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Well, my son said he'd decide by tonight what to do. His wife is practically his slavemaster though, so I imagine he'll tell her out of fear of her anger tantrums despite my suggestions to keep it between himself and the boy unless it gets more serious.

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Well, my son said he'd decide by tonight what to do. His wife is practically his slavemaster though, so I imagine he'll tell her out of fear of her anger tantrums despite my suggestions to keep it between himself and the boy unless it gets more serious.

That may not go well at all. :shocked: Here's hoping she doesn't fly off the handle.

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I think the son needs to have The Talk with him, asap. Also, a girlfriend might be in order, non? I mean, if your only potential outlet is porn and panty sniffing, then...ah, yeah, I would encourage finding a girlfriend.

Good idea. Sniffing your girlfriend's panties is much more acceptable.

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I think the son needs to have The Talk with him, asap. Also, a girlfriend might be in order, non? I mean, if your only potential outlet is porn and panty sniffing, then...ah, yeah, I would encourage finding a girlfriend.

nobody has ever gotten pregnant or gotten an std from masturbating into anyone's panties. pushing the lad into the idea of a relationship rather than actually trying to help him understand his desires and find a constructive outlet is probably a lot harder than just saying 'get a girl, son', but overall it would be a better answer.

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No, there's a LOT wrong with that, IMO. Especially in this day and age, when porn is so easily obtainable. How is sniffing your mom and sisters used panties not a big deal?

I mean, a lot of people think I have an unusually close relationship with my mom and sisters, and it's true we're really close. But sniffing their panties would be the very last thing I'd ever think about doing, no matter how hormonally imbalanced I was in my early teens.

Agree with the dad talking about it with him 1-on-1 before telling anyone else. I don't like keeping anything from my wife, but something like this? I think I'd try to deal with it first before telling her, and embarrassing him, her, others, etc. I can understand why he'd be freaked out about this. I'm shocked just reading this, and wouldn't know what to do. I'd probably contact a child shrink or google it and see if any relevant advice comes up.

It's a little odd for a pubescent boy to be masturbating with/to a pair of panties, probably. I don't know. I'm not nor have been a pubescent boy. And I don't have kids. As for the source of the panties, I'm willing to bet he just sees 'girl/woman scent' and not 'sister/mom scent.'

No matter what, it has to be dealt with effectively, and with sensitivity. This is a child, growing into manhood, and learning about his body and desires. You don't want to stunt or shame him right off the bat.

I wonder what Dan Savage would say.

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Well, my son said he'd decide by tonight what to do. His wife is practically his slavemaster though, so I imagine he'll tell her out of fear of her anger tantrums despite my suggestions to keep it between himself and the boy unless it gets more serious.

My vote: Your son should keep this between himself and his own son. I don't tell my husband about all the things I discuss with our 13 year old daughter and I'd expect the same from him if we had a son. These are very delicate subjects and the discomfort of discussing them with your same-sex child is tough enough on them.

She doesn't have to know.

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I think my son is more worried about the panties than the hentai at the moment, but that will probably be the next discussion.

Then again, I am not sure how comfortable I feel trying to dictate someone's porn preferences. That's a tough one. I believe that it's easier to function in most relationships without having abnormal kinks and fantasies, as many people become sexually frustrated, uninterested, or even resentful towards their sexual partners when their kinks/fetishes are disapproved of or not fulfilled.

Once you have those kinks, it's hard to really get rid of them, so it makes sense to try to squash it before it becomes an embedded piece of one's sexuality. And I see benefit in that, but at the same time that just seems very controlling. I don't know, it's not something I ever dealt with with my own kids.

Besides, I've had fetishes my entire life, and know that I'd be pretty pissed if someone tried to explain to me that they're "wrong" or "unhealthy" just because it's easier to function in a higher percentage of relationships without them. That's a tough one. Personally, I let my kids explore their own sexuality and tried not to get involved at all, and just let it sort itself out. Worked pretty well, I think. At least if they have any fetishes for singing cartoon animals I'm not aware of it :P

Well, it's a little too late now. But there's a very good chance, imo, that the issue here stems from the porn he's been first exposed to.

Regardless, you gotta deal with it now. The advice above is generally good, although unfortunately it's your grandson and not your son so you don't exactly have direct control of the conversation.

Just, really, tell your son above all to not embarrass the shit out of the kid. If there's one thing this world doesn't need, it's more people with issues related to their sex lives.

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True, sometimes it's best to keep topics like this between the same-sex parent. I certainly let my wife handle most of the sex talks with our daughter. But my son's wife is a very different case: she's incredibly dominating, and quite abusive with her anger problems, and since my son is an overly pacifistic and gentle person he let's her stampede all over him. I'm actually really worried about her finding out, because you can never predict if she's going to go psycho, or be loving and understanding about things.

My grandson is a great kid, and I love him dearly, so I just hope nothing bad comes out of this.

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Well, that sucks about the wife.

Maybe...you could break the ice with your grandson? Just a thought.

Talks like this, among other loaded adult subjects, need to happen as a series of discussions over time. Unloading the whole kit-and-kaboodle on a kid can create issues no matter how delicately it's handled.

I try to keep things matter-of-fact and light-hearted and throw in a swear or two here and there for some comedic breaks.

Best.

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Maybe...you could break the ice with your grandson? Just a thought.

Not too sure about this. I don't know about your relationship with your grandson, Cantabile, but I would have been mortified if my own grandfather had ever talked to me about this subject, even more in this kind of situation. The less people know (or appear to know to the kid), the better in my opinion. I guess your son won't be like "oh yeah, I discussed the matter with your grandpa, he agrees with me"?

As for the kid needing to get a girlfriend... ?? Easier said than done.

Well, I sincerely hope your daughter-in-law won't be to hard on him if she learns about it.

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Not too sure about this. I don't know about your relationship with your grandson, Cantabile, but I would have been mortified if my own grandfather had ever talked to me about this subject, even more in this kind of situation.

Yeah, I wasn't sure what their relationship is like but if Cantabile felt he could swing it, he should.

Imagine if your grandfather was George Carlin or something. I'd much rather hear it from someone who can keep it funny and light while getting the important points across.

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I guess your son won't be like "oh yeah, I discussed the matter with your grandpa, he agrees with me"?

'and granddad brought it up with countless strangers on an internet message board who were either helpful or disgusted by your actions'

;)

see? humor is in order in this i think. when i was a lad i am fairly sure that my mother walked into my room after hours while i was having some quality time. the lights were out and i was quickly covered as the lights came on, but she likely saw something. she never per se mentioned it. but, she did a few weeks later let me know that people exploring themselves was not only acceptable behavior but safer than having sex.

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The problem there is you know someone in your own household knows in order for Grandpa to find out, knows and has been talking about it. You'd still have to wonder who it was, what they think, and live with that concern in the same house with you

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Yeah, what Kay Fury said.

If Dad brings it up, the kid can safely feel that it's just between the 2 of them.

If Granddad does, he's much much more likely to freak out and wonder how many people know.

Plus, old people talking about sex is creepy and weird. People become completely asexual once they get old. /nods firmly

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Yeah, I don't think my grandson would feel comfortable around me for a while if he knew I knew. That he freaked out when he was caught shows that he's at least embarassed or knows it's something he shouldn't be doing. I'd rather not strain my relationship with the kid; better handled by his parents. My only job is to offer advice to my son :P

And I pray my grandson hasn't started reading SoIF lately and joined this forum.

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Yeah, I don't think my grandson would feel comfortable around me for a while if he knew I knew. That he freaked out when he was caught shows that he's at least embarassed or knows it's something he shouldn't be doing. I'd rather not strain my relationship with the kid; better handled by his parents. My only job is to offer advice to my son :P

And I pray my grandson hasn't started reading SoIF lately and joined this forum.

I don't even think I'd recommend your son start the conversation about the panty incidents right out of the gates. You need to start light and then add material as a comfort level grows.

PS How old is your grandson?

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