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RIP EHK

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I think HK stood for Hunter-Killer, as in HK-47, the assassin droid from the Knights of the Old Republic video games. When I first joined the board he was going by Enlightenment-HK, and his avatar was briefly a picture of HK-47, IIRC, along with the custom title "Internet Warmonger," unless I'm confusing things somehow.

Wasn't that LQ? Maybe not.

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Me too. And a little terrified, that such a strong and vibrant spirit can be so suddenly silenced.

I posted a rant about Death to the Memorial Rant thread.

Seems impossible, doesn't it.

Never will there be a boarder who waxes so eloquently and intelligently with one word: fuck.

He did love that word, didn't he? I smile just thinking about it.

i therefore look forward to rereading EHK's contributions to this forum, both in mitigation of the horrible dearth that his absence creates, and will continue to create, but also with expectation that his words, which rewrite through force and charm the minds of thoe who read them, will continue to inspire, intrigue, and improve his numerous and devoted readership.

So true.

While EHK came across sometimes as overbearing to the undiscerning, you could sense the thoughtful, open-minded guy behind the curtain. You couldn't help but feel affection for him.

He WILL be missed tremendously. I don't have the words. :cry:

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Yeah, I would definitely sign off on that. I've been thinking of him all day today. This is a helluva loss.

Please Mya, add my name as well. I was thinking about this all day yesterday and I was close to tears. Now it's another day and I'm still depressed and wondering how on earth this is possible.

This place will never be the same without EHK. He was one of the best and brightest here and I wish I had the eloquence to describe how his death is affecting me. RIP Tom. I'm sorry I never got to know you better.

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So I'm fairly new to this board and I'm still trying to learn my way around the forums and recognize user names. EHK's was one that I noticed early on most likely due to being from a similar location. But even then I only opened this thread out of mild curiosity.

And then I read his obituary and realized...omg I went to school with him. I didn't really know him that well but this real life connection makes what was just a name on an internet board a real person. Just a short year ago it was graduation and now this...

I'm sorry that I didn't find this board sooner and didn't realize someone I was crossing paths with was someone with whom I could have had some good real life conversations with.

I'm going to make a few phone calls and see if anyone we went to school with is going to be able to make the funeral.

My condolences to the family.

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Ro - Thank you for reporting what you've heard from Chris. Thank you Chris as well for having the decency to inform all of us of what happened. It must not have been an easy thing but clearly you can see that your brother was a beloved person on this board.

I'm having a reaction similar to what Bones said. I don't get emotional too often but I sure as fuck have now.

I remember not too long ago when I was a true n00b I noticed this guy with this Reagan avatar. The picture itself was ambiguous....I couldn't tell if it was praising Reagan or mocking him. In true n00b fashion I pm'd EHK to ask. He responded quite politely. I did notice shortly after that he had a new sig which said something like "Yes, I have a Reagan av. No, I don't need to explain it. You figure it out."

I'm also saddened because I've only recently discovered the crack that is Civ 4 and EHK was one of the key contributors to that thread.

Please add my name to any signature of any kind.

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Ro, thanks for reporting what Chris said. Appreciate it. Chris, thanks for keeping tabs on the thread. Your brother impacted us in many ways, moreso than I think he even knew. Might I suggest you join the crack known as the board? We're a good lot, for the most part. :)

I am going to type what I wrote in the thread in an email formally and send it out.

Please shoot me a PM if you want your name on there. I'm at work till 7AM, and I usually have the board up. (I'm real busy, you see...)

I, too, have had a heavy heart all day. :(

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I'd love to sign Mya's thing. Is there something I need to do to make sure that gets done besides post here?

If we're gonna use our real names I'd rather not post mine here, but I'd happily PM one of you.

Edit... Bah. Mya beat me

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RIP EHK!!!!!!!!!!!

:(

i definitely enjoyed reading his posts, and i would love to see how he would respond to his own memorial thread! it would be classic, full of fucks and tough love and ranting as was damn near everything he wrote.

dude was super intelligent, to the point i never disagreed with him out of fear of getting thoroughly trounced!

:cheers: we'll see you when we get there man! R.I.P.

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Sometimes the world works in mysterious ways. I was listening to NPR today and their music critic was in to do his "three best songs of the year so far." I don't know what kind of tunes our friend liked but one of today's songs was by a new band called The Low Anthem. They feature a male singer with what I would describe as an otherworldly voice. Today's song: Charlie Darwin

Crushes my heart to little pieces. I might change by name to Triskele for EHK.

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I was on both sides of arguments with him, it was good, stimulating fun either way. I'll miss him.

RIP, EHK

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Ro, thanks for reporting what Chris said. Appreciate it. Chris, thanks for keeping tabs on the thread. Your brother impacted us in many ways, moreso than I think he even knew. Might I suggest you join the crack known as the board? We're a good lot, for the most part. :)

I am going to type what I wrote in the thread in an email formally and send it out.

Please shoot me a PM if you want your name on there. I'm at work till 7AM, and I usually have the board up. (I'm real busy, you see...)

I, too, have had a heavy heart all day. :(

Thanks again Mya for doing this, (as someone who has recently gone through a death of a close family member/friend) I KNOW it will mean a to EHK's family and friends.

And will be cathartic/healing for us boarders. :grouphug:

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Just a thought, if there is going to be a fundraiser for the $80 what about adding a little more to buy flowers for the memorial service? I know we could send flowers individually, but there are so many of us who can't be there because of distance or other reasons, I just really think having a single arrangement from "the board" being there would be quite appropriate.

Dammit, I'm tearing up again.

My most sincerest condolences to you and your family Chris.

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I only found out about it this morning. I remember rocking back into my office chair, just... holy shit. Unfortunately, or fortunately depending on how you look at it, I had to get on with work. But it's been with me all day, and I'm not sure how to process these feelings. A little guilt. Some regret. Chagrin, even a bit of embarrassment. Above all, however, there's a profound respect.

When I returned after a few years away, new marriage, kid, all that, I remember marvelling at how much EHK had changed in my absence. I discovered I now wanted to argue with him but for entirely different reasons, and strangely, from time to time, was amazed at my reluctance to turn away from the computer because of my family or my work. I'd do so, while really wishing I had the time to engage his arguments on some topics. There was this late night chat, see. We managed that night to mend some fences. Shortly thereafter, within a few days, we'd proceeded to misread each other in a religious thread. But since we'd had that talk, face-to-face as it were, free of the remove, that liberating yet misleading distance that exists between two people who merely post at each other, we managed to stop our argument on our own. Hell, we even made cool in the thread instead of ignoring each other for weeks.

Maybe I'm being selfish, now I think about it. But fuck you.

In the span of roughly eight years he went from being a n00b trainwreck that was everything except conservative yet decidely uber rightwing, to a grudgingly respected adversary, to someone I measured myself against and actually looked forward to talking to in chat. If there's anything his death has taught me, that I've absorbed and am able to dredge to the surface already-- it's that I definitely have to try harder with the friendships I have, and be open to all of those that could be had.

Put me on that list, Sarah.

~*~

When someone you know passes away, you always think about your own mortality. I know I do. And for atheists like EHK and myself, the end of life has a heavy note of finality. I don't believe in the afterlife, and neither did EHK. I suppose he'll know for sure, one way or another, by now...

I commented on it earlier in chat, but catching up on this thread and reading your post brought it back to mind, Terra. It's a nice thought, thinking that despite EHK's leanings in that regard, that he now might actually be sitting on a cloud somewhere, looking down with his chin in hand, thinking--

FUCK.

edited a few times for clarity

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When I first posted here, i was 18 and EHK was the first poster i recognized by handle. I remember seeing the old reagan pic and flag he had going then and knowing I should read .

I always try to think that Im half in and half out being a member of this thing, but seeing this news makes me reflect on how much this place really has become a part of me, how much EHK is a part of this place, and how much of an impact this guy has had on me. Id make long ass posts in the MLB threads just to bait him into coming back and love every second of his response. He was really the best.

I live right near the Map Room, a bar in chicago EHK mentioned liking numerously, and I always assumed some westeros event would land there and Id get to meet him. Ive wanted to meet him for years. Its incredibly sad that hes gone. Incredibly. It really seems like we have to deal with loss too much and too often.

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Just a thought, if there is going to be a fundraiser for the $80 what about adding a little more to buy flowers for the memorial service? I know we could send flowers individually, but there are so many of us who can't be there because of distance or other reasons, I just really think having a single arrangement from "the board" being there would be quite appropriate.

I like that idea as well & would be happy to contribute.

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Sad news.

As prolific a poster as he was and as contentious as we both could be, I don't recall have many exchanges with EHK. But he's the kind of guy who, if you said he hated me, I would have told you that I could respect that. Because EHK was real and he fucking put it out there. A quality we should all cherish and one that will make his presence missed.

EHK had elan.

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I've been trying to work up to a custom title for EVER, so it seems.

I realized I was getting close a few days ago. Then I was worried that I wouldn't know what to put. My mind wet blank.

I hit 700 tonight and didn't even have to think twice. It felt so right.

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I like the flower idea as well.

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My deepest condolences to you and to your family. EHK's posts were always entertaining and intelligent, and I will miss them.

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Something like....

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I would sign this letter as well.

I really didn't know what I should write yesterday other than the few words I left, and I'm still in the process of realising. I also had to stop trying to find some quotes and reading some of his posts, because it was too soon and it just hit the point home that his life was interrupted and ended in the middle of many things and thoughts.

I rarely interacted directly with him in discussions, because I often felt inadequat to discuss on his level, but I read many of his posts ever since I came to this forum (almost four years back). He was so well-read on many topics and mastered the use of language. Whenever I talk to people outside of this forum about things discussed here - be it politics, religion or history - I often referenced to something he wrote, in order to explain a certain point of view. He is also one of the persons that made me change my perception of US Americans and I valued his unique perspective on many topics, even if I would disagree on details.

For people who knew him personally, the shock and the grief must be much greater.

I really wish I would have know him better and interacted a bit more with him, but even so I will really miss him.

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I'm willing to set up and link a ChipIn. It's better if the person receiving the funds is in the U.S. however, I'm guessing, and preferably if they have a merchant account so that those who just have a credit card can also donate funds (otherwise only people with money in their Paypal accounts can do so).

Who's interested, and how much needs to be raised for the guest book + a wreath?

(And of course, please have Linda and myself signed on the list. I think it's safe to say everyone who has posted here would want to be on it.)

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