug cocktail for OCD. Could explain once…apologize for heavens sake, but I was not going to be nice about that!

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I had an idea for an app long ago. I thought you should be able to rate songs according to the dominant emotion that is evoked with a value from 1-10. Then you could start with what you do not actually want to unload on someone who doesn’t deserve it. 

I have a broken ankle so I’m just making playlists. I have my angry one, headed by Lily Allen’s f you. I really liked Randy Rainbow for his cynical take on bad gun control. Tom Lehrer is always good and is also funny. Like colonel Bogies March because it’s defiant. Love Earl and others by the Chicks. Pumped Up Kicks is evil. The Wall works. 

Funny has The Blackfly by Wade Hemsworth…it’s clean for kids over 4. Pubic Hair by McClean and McClean and it’s dirty

Lively has Blondie, Straus, Hair, Gotta get up, Abba( for exercise) any swing.

Depresso: Back to Black, Beethoven’s fifth, cough syrup, Leonard Cohen

Rexation or meditation is mostly Deuter, but also some Simon and Garfunkel

Love Ojibway Country by Grit Laskin

True Love: Stand by Me and Pete’s dragon by Helen Reddy( it’s make you cry maybe)

 

I did my share of recycling music and adding lyrics appropriate to our classroom work. The society for creative anachronism has a clever word for this method.

The idea is that you make your own playlists and if it works right by expressing your real feelings, you do eventually get tired of your emotion and feel free to move on. Only do it if it helps. I have books about it.

 

 

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On 7/26/2022 at 1:19 PM, Toth said:

So it's summer break and I'm even more starved of social interactions as usual.

Are there volunteer opportunities available to you?  You might find likeminded people and working with them could possibly help you to come out of your shell a bit.  Might be worth a look.

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On 7/28/2022 at 11:18 PM, Zorral said:

I'm so sad for you.  I wish I had advice, but knowing nothing of where you live and so on, I don't.  Other, than, often it seems, animals help.  Even working in a stable, learning how to care for horses, is good for that sense of isolation -- but one has to like horses, presumably, to make this work?

Uhm, first, sorry that I hadn't replied to this and thanks. Though... well, I'm not a horse guy I guess. Seeing myself more as a gender swapped old cat lady.

Also not sure about the tangent about women being there. Is that in response to that previous post of mine where I had voiced my discomfort picking up hobbies for the sole purpose of meeting people? As I said, I find such an attitude extremely disingenuous and avoid it to not feel scummy.

On 8/5/2022 at 9:21 PM, LongRider said:

Are there volunteer opportunities available to you?  You might find likeminded people and working with them could possibly help you to come out of your shell a bit.  Might be worth a look.

Well, there is only one week left of my holiday and admittedly, even looking back I don't think working is exactly what I want to do with my free time when in a regular work week I don't have any of that.

So in the end I did spend all of it at home, mostly reading, writing, working out and studying. I must admit, after a while the loneliness stopped bothering me, though the days have become stupidly short.

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