Sober thread reborn.

[BigFatCoward]

So, the old one appears to have disappeared for some reason.  As mentioned in previous thread, sobriety is not something I have been aiming for, just a more healthy intake. 

I did go totally sober for a month prior to/just after my child being born pending possible hospital trips etc, I'm not going to lie I felt amazing, skin looked great, slept better etc.

Since then I have started again but the most I think I've had is 4 cans of pretty weak lager, whereas there were nights in the past where I could easily drink 10-12. I have been drinking a shit load of alcohol free beers (becks blue as its low in calories and its well cheap on amazon). 

It was nice to know I could give up pretty easily if I wanted to. In the 6 weeks or so since I first gave up I have lost about 4kg. 

[Mlle. Zabzie]

That’s great (and congratulations on the new small person!)

[LongRider]

I been sober since’93 and I like it.   Before that I drank my fair share (and then some) and just haven’t missed it. 
shrug, for me sobriety just is, no big deal. 

[mcbigski]

59 minutes ago, Chataya de Fleury said:

Damn it, it’s my only vice!!! 

I was raised Catholic.

[LongRider]

40 minutes ago, mcbigski said:

I was raised Catholic.

Me too!  I survived Catholic school and have been a happy Atheist since age 18.

1 hour ago, Chataya de Fleury said:

That’s like me and quitting smoking. I smoked my last cigarette 24 years ago and never care to have another one.

I quit smoking a couple of years before quitting drinking. That was hard and took years and many tries.  
Now I’m like, well, people smoke, that’s their choice so be it.  Can’t stand cigarettes,  don’t mind smokers.   Smoke  ‘em if you gottem I guess.

 

[LongRider]

I quit smoking in ‘89, drinking in ‘93 and gambling some time mid-late 90s.   Working in casinos for 10 + years ‘bout did me in.  

Thankfully all that Catholic guilt eventually helped me to clean up, and somewhere along the line I left the guilt behind too. 

I like being sober, I got plenty of issues of course, but my old habits aren’t some of them.  

I don’t know if I would date a smoker, wouldn’t date a heavy drinker that’s for sure, and no casino trips for me. 

 

[BigFatCoward]

If alcohol contained fewer calories I would have less of a reason to keep it under control. In my late 20s when I was single with a big disposable income I estimate I was having about 6000 calories a week from booze. But you can get away with it when you are young with a good metabolism. 

[The Anti-Targ]

On 6/20/2021 at 11:57 PM, BigFatCoward said:

So, the old one appears to have disappeared for some reason.  As mentioned in previous thread, sobriety is not something I have been aiming for, just a more healthy intake. 

I did go totally sober for a month prior to/just after my child being born pending possible hospital trips etc, I'm not going to lie I felt amazing, skin looked great, slept better etc.

Since then I have started again but the most I think I've had is 4 cans of pretty weak lager, whereas there were nights in the past where I could easily drink 10-12. I have been drinking a shit load of alcohol free beers (becks blue as its low in calories and its well cheap on amazon). 

It was nice to know I could give up pretty easily if I wanted to. In the 6 weeks or so since I first gave up I have lost about 4kg. 

If you like cider there are some good alcohol-free ones. The best one I've had is a NZ made brand so probably not available in your neck of the woods, but there is a decent German one though it is sweeter and has basically no brewed taste, so tastes more like apple soda, it is also not low in carbs. The NZ made one is low in carbs.

My favourite zero alcohol beer is Bavaria IPA, made in The Netherlands but called Bavaria, go figure. They do a nice zero alcohol wheat beer too, if you're into that sort of thing.

[Isis]

On 7/5/2021 at 3:24 AM, Chataya de Fleury said:

I admit, I kind of judge people who smoke. This is totally due to my own baggage that I would need to work through if I ever got involved with someone who smoked. 

It’s wrapped up in my feelings about my second ex-husband and his addiction issues. There’s a lot of emotional baggage associated with my second ex-husband.

THEORETICALLY and on a total non-personal level, hey, “smoke ‘em if you got ‘em”. But on a “would I date this person who smokes?” That answer is “no”.

After I started seeing my (now husband) I went from being a social smoker (i.e. once a month or so I would smoke a few when drunk) to not smoking at all within a year. Haven't smoked since then (2011). If I were to start dating again ever, I would not date a smoker. I asked my husband this lots of times -  whether smoking would be a deal breaker for him, if he was dating, going forwards (he's been a non smoker for about 20 years). He said he couldn't be absolute about it because that would narrow the pool too much. 

I'm the same as you. I wouldn't date a smoker.

And congrats to BFG on the non-drinking. Low/no ABV beers are so much better these days. We had some at the weekend as my parents drove to visit our new place and after he had sampled our latest homebrew I didn't want my dad to be drinking alcohol. Adnams do a couple of nice ones.