Sniffing Sister's and Mother's Panties

[White Walker Texas Ranger]

There is the possibility that the kid found this thread. I mean it does show up second on Google for :sniffing mother panties." He may have connected the dots, realized that his parents were keylogging him, and decided to fuck with them. He'd still be a little weird for making that search in the first place,but otherwise the thread wouldn't even exist. I'm just putting it out there that there is a chance that his parents are victims of an epic troll.

[Darkostar]

I watched a shitload of porn when I was 12, mainly out of curiosity, and got sex ed from an older friend. The porn was mostly normal stuff, but some really weird BDSM as well.

Yeah, this isn't uncommon at all, and it sounds like that's what the kid is goin' through too. The sniffing thing may be a genuine fetish, but the rest of it sounds like typical experimentation, augmented by some difficulty dealing with home life.

And yeah, same recommendations as Fist Jab (go watch Air Bud, too), but in addition to family therapy, let the kid have one on one time with a therapist that deals with sexuality on a regular basis. A non-judgemental figure during a time of self-discovery is a blessing.

[Cantabile]

There is the possibility that the kid found this thread. I mean it does show up second on Google for :sniffing mother panties." He may have connected the dots, realized that his parents were keylogging him, and decided to fuck with them. He'd still be a little weird for making that search in the first place,but otherwise the thread wouldn't even exist. I'm just putting it out there that there is a chance that his parents are victims of an epic troll.

It's possible, but I doubt it. If he wanted to look up whether the panties thing was normal, I don't think he'd search about it after he's already been doing it. Maybe before, and maybe after the first time. But if its not incestuous at all for him, then he wouldn't really even search "sniffing mother's panties" and would just look up general underwear sniffing, since that's what the appeal is.

And yeah, same recommendations as Fist Jab (go watch Air Bud, too), but in addition to family therapy, let the kid have one on one time with a therapist that deals with sexuality on a regular basis. A non-judgemental figure during a time of self-discovery is a blessing.

Well, best news so far: My daughter has agreed to talk to the kid. She's always been like a cool older sister figure to him, and they have a pretty close and trusting bond, so she's the perfect person for this. She's also going to try to bring up the therapy thing, not for his sexuality, but for the problems with his mother and the family dynamics. The therapist would also be there for any issues he wants to discuss about his sexuality, but for now my daughter thinks the family issues are far worthier of attention and fixing.

[Balefont]

Well, best news so far: My daughter has agreed to talk to the kid. She's always been like a cool older sister figure to him, and they have a pretty close and trusting bond, so she's the perfect person for this. She's also going to try to bring up the therapy thing, not for his sexuality, but for the problems with his mother and the family dynamics. The therapist would also be there for any issues he wants to discuss about his sexuality, but for now my daughter thinks the family issues are far worthier of attention and fixing.

Glad someone in the family has a sack of balls!

Seriously, that's good news, Cant.

[Darkostar]

The therapist would also be there for any issues he wants to discuss about his sexuality, but for now my daughter thinks the family issues are far worthier of attention and fixing.

If there's enough money, consider a therapist exclusively for the sexuality stuff in addition; sometimes it's good to double dip. The family shrink can help him work out the family stuff that's affecting this, and the other one can talk more about healthy ways to find release that don't endanger relationships.

[Ser_not_appearing_yet]

Come on. I don't think Cantabile's grandson has mental problems.

I watched a shitload of porn when I was 12, mainly out of curiosity, and got sex ed from an older friend. The porn was mostly normal stuff, but some really weird BDSM as well. Admittedly, it wasn't anything like this situation, because the older friend was a girl and just two years older. I remember how we spent most of the summer break indoors, looking at porn.

(I ended up dating this girl later, surprise, surprise...) :lol:

No, for Cantabile's grandson, I'd just recommend a family therapist and his webcam being taken away. And a serious talk from his dad, instead of this stalking of him behind his back.

And a golden retriever for Christmas.

I just don't comprehend how someone would immediately go for the extreme stuff. I've watched/been aware of porn since about 13 but I never even considered watching stuff that kid seems to be into.

Ok, curiosity, yeah. But this doesn't sound like just curiosity anymore. I just don't understand how as a guardian you could know about all this shit and just chicken out of dealing with it head on? That Dad needs to man up.

[Darkostar]

I just don't comprehend how someone would immediately go for the extreme stuff. I've watched/been aware of porn since about 13 but I never even considered watching stuff that kid seems to be into.

The porn itself is not bad, nor are the fetishes. He just has to learn better ways of dealing with 'em (hint: not camming with old dudes).

[Balefont]

I would have contacted the local authorities about WebCam Dude. I have zero tolerance for that shit.

[Ser_not_appearing_yet]

The porn itself is not bad, nor are the fetishes. He just has to learn better ways of dealing with 'em (hint: not camming with old dudes).

Yeah, it is bad. Because its obvious he doesn't know how to handle any of it. I seriously doubt he started off with those fetishes, and fetishes evolve, particularly at such an impressionable age. I'd guess he doesn't have a fucking clue what he's attracted to really.

A 12 year old should not be allowed unlimited internet freedom, I'm sorry. There's just too much evil shit out there. Not to mention evil people.

[Darkostar]

Because its obvious he doesn't know how to handle any of it. I seriously doubt he started off with those fetishes. I'd guess he doesn't have a fucking clue what he's attracted to really.

Instead of breaking it up to quote it, I'm just gonna highlight a few sections.

I've been saying the bolded for the entire thread thusfar. And just because he doesn't know how to handle it means that it's bad. He needs therapy to figure out how to handle it, and in the process, probably work through the italicized bit; what gets him going.

And of course he didn't start out with those fetishes. But people have tendencies that get unlocked by catalysts. I didn't discover my dominant tendencies until my senior year in high school, when I got pushed around by a manipulative wench. But they were there: I always liked control, getting my way, etc etc.

[Ser_not_appearing_yet]

Instead of breaking it up to quote it, I'm just gonna highlight a few sections.

I've been saying the bolded for the entire thread thusfar. And just because he doesn't know how to handle it means that it's bad. He needs therapy to figure out how to handle it, and in the process, probably work through the italicized bit; what gets him going.

And of course he didn't start out with those fetishes. But people have tendencies that get unlocked by catalysts. I didn't discover my dominant tendencies until my senior year in high school, when I got pushed around by a manipulative wench. But they were there: I always liked control, getting my way, etc etc.

In that we agree.

Its too late, obviously, but a 12 year old doesn't need to find out his 'catalysts' and 'fetishes'. Childhood is too short these days.

[Darkostar]

Its too late, obviously, but a 12 year old doesn't need to find out his 'catalysts' and 'fetishes'. Childhood is too short these days.

Maybe, but some people never find theirs, and I'd rather have figured out my sexuality at an early age than never figured it out at all.

[Lord O' Bones]

There was no internet when I was 12. But damn, I wish there had been. I mean Jesus, I at one point used masking tape to secure my dick to my bedpost because I don't fucking know why. I didn't know what to do with that damned thing.

And then I discovered certain things (not masking tape) felt good. And Oh my god! How I lost my shit the first time a bunch of stuff came out that wasn't pee. I thought I broke it.

And at the same time, I got arrested for the first time for B&E when I was 12.

[Darkostar]

And then I discovered certain things (not masking tape) felt good. And Oh my god! How I lost my shit the first time a bunch of stuff came out that wasn't pee. I thought I broke it.

:lol: legendary.

[Balefont]

And at the same time, I got arrested for the first time for B&E when I was 12.

For the first time. :unsure:

[Lord O' Bones]

For the first time. :unsure:

Arrested for the first time. I was arrested for other things at later dates. Detained for a few more.

Never got caught for B&E again though.

[Balefont]

Arrested for the first time.

Arrested for the first time. :unsure:

[Lord O' Bones]

Arrested for the first time. :unsure:

goddamnit! brb, smoke

[Spastic Plastic]

Take that to another thread, guys.

[peterbound]

Dude, you just posted in "one of those threads", you sure you alright?

Fella, I know i'm not alright. But i would never post this kinda shit about my son or grandson on the goddamn internet. I seriously doubt anyone would be comfortable with their parent divulging this type of information about their child to a bunch of strangers.

Your son should be handling this shit in house. Not your daughter, not his mom, not a fucking counselor (well, maybe a counselor, of which i don't think anyone on here is). Your son.... his dad, needs to be making these decisions though. How would have come to any other conclusion than that? You needed to come onto an internet forum dedicated to GRRM to get that?

blah, fuck it, maybe it's something wrong with me that i can't wrap my head around these silly ass 'advice' threads. There is something definitely wrong with me for posting in the damn thing. But this is getting ridiculous.