What are your thoughts on any type of "relationship advice" subs or forums?

[Chataya de Fleury]

38 minutes ago, Mysecondaccount said:

Yeah, one advantage with this over something like Reddit, is that you actually have an established connection those people. Too often, users on those anonymous subs and forums are dealing what is to them a faceless screen, and often forget that there's a person behind them. Although it obviously isn't always that way, I've come across quite a bit of vitriol spewed about in those threads.

 

Right - I think that Reddit caters to a different crowd than here. I don’t think anyone on Reddit can legit claim to have known an in-circle for 20 years.

And my son was a founding member of Wall Street Bets, god help him.

[ants]

3 hours ago, A True Kaniggit said:

Honestly. You and I are the that fucking awesome. Not so sure about everyone else. We have to wait for the results to get back. 

Well no wonder. You're both BIRDS!

(even if you can't actually fly.....)

[A True Kaniggit]

54 minutes ago, ants said:

Well no wonder. You're both BIRDS!

(even if you can't actually fly.....)

Don’t non-flight shame me!

Edited October 4, 2021 by A True Kaniggit

[ants]

I'm not anti-flightlessness. I give to charities to help the poor flightless. Its not your fault you're not as blessed as those of us who can fly. We just all have to recognise that being able to fly makes you better.

And don't start that whole "you inherited it from your ancestors" baloney!

[aceluby]

I've seen both sides.  They can be extremely positive and reassuring.  Some advice is top tier and what you'd expect from good friends.  They can also be extremely toxic and it's very easy to "pile on", which can be very harmful to the person seeking advice while also making the thread/forum seem unwelcoming.  I think overall that they are beneficial, but it's up to users to take everything with a big ol bag of salt.

[Mysecondaccount]

6 hours ago, aceluby said:

I've seen both sides.  They can be extremely positive and reassuring.  Some advice is top tier and what you'd expect from good friends.  They can also be extremely toxic and it's very easy to "pile on", which can be very harmful to the person seeking advice while also making the thread/forum seem unwelcoming.  I think overall that they are beneficial, but it's up to users to take everything with a big ol bag of salt.

 

In my experience, as with anything in this divisive and divided world, those threads can get extremely politicized very easily and quickly. For example, I've once stumbled across a post where the OP proclaimed to be man who was abused by a woman. The thread soon devolved into a gender politics battleground between MRA types who wanted to weaponize their alleged experience and hard-line feminists desperate to tear the story down.

Edited October 4, 2021 by Mysecondaccount

[DireWolfSpirit]

For most I think it's a trust thine own self first.

For some the group discussing maybe formative, also for others theres likely a social component, as in like minds just wanting to discuss like interests.

Sounds about like any forum eh.

[Iskaral Pust]

I read the advice columns on Slate from time to time, but I’ve learned to skip over the columnists’ responses and just go straight to the comments sections, which (when weighted by recommendations) are generally a good crowd-sourcing of common sense and decency.  It restores my faith in humanity.

I think those columnists are selected to be bad because outrage gets more clicks.