Cantabile Posted December 4, 2010 Share Posted December 4, 2010 I just received a phonecall from my son, requesting advice about his own children. To make a long story short: My grandson has apparently hit early puberty, and has not had any sexual education, "The Talk", or anything like that. I'm sure a lot of you can remember when you first hit puberty, discovered your penis could be used for funner things than urinatian, and went wild with the mystery and exploration of this new aspect of your life.Well, apparently last week my grandson was discovered by his father, sniffing his own sister's used underwear while doing laundry. My son did not think it was sexual in any way at first; maybe he just smelt a weird odor, and held it up to his nose out of curiosity. It's not abnormal to go, "Wtf is that smell?" then out of morbid curiosity take a bigger whiff of the item. He's a kid, after all!However, when he saw his dad looking he freaked out with the usual guilty caught-in-the-act responses people give. Still, my son just assumed that he had heard something from his friends about the smell of women's underwear, and out of innocent curiosity gave it a whiff. A little curiosity doesn't hurt. I certainly remember when I hit puberty and first heard about the scent of a woman's underareas, and it naturally piqued my curiosity.Soon after, however, my son discovered pornography on the family computer. More specifically, Disney and video-game hentai. It became obvious that my grandson had finally reached puberty, and the "exploration stage" had begun. My son kept a closer eye on him after that, and yesterday caught his child sneaking his mother's and sister's underwear into his pockets while doing laundry, then going into the bathroom with them, then going back out to the laundryroom and putting them back. There were wet marks on the underwear, as though he had tried washing off semen stains in the bathroom afterwards.As you can imagine, his father freaked out, and I got a phonecall. He hasn't approached my grandson about the issue, and neither of us really know how to proceed. He hasn't mentioned it to his wife either, because he's afraid of how she'd take it that her son is jacking off with her panties. I told my son that it did NOT mean necessarily that the kid has any sexual attraction to his sister or mother. Panties are objects linked to female sexuality, as is the scent, and that alone could simply be getting him off, and he could be using it to imagine other women. That is the most likely scenario in my mind, as I've had friends who have used their girlfriends' underwear to masturbate, while not even thinking of their girlfriends. It's just the object/scent itself that helps creativity.But either way, my son doesn't want this to continue happening, or to progress. Even if it's harmless and he doesn't know better, having it evolve into something more serious, or being discovered by his sister/mother, could have a pretty big backlash. Yet how is my son supposed to approach this? Talk about it directly to his son, and just deal with the awkwardness/embarassment that will result? Should he discuss it with his wife? Or just monitor it for now, hope it's a passing thing, and only take action if it gets worse?God, I honestly feel bad for my grandson; I can't imagine having that conversation with my own father. I remember when my mother caught me roleplaying Tarzan and Jane in my bed with a pillow when I first hit puberty, and I was shame-stricken and awkward around her for a long time after. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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