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39 minutes ago, Toth said:

I guess, I'm still comparably young, but it just hits me I'm getting 30 in a few months. Aside neck pain and having to be more conscious about my weight, I... well, most of the time it still feels like I'm just pretending to be an adult. Everyone just seems to have their shit together so much more, meanwhile I'm almost the same guy with 29 that I was with 19. And now I'm not the youngest teacher at my school anymore, but all the new younger ones also have wife and kids and have seen so much of the world and here I'm still living with my mother constantly worry about how they'd react if they ever found out...

Wife+kids /= shit together. I've been a teacher for nearly as long as I've been on this board and I've seen hundreds of parents who are an outright trainwreck on their own and are busily passing that wreckage on to their children.

You're doing fine. :)

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3 hours ago, Toth said:

I guess, I'm still comparably young, but it just hits me I'm getting 30 in a few months. Aside neck pain and having to be more conscious about my weight, I... well, most of the time it still feels like I'm just pretending to be an adult.

99% of adulthood is pretending you know what you're doing. Trust me on this. Everyone else is doing it too. I know I am. 

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On 2/17/2023 at 1:32 PM, BigFatCoward said:

All except the highlighted for me at 46. When I wake up I feel like I was in a car crash the day before. I ache everywhere.  However there is nothing 'properly' wrong with me which I'm thankful for. 

Pretty much the same at 48. Lower back pain sometimes even wakes me the fuck up.

I remember turning 40 haven't hit me at all, but recently I got an invitation for a 30th anniversary of graduating high school, and it did the job allright. I fuckin graduated the day before yesterday!

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Some measure of the frequency this has been occurring to me lately is probably reflected in my avoidance of this thread on title alone until now; though to be fair I thought it would be a bit more about the world going loopy. But the unavoidable tread of existential dread which makes up most of this was also part of my avoidance. 
 

I guess the surprise is that the first couple pages anyways have so far managed to make me feel relatively young, which makes for a nice change from how chasing twin just-turned-3 dynamos makes me feel on a regular basis, as well as all the things I’m already doing as a parent (worrying 24/7, things like seeing every sign of precocious intelligence as much a danger as a joy, thinking people who call at like 8 must have some crisis to explain calling in the middle of the night, and most of all licking my fingers to wash something off their face which 5 year old me SWORE he would never do to his children) that surprise and occasionally discourage me, so that was nice. 
 

Just looked up my join date; March 2012. So over a decade ago; seems longer and shorter, like most reviews of the passage. Anyways, you have become an important little part of my life, you collection of angels, weirdos and interesting individuals. Even some Stannis fans…maybe, one day, after you admit you’re wrong.


 

 

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Purchased a bundle of Atari 2600 games for my Xbox last year. That's the system I played as a young child and I love retro games. I thought it'd be great, but I only got a bit of fun out of them. They were finally too dated to play long. I ended up using the chess program mostly. 

I do sometimes play NES games and still enjoy those, however. I definitely fear the day they become too dated to enjoy.

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55 minutes ago, Martell Spy said:

Purchased a bundle of Atari 2600 games for my Xbox last year. That's the system I played as a young child and I love retro games. I thought it'd be great, but I only got a bit of fun out of them. They were finally too dated to play long. I ended up using the chess program mostly. 

I do sometimes play NES games and still enjoy those, however. I definitely fear the day they become too dated to enjoy.

Lol, look at the videogames thread, I've been playing The Elder Scrolls 1 for several hours this weekend and despite me being annoyed by some features, I still find the history lesson fascinating. I guess it's the same reason why I have that C64 on a shelf and while I haven't actually booted it up in years, I still remember fondly some of the games for it.

55 minutes ago, Jaxom 1974 said:

I had someone guess my age as 42 the other day and I smiled so much...

Well, the age guessing is also one of the things that confuse me. Absolute strangers and students who don't know I'm a teacher still judge me as underage, probably because of my misshapen tiny head. My own students also tend to go for the lowest number they think someone can become a teacher with. I'm starting to finally treat it as a compliment, though also combined with a concern that not looking my age doesn't do me any favors in getting treated like an adult.

4 hours ago, mormont said:

99% of adulthood is pretending you know what you're doing. Trust me on this. Everyone else is doing it too. I know I am. 

Well, thanks. I'm trying to see it like that.

7 hours ago, Lightning Lord said:

Wife+kids /= shit together. I've been a teacher for nearly as long as I've been on this board and I've seen hundreds of parents who are an outright trainwreck on their own and are busily passing that wreckage on to their children.

You're doing fine. :)

I know, I know. But that's not exactly the kind of lowest bar I want to compare myself to.^^

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17 hours ago, Toth said:

I guess, I'm still comparably young, but it just hits me I'm getting 30 in a few months. Aside neck pain and having to be more conscious about my weight, I... well, most of the time it still feels like I'm just pretending to be an adult. Everyone just seems to have their shit together so much more, meanwhile I'm almost the same guy with 29 that I was with 19. And now I'm not the youngest teacher at my school anymore, but all the new younger ones also have wife and kids and have seen so much of the world and here I'm still living with my mother constantly worry about how they'd react if they ever found out...

Meh. I turned 32 today, and am currently doing the same. I wouldn’t worry about it. It just makes good financial sense. 
 

The last apartment I had cost me $731 a month.

Now I pay $420 a month to my mother for a room she doesn’t use, and I keep the other $300.

 

That’s $5,000 a year to her that would otherwise have gone to a complete stranger, while I pocket the rest.

 

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6 hours ago, A True Kaniggit said:

Meh. I turned 32 today, and am currently doing the same. I wouldn’t worry about it. It just makes good financial sense. 
 

The last apartment I had cost me $731 a month.

Now I pay $420 a month to my mother for a room she doesn’t use, and I keep the other $300.

 

That’s $5,000 a year to her that would otherwise have gone to a complete stranger, while I pocket the rest.

I'm doing something similar - I've moved my "office" from my dining/living room to my old room at my Mom's place. I have everything I'd have in some office space or rented apartment while paying much less for it and on top of that I'm seeing my Mom on a daily basis.

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18 hours ago, A True Kaniggit said:

Meh. I turned 32 today, and am currently doing the same. I wouldn’t worry about it. It just makes good financial sense. 
 

The last apartment I had cost me $731 a month.

Now I pay $420 a month to my mother for a room she doesn’t use, and I keep the other $300.

 

That’s $5,000 a year to her that would otherwise have gone to a complete stranger, while I pocket the rest.

 

Do you wanna be my kid, because for realz, all I have to do is pay.

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Okay, fuck. This morning I got... the most insane proof how I apparently just stopped aging and maturing in any way when I should have and naturally why other people can't see me as an adult either. I went to buy a lighter this morning (to make wax seals for a prop). And had to show my ID. Because lighters get only sold to people of age 12 and above.

I... I'm already used to always show my ID when I buy alcoholic pralines for my mother, but... this is new...

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13 hours ago, Toth said:

Okay, fuck. This morning I got... the most insane proof how I apparently just stopped aging and maturing in any way when I should have and naturally why other people can't see me as an adult either. I went to buy a lighter this morning (to make wax seals for a prop). And had to show my ID. Because lighters get only sold to people of age 12 and above.

I... I'm already used to always show my ID when I buy alcoholic pralines for my mother, but... this is new...

My wife got id'd buying alcohol free beer in her 30s, don't sweat it. 

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3 hours ago, BigFatCoward said:

My wife got id'd buying alcohol free beer in her 30s, don't sweat it. 

I got Id’d buying a pint in a pub when I was 38, 6 years ago.

Of course, having a kid a year or two later sped up the aging process. 

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