How Gay are You?

[Weeping Sore]

The Kinsey Scale runs from 0 to 6 with 0 being straight, 6 being gay, and 1-5 being gradations of bisexuality. To me it seems a little non-intuitive.

Why not a clear percentage system? I'll use myself as an example. My predominant attraction is toward the opposite sex, but I have a not-insignificant same-sex attraction. My non-scientific self assessment is 30/70 gay/straight. More accurately, I probably fluctuate between 25/75 and 35/65. I'd say that qualifies me as bi. (a Kinsey 2 if you prefer).

The labels straight, gay and bi imply 0/100, 100/0 and 50/50, respectively, but reality has a lot more levels of gradation. Please, if you post on this thread, honestly self-assess, post your percentage, and the label you identify with. (don't want to be trans-phobic, use the gender you identify with as your basis).

And straight people, before posting any 0/100s try to delve a little into any attraction, however fleeting you've had for the same sex. (something like 7/93 would still pretty straight, a Kinsey 0) Try some thought experiments- Celebrities, etc. you might make an exception for in extraordinary circumstances (Nikolaj Coster-Waldau works for me ;)) Have fun and be honest!

[DaarioKnowsBest]

In that drinking game where u get asked who is the one person you would go gay for I always say Brendon Fraser, not sure how gay that is

[Littlefingers In The Air]

I don't know what I'd say about myself percentage wise. I know I'm comfortable enough to be able to tell a man when they're nice looking and even handsome without having to claim "no homo", as has become a cultural norm. I'd say I even have my male crush. But there is no desire to act on that at all.

[Weeping Sore]

I don't know what I'd say about myself percentage wise. I know I'm comfortable enough to be able to tell a man when they're nice looking and even handsome without having to claim "no homo", as has become a cultural norm. I'd say I even have my male crush. But there is no desire to act on that at all.

I doubt anybody under 15/85, particularly men, would ever act on a comparitively low level of desire considering the stigma.

[naz]

Why does this even matter? It's hard enough being who you are without having to quantify yet another aspect of your life. Isn't it bad enough that we're already quantified according to our age, income, racial makeup, etc.?

[Weeping Sore]

Why does this even matter? It's hard enough being who you are without having to quantify yet another aspect of your life. Isn't it bad enough that we're already quantified according to our age, income, racial makeup, etc.?

Actually, I don't know any of those things about you, Naz. I suppose this thread is mostly for self-described bi people, to try to help people understand that most of us aren't attracted equally to men and women. I was hoping some straight (or gay) identifying people might have fun with it, cop to some stray feelings and put a non-scientific low number in (thought we'd see some 3/97s or 88/12s or something) If you're not interested, that's cool.

[Lany Freelove Cassandra]

I thought there would be one of those super cool internet quizzes that tells you exactly how gay you are. I am so disappointed.

Guess I have to figure it out on my own. Maybe 30/70 too.. Maybe more like 80/20. No clue really. How does one judge this anyway?

[Sci-2]

Why does this even matter? It's hard enough being who you are without having to quantify yet another aspect of your life. Isn't it bad enough that we're already quantified according to our age, income, racial makeup, etc.?

An exact percentage doesn't necessarily matter.

Acknowledgement of homosexual feelings of attractions possibly matters a great deal, if it makes society more tolerant. But most straight men would want to say 0 gay/100 straight.

As for myself, I think it's (somewhat surprisingly) really low...I don't know if that's cultural ingrained resistance though. I can appreciate men on an aesthetic level, and I find as a straight dude discussing sexuality via the vehicle of homosexuality keeps people from thinking I'm a perv looking to get off....but I find no real desire to have sex with men though I've mentally considered the possibility.

[Howdyphillip]

I am 88.734265498762% straight. I have a mathematical formula figured out that takes into account everything from decorating style, to a love of broadway musicals that deducts straight points.

I would actually be 100% gay if I didn't find the penis so revolting.

[kungtotte]

How could you possibly quantify the difference between 90/10 straight and 80/20 straight (or vice versa)? Does a guy have to be more attractive for you to want to have sex with him if you are at 90/10? Does 90/10 mean you would only make-out and maybe give them a handjob, and 80/20 means you'd have sexual intercourse? Or is it as simple as describing the gender distribution of your sexual partners; 10% of them have been men if you describe yourself as being 90/10 straight?

If I describe myself as being a Kinsey 1 ("Predominantly heterosexual, only incidentally homosexual"), I provide just as much information as either of the aforementioned examples but it takes any confusion out if it.

[naz]

Ahh. It's a fun thread, then. All well and good, I guess, but I still don't understand the need to perpetuate the practice of labeling of people if the sole purpose is to make people acknowledge that we sometimes harbor attractions that society thinks we shouldn't. Why can't we just say "Hey, sometimes we harbor attractions that society thinks we shouldn't."?

[Weeping Sore]

I thought there would be one of those super cool internet quizzes that tells you exactly how gay you are. I am so disappointed.

Guess I have to figure it out on my own. Maybe 30/70 too.. Maybe more like 80/20. No clue really. How does one judge this anyway?

There's a big swing between 30/70 and 80/20- did you mean 20/80 (gay/straight)?

[Black Walder]

I'd put myself about 1/6 on the Kinsey Scale. Sure, I've thought about it, especially while I was art school and receiving lots of offers, but I've never done it and probably won't as long as women are available. <3 women, as a matter of non-judgmental taste, what can I say?

[Sci-2]

Ahh. It's a fun thread, then. All well and good, I guess, but I still don't understand the need to perpetuate the practice of labeling of people if the sole purpose is to make people acknowledge that we sometimes harbor attractions that society thinks we shouldn't. Why can't we just say "Hey, sometimes we harbor attractions that society thinks we shouldn't."?

Well bisexuals are often faced with the idea that one side of their attraction is bullshit - they're in the closet or they're saying [they hook up with girls] to look hotter in front of guys, etc.

And labeling gives us signifiers, which allows us to discuss things in an efficient manner. It also allows me to use the word signifier, which makes me feel smart. ;-)

[DaarioKnowsBest]

In high school basketball practice there was this guy on our team ok after first practice in the shower his wang was so massive I was impressed by it, shit was Dirk Diggler size hanging down to his knee. I kept staring at it trying not to get caught. Then during practice when he would jump it would poke out from under his shorts. My admiration wasn't sexual i was just awed .

He was having porn offers as soon as he turned 18, porn industry has talent scouts who knew.

Anyway I digress, not sure how gay that is being impressed by his gigantic schlong

[Ser Rodrigo Belmonte]

I sometimes feel like slipping into a woman's skin and having straight sex with a guy...idk wat that makes me.

[Weeping Sore]

How could you possibly quantify the difference between 90/10 straight and 80/20 straight (or vice versa)? Does a guy have to be more attractive for you to want to have sex with him if you are at 90/10? Does 90/10 mean you would only make-out and maybe give them a handjob, and 80/20 means you'd have sexual intercourse? Or is it as simple as describing the gender distribution of your sexual partners; 10% of them have been men if you describe yourself as being 90/10 straight?

You have to use your own judgement, but I definitely didn't mean the ratio of sexual partners- my numbers would be different in that case.

Just for consistency I'm putting the gay number first, so your hypothetical 90/10 should be 10/90 as you are mainly straight.

An exact percentage doesn't necessarily matter.

Acknowledgement of homosexual feelings of attractions possibly matters a great deal, if it makes society more tolerant. But most straight men would want to say 0 gay/100 straight.

As for myself, I think it's (somewhat surprisingly) really low...I don't know if that's cultural ingrained resistance though. I can appreciate men on an aesthetic level, and I find as a straight dude discussing sexuality via the vehicle of homosexuality keeps people from thinking I'm a perv looking to get off....but I find no real desire to have sex with men though I've mentally considered the possibility.

Come on Sci, give us a number. 5/95?

[Black Walder]

My admiration wasn't sexual i was just awed .

He was having porn offers as soon as he turned 18, porn industry has talent scouts who knew.

Anyway I digress, not sure how gay that is being impressed by his gigantic schlong

If you never thought about putting it in your mouth, I'd call it totally aesthetic. ;)

[Sci-2]

Come on Sci, give us a number. 5/95?

I guess? I mean, I don't think I've ever felt genuine attraction for a man.

Some of the best full body massages I've ever had are from gay men, I've occasionally shared a bed with one of my best friends who's gay, gotten hit on by gay guys...but I never felt anything.

[Black Walder]

Yeah, that's about where I'm at. If women became unavailable, I feel like I'd probably adjust pretty quickly with minimal trauma, but I've never really felt tempted otherwise.