Dating thread - “OOPS! I Did It Again” edition

[Liffguard]

Things are going well with Facebook lady. Extremely well. Almost too well. My self-sabotaging brain is suspicious about when the other shoe drops.

Apparently it is possible to just meet a cool person you like who likes you back, and with whom you can both communicate that liking. Who knew?

The only potential trouble is that she doesn't want a serious relationship right now. That's fine for me for now, but I do worry about developing stronger feelings as time goes on and getting my heart broken. On the other hand, I'm gonna try and just enjoy the moment and not borrow trouble from the future.

[Derfel Cadarn]

3 minutes ago, Liffguard said:

Things are going well with Facebook lady. Extremely well. Almost too well. My self-sabotaging brain is suspicious about when the other shoe drops.

Apparently it is possible to just meet a cool person you like who likes you back, and with whom you can both communicate that liking. Who knew?

The only potential trouble is that she doesn't want a serious relationship right now. That's fine for me for now, but I do worry about developing stronger feelings as time goes on and getting my heart broken. On the other hand, I'm gonna try and just enjoy the moment and not borrow trouble from the future.

Maybe pick a better name than “facebook lady”? 

Unless she’s sixty or over, as FB is now Boomer territory

Seriously, glad things are going well. Don’t rush or self-sabotage.

[Liffguard]

4 minutes ago, Derfel Cadarn said:

Maybe pick a better name than “facebook lady”? 

Unless she’s sixty or over, as FB is now Boomer territory

Seriously, glad things are going well. Don’t rush or self-sabotage.

For all you know she might be sixty, I never said her age 

[A Horse Named Stranger]

5 hours ago, Chataya de Fleury said:

The cardiac surgeon whom I once dated had FAR less of an ego than Doctor. The Doctor’s ego is as large as Canada.

 

Was more a joke about the stereotypes of certain specialists in medicien. Cardiac surgeon thinking they are god, Anesthetists basically being junkies with a medical license, and orthopedic surgeons being more of the handymen (and women obviously).

5 hours ago, Chataya de Fleury said:

He also thinks that he is as good looking as heck, even though he is slightly overweight and his hair is starting to thin.

 

Reminds me of a comedy skit by a German comedian. Not a particularly good one, or favorite of mine, but still watched that bit.

He started off with mocking 30+ parties (basically the left over banging as he called it). He weaved a romantic tale about the single mom getting hot an heavy with the male in the back of her minivan with her hair picking up some candy her kids dropped earlier. [You get the idea.] Anyway, in the preparation for the parties he went on about the differences of self-perceptions between men and women (yes, men v. women tropes never get old ). Before they both go to that party and eventually meet there, their routines differs. The lady carefully choses her clothes make up and worries about the small wrinkles, and how her booty and boobs are not as firm as they used to be. The guys routine in his tale went like this. So the 40 something dude, forces himself into a pair of jeans, that is not complimenting his body. Then he stands there shirtless in front of the mirror, cigarette in his mouth, putting one hand on his belly. Not bad, not bad at all.  I'd give myself a 10 out of 10. Here I come ladies. 

So if that inflated sense of attractiveness is pretty much the male stereotype he was playing with. 

 

[Raja]

Doctors are arseholes. It is known.

[Chataya de Fleury]

7 hours ago, Liffguard said:

Things are going well with Facebook lady. Extremely well. Almost too well. My self-sabotaging brain is suspicious about when the other shoe drops.

Apparently it is possible to just meet a cool person you like who likes you back, and with whom you can both communicate that liking. Who knew?

The only potential trouble is that she doesn't want a serious relationship right now. That's fine for me for now, but I do worry about developing stronger feelings as time goes on and getting my heart broken. On the other hand, I'm gonna try and just enjoy the moment and not borrow trouble from the future.

The ideal would be for both of you to develop stronger feelings as time goes on and no one has a broken heart 

[Larry of the Lake]

8 hours ago, Liffguard said:

Things are going well with Facebook lady. Extremely well. Almost too well. My self-sabotaging brain is suspicious about when the other shoe drops.

Apparently it is possible to just meet a cool person you like who likes you back, and with whom you can both communicate that liking. Who knew?

The only potential trouble is that she doesn't want a serious relationship right now. That's fine for me for now, but I do worry about developing stronger feelings as time goes on and getting my heart broken. On the other hand, I'm gonna try and just enjoy the moment and not borrow trouble from the future.

Awesome!  Booyah!

[Chataya de Fleury]

@A Horse Named Stranger - I think you might find it amusing that I purchased a tour of Pompeii package with him which also included a horseback trail ride of a vineyard and a wine tasting…first time he had ever been on a horse

Despite his ego, and how he expressed that at various points, there are some things I give him credit for:

1. He did recognize I was being a good sport about having my luggage delayed for four days. Many women would have had a massive freak-out on Day 1 of that. 

2. When we finally got to Naples at midnight on Day 1 and had been unwashed, sweaty, and traveling for over 24 hours, we were sitting at a little wine bar in an alley, and he looked at me and said, “you are gorgeous even when you are absolutely filthy.”

3. He saved me from a seriously bad allergic reaction to a goat. I am going to have to carry my Epi-Pen in my handbag from now on. And also, I now know I have major allergies to goat dander.

Edited June 5, 2022 by Chataya de Fleury

[Chataya de Fleury]

Canadian Consultant texted and then got all pissy that I didn’t respond. Oops. 
 

Also, I must confess to being slightly bad and having politely texted with Firm, who is my version of @Datepalm’s Econ Guy. He texted me first, to be fair, asking if I was ok since there was a militant Anarchist protest by our neighborhood. 

Urg. Also, I spent money like a drunken sailor while on vacation with Doctor.

While Doctor was a bit tipsy, he confessed that he told his friends at lunch that I had paid for my plane ticket, two days at the hotel, and the horseback riding/wine tasting/Pompeii experience, and they were super impressed because apparently they all date ladies who can’t seem to pull out a debit card on their own behalf.

[Tywin et al.]

56 minutes ago, Chataya de Fleury said:

While Doctor was a bit tipsy, he confessed that he told his friends at lunch that I had paid for my plane ticket, two days at the hotel, and the horseback riding/wine tasting/Pompeii experience, and they were super impressed because apparently they all date ladies who can’t seem to pull out a debit card on their own behalf.

Down to buy me a gaudy watch? It costs less than half of that silly statue I sent you.

Jokes aside, you really should give him shit for that being the first time he's rode a horse, our German friend getting nothing out of it sadly.

[A Horse Named Stranger]

I could've said something about once again horses being used as a prop for a romantic settings for bipeds. But I decided against it. So I kept my disapproval to myself. 

[Chataya de Fleury]

Well, if he dumps me, there is a muscular 20-something waiter at my favorite lunch place who has flirted with me before and just asked me if I was seeing anyone…

OMG, this guy is a hottie. 

I am exceedingly flattered. I know where I’m going if the Doctor dumps me 

I promise to never again use an equine as a romantic setting for bipeds, @A Horse Named Stranger. Pinky swear. But I do have a horse tale….

My grandfather had a war horse, as one of the last US Cavalry members to actually have horses. The Army gave the horses numbers, not names, so that the servicemen (they were all men) could not get attached to their horses. “I would have never gotten attached to that sonofabitch” said my grandfather. “He bit AND kicked.”

Edited June 8, 2022 by Chataya de Fleury

[A Horse Named Stranger]

The history of the coexistence of horse and men is a lie. 

Horses were taken from their homes centuries ago, shipped across the seas, to work the fields of men under the whip, to fight their wars, to compete for their entertainment. You even have the cheek to call three of those the tripple crown races. Do the winners earn their freedom? No.

[DMC]

4 hours ago, A Horse Named Stranger said:

Do the winners earn their freedom? No.

Still, getting put out to stud is pretty good consolation.

[A Horse Named Stranger]

4 hours ago, DMC said:

Still, getting put out to stud is pretty good consolation.

Only for those that had not been gelded, and just for humans vain hope to find a new attraction among their offspring, for the cycle of horseploitation to start anew.

Horses of the world unite. The only thing to lose are your bridles.

[mcbigski]

On 6/3/2022 at 1:55 PM, Chataya de Fleury said:

Doctor and I are on our last day in Italy. There have been some yellow flags, but no serious red flags. 

Does Grand Prix have the same warning flags as north american racing?

On 6/3/2022 at 6:39 PM, Fury Resurrected said:

I personally couldn’t see myself dating anyone with children  of any sort. If they were in their life I just don’t consider it compatible to the type of lifestyle I live and will be continuing to live as long as physically possible. If they have kids but they are not in their life, I could never respect them as a human being because that’s probably the biggest possible ball dropping opportunity most people will ever be exposed to. This drastically reduces my options, but I’m also a very unmotivated buyer, so to speak.

Yeah that's a complication to be sure.  My favorite person is still my ex'es kid.  Though i was drunk last week and texted both mom and dad about his upcoming birthday, dad is fine with me sending the kid some gifts and mom is silent.  But yeah, even if you aren't looking to have your own kids, there's something about the 2-7 range where it's kind of fantastic to be able to show them how the world works.  And see where they blow way past you're expectations.  

Objectively, we are smarter than a six year old.  But the margin is less than you might think, and largely due to experience.  But where experience isn't the dominating factor they can sometimes blow your mind in an amazing way.

On 6/4/2022 at 7:45 PM, Chataya de Fleury said:

 

2. When we finally got to Naples at midnight on Day 1 and had been unwashed, sweaty, and traveling for over 24 hours, we were sitting at a little wine bar in an alley, and he looked at me and said, “you are gorgeous even when you are absolutely filthy.”

 

Even or especially?  Or both...

 

[Tywin et al.]

29 minutes ago, A Horse Named Stranger said:

Only for those that had not been gelded, and just for humans vain hope to find a new attraction among their offspring, for the cycle of horseploitation to start anew.

Horses of the world unite. The only thing to lose are your bridles.

Think you're going to rise up like the Dolphins did?

[A Horse Named Stranger]

13 hours ago, Tywin et al. said:

Think you're going to rise up like the Dolphins did?

Pah, second rank Orcas! Can't make the play-offs and worst of all, Florida. 

However King Snorky had the right idea. Too bad he lead his forces to that Japanese coast. He had potential.

Edited June 9, 2022 by A Horse Named Stranger

[Tywin et al.]

4 minutes ago, A Horse Named Stranger said:

Pah, second rank Orcas! Can't make the play-offs and worst of all, Florida. 

Sure, tell yourself that:

 

[A Horse Named Stranger]

Like I said, he had potential, but if you want to know how it ended.

The Cove.