Vin Posted June 29, 2018 Share Posted June 29, 2018 45 minutes ago, El trigo sarraceno said: So, um, my high school reunion thingy counted the grand total of six people. I'm gonna go ahead and assume that made it into a wonderful intimate experience for you and had you rekindling old friendships and starting new ones ,yes ? Congrats on your baby stranger . Hope her median puking rate is below average. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vin Posted June 29, 2018 Share Posted June 29, 2018 6 minutes ago, El trigo sarraceno said: I want somebody to cuddle me. I want to write to the supernatural entity so badly right now. Ok. I think it'd be self flattering to call myself a god but I am a strange entity from a far away exotic land (Philly is exotic yo !) So that might qualify as "supernatural" . And not to mention that writing me is much more technically feasible . So if you'd like to vent or would like advice Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Buckwheat Posted June 29, 2018 Author Share Posted June 29, 2018 8 minutes ago, Vin said: I'm gonna go ahead and assume that made it into a wonderful intimate experience for you and had you rekindling old friendships and starting new ones ,yes ? It was a pleasant evening altogether, but it really cemented my knowledge that ... people just don't seem to want to be my friends. Or rather, the best friends I make are the ones that live in other countries and I have the misfortune of seeing them so seldom. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Buckwheat Posted June 29, 2018 Author Share Posted June 29, 2018 And of course, it makes my trying to organise anything seem so pointless. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Buckwheat Posted June 29, 2018 Author Share Posted June 29, 2018 4 minutes ago, Vin said: Ok. I think it'd be self flattering to call myself a god but I am a strange entity from a far away exotic land (Philly is exotic yo !) So that might qualify as "supernatural" . And not to mention that writing me is much more technically feasible . So if you'd like to vent or would like advice Thanks. The supernatural entity is code for my ex around here. Because it was so unlikely something like him would enter my life when it started, it was supernatural. So it is still technically feasible to write to him. And cuddle is code for ... Eh. I just started missing him. After an evening in company, one gets lonely going home alone and going to sleep alone. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vin Posted June 29, 2018 Share Posted June 29, 2018 12 minutes ago, El trigo sarraceno said: It was a pleasant evening altogether, but it really cemented my knowledge that ... people just don't seem to want to be my friends. Or rather, the best friends I make are the ones that live in other countries and I have the misfortune of seeing them so seldom. 11 minutes ago, El trigo sarraceno said: And of course, it makes my trying to organise anything seem so pointless. Well I don't know if this helps but I don't think that's particularly true ,or at least not particularly to you . People form less significant relationships in general these days . I personally suffer from a massive difficulty in forming significant deep emotional relationships with people (I can't seem to bring myself to care deeply about people I would call friends ) I only went and got friends and friends at uni and work because of the normalcy , I thought it was the normal thing to do so I made an active effort to get them and yet I never seemed to be able to care about them . I kinda like having them now but I am seeing a shrink about it so hopefully it gets better . This personal tangent seems pointless now that I think about it but I just wanted you to know that friendships and relationships are generally just not easy and down right difficult sometimes so you shouldn't feel disheartened or singled out because you're obviously capable . 6 minutes ago, El trigo sarraceno said: Thanks. The supernatural entity is code for my ex around here. Because it was so unlikely something like him would enter my life when it started, it was supernatural. So it is still technically feasible to write to him. And cuddle is code for ... Eh. I just started missing him. After an evening in company, one gets lonely going home alone and going to sleep alone. Oh , and here I thought we were calling me a god . Oh well . I hope this isn't too personal but why is it so unlikely for a young lady to have a boyfriend ? Calling/texting the ex ... while I have no context and know nothing , this generally not the best move ... Oh , well I definitely can't help with that because, and it hurts my ego so much to say it, I do not have an ICBM between my legs lol That's understandable . I got a dog for that , I can't step a foot inside the home without him jumping at me with hugs . I love my dog . Unsurprisingly I don't miss my ex at all lol . You should something for yourself . Something to relax . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Buckwheat Posted June 30, 2018 Author Share Posted June 30, 2018 7 hours ago, Vin said: Well I don't know if this helps but I don't think that's particularly true ,or at least not particularly to you . People form less significant relationships in general these days . I personally suffer from a massive difficulty in forming significant deep emotional relationships with people (I can't seem to bring myself to care deeply about people I would call friends ) I only went and got friends and friends at uni and work because of the normalcy , I thought it was the normal thing to do so I made an active effort to get them and yet I never seemed to be able to care about them . I kinda like having them now but I am seeing a shrink about it so hopefully it gets better . This personal tangent seems pointless now that I think about it but I just wanted you to know that friendships and relationships are generally just not easy and down right difficult sometimes so you shouldn't feel disheartened or singled out because you're obviously capable . I do care. I don't have a problem with not caring about people. In fact, I seem to care about some people way more than they do about me. So many times I tried to spend free time with people I considered friends, but rejections were more often than realised plans. People just didn't seem to want to spend time with me. I just regressed to the old version of myself that feels sorry for herself because of that. I don't like this. 7 hours ago, Vin said: Oh , and here I thought we were calling me a god . Oh well . I hope this isn't too personal but why is it so unlikely for a young lady to have a boyfriend ? Because see above, little old unlikable me. I was 24 before somebody showed an inclination to have something at least semi-serious with me. By that time, a girl starts to accept she will grow old surrounded by a buttload of cats. 7 hours ago, Vin said: Calling/texting the ex ... while I have no context and know nothing , this generally not the best move ... I know. That is why I posted about it here rather than contacted him. But then in the moments of loneliness, I start to think that having a long-distance not very serious boyfriend is still better than not having one at all. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
felice Posted June 30, 2018 Share Posted June 30, 2018 1 hour ago, El trigo sarraceno said: Because see above, little old unlikable me. I think you're pretty cool, for what that's worth. *shrug* Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Buckwheat Posted June 30, 2018 Author Share Posted June 30, 2018 21 minutes ago, felice said: I think you're pretty cool, for what that's worth. *shrug* Well, thank you! But you know, there is that pesky thing where ... we haven't really met IRL and we live on the opposite ends of the planet, soooo ... Also, you know what? I think I am actually pretty cool. Many people just don't get me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jen'ari Posted June 30, 2018 Share Posted June 30, 2018 1 hour ago, El trigo sarraceno said: I do care. I don't have a problem with not caring about people. In fact, I seem to care about some people way more than they do about me. So many times I tried to spend free time with people I considered friends, but rejections were more often than realised plans. People just didn't seem to want to spend time with me. I just regressed to the old version of myself that feels sorry for herself because of that. I don't like this. Because see above, little old unlikable me. I was 24 before somebody showed an inclination to have something at least semi-serious with me. By that time, a girl starts to accept she will grow old surrounded by a buttload of cats. I know. That is why I posted about it here rather than contacted him. But then in the moments of loneliness, I start to think that having a long-distance not very serious boyfriend is still better than not having one at all. Buck, you’re perfectly likeable . I guess maybe you need to boost your self confidence a bit, I can’t really advise you how to go about it though, but you’re an amazing person and definately don’t deserve to spend the rest of your life surrounded by cats!. (See you even bring out my caring side ) I’d also like to add we all have those moments of self doubt and unhappiness, I’ve certainly had loads in my life so far!. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RhaenysBee Posted June 30, 2018 Share Posted June 30, 2018 going to a bar and leaving with a random person works. Not that I have ever done such thing of course. Or get a puppy. I really want a puppy. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Buckwheat Posted June 30, 2018 Author Share Posted June 30, 2018 1 hour ago, Lord Sidious said: Buck, you’re perfectly likeable . I guess maybe you need to boost your self confidence a bit, I can’t really advise you how to go about it though, but you’re an amazing person and definately don’t deserve to spend the rest of your life surrounded by cats!. (See you even bring out my caring side ) Why thank you. I probably do need that. I should socialise more probably. Oh, you have a caring side after all! 1 hour ago, Lord Sidious said: I’d also like to add we all have those moments of self doubt and unhappiness, I’ve certainly had loads in my life so far!. It happens to Sith people too? 14 minutes ago, RhaenysBee said: going to a bar and leaving with a random person works. Not that I have ever done such thing of course. Or get a puppy. I really want a puppy. Neither did I, nor do I want to. Pets are not an option for me. Thanks all. I guess that meeting a few people from high school - they were all very sweet and funny, don't get me wrong! - and not meeting even more, just made me revert back to my old self whcih whined about the exactly same thing in the past years. I had gotten better before, didn't realise these feelings were going to come back. It is fine. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jen'ari Posted June 30, 2018 Share Posted June 30, 2018 38 minutes ago, Buckwheat said: Why thank you. I probably do need that. I should socialise more probably. Oh, you have a caring side after all! It happens to Sith people too? Neither did I, nor do I want to. Pets are not an option for me. Thanks all. I guess that meeting a few people from high school - they were all very sweet and funny, don't get me wrong! - and not meeting even more, just made me revert back to my old self whcih whined about the exactly same thing in the past years. I had gotten better before, didn't realise these feelings were going to come back. It is fine. I’m sure you will overcome this moment of feeling down soon, there will be a guy out there that will be very lucky to have you as his significant other . Of course it happens to Sith people too, do you know how emotionally draining it is to endlessly be a Galaxy conquering,lightning throwing psycho . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vin Posted June 30, 2018 Share Posted June 30, 2018 4 hours ago, Buckwheat said: I do care. I don't have a problem with not caring about people. In fact, I seem to care about some people way more than they do about me. So many times I tried to spend free time with people I considered friends, but rejections were more often than realised plans. People just didn't seem to want to spend time with me. I just regressed to the old version of myself that feels sorry for herself because of that. I don't like this. Because see above, little old unlikable me. I was 24 before somebody showed an inclination to have something at least semi-serious with me. By that time, a girl starts to accept she will grow old surrounded by a buttload of cats. I know. That is why I posted about it here rather than contacted him. But then in the moments of loneliness, I start to think that having a long-distance not very serious boyfriend is still better than not having one at all. Yeah ,I see that . I was just trying to use a personal example from my experiences to demonstrate that it's not just you having problems in the general relationship department. Sorry if it seemed like I was accusing you of not caring. However ,maybe there's something to that , maybe you DO care too much and that somehow messes with your expectations ?(I don't know , I'm not basing this on anything, just spit balling) While 24 is a bit above average (at least here) that's not necessarily indicative of you being at fault . There are many many factors that contribute to that just to name a few simple things that probably lowered your chances : you live in a small country ,you seem quite introverted and so less likely to approach someone yourself or seem less approachable which lowers your rates significantly. I'm running low on personal data now but these two reasons while not utterly crippling can be significant. Just hang in there , I mean I seem to like you enough to write long incoherent awkward paragraphs at different time zones and I don't really like a lot of people at all . So maybe you do have something about you 1 hour ago, RhaenysBee said: going to a bar and leaving with a random person works. Not that I have ever done such thing of course. Or get a puppy. I really want a puppy. Dogs are wonderful creatures and we are unworthy of their love . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jen'ari Posted June 30, 2018 Share Posted June 30, 2018 Only just over a week and I will be in New York . I’m a bit worried about leaving mini Sith for a few days as this will be the first time, but she is in very capable hands with my partner, who adores her as much as I do. So looking forward to the concert I’m going to and doing lots of shopping . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Buckwheat Posted June 30, 2018 Author Share Posted June 30, 2018 9 hours ago, Lord Sidious said: I’m sure you will overcome this moment of feeling down soon, there will be a guy out there that will be very lucky to have you as his significant other . Of course it happens to Sith people too, do you know how emotionally draining it is to endlessly be a Galaxy conquering,lightning throwing psycho . Heh. I hope so. I was out meeting with a friend in the evening, so now I am feeling much better! We made plans for what we can do in the summer. No, I don't know, because I don't do these things ... I am on the Light Side, remember. Also a Ravenclaw, not a Slytherin! 7 hours ago, Vin said: Yeah ,I see that . I was just trying to use a personal example from my experiences to demonstrate that it's not just you having problems in the general relationship department. Sorry if it seemed like I was accusing you of not caring. It is okay. 7 hours ago, Vin said: However ,maybe there's something to that , maybe you DO care too much and that somehow messes with your expectations ?(I don't know , I'm not basing this on anything, just spit balling) IDK, maybe. Meeting a friend today was good to remind me that there are people who want to spend time with me and with whom I can share my stupid humour with. There are such people, really. Only I tend to meet them at international summer schools and during Erasmus, sooo ... after that ends, we end up in different parts of Europe. 7 hours ago, Vin said: While 24 is a bit above average (at least here) that's not necessarily indicative of you being at fault . There are many many factors that contribute to that just to name a few simple things that probably lowered your chances : you live in a small country ,you seem quite introverted and so less likely to approach someone yourself or seem less approachable which lowers your rates significantly. I'm running low on personal data now but these two reasons while not utterly crippling can be significant. The size of the country really has nothing to do with that. I mean, the size of your social circle cannot get any bigger than the number of people you can comfortably keep in contact with and meet often enough to say you are friends with them. And that does not change if you live in a bigger city or a bigger country. Plus ... going to another country for holiday/excursion/internship/work/study is really no problem for many young people in Europe, you know. I am, however, quite introverted, that is true. I need quite some time to get comfortable with new people. I have also been told once - like five years ago, I guess? - that I gave them the impression I was not very approachable in the beginning (during uni classes). 7 hours ago, Vin said: Just hang in there , I mean I seem to like you enough to write long incoherent awkward paragraphs at different time zones and I don't really like a lot of people at all . So maybe you do have something about you Dogs are wonderful creatures and we are unworthy of their love . Hehe. That is TTTNE for you, everybody just has to be friendly. Dogs are indeed wonderful. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RhaenysBee Posted June 30, 2018 Share Posted June 30, 2018 Yeah, that’s why people should get a buttload of dogs. Speaking of... oh the anteater is back. What happened to... Costa Rica, was it? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RhaenysBee Posted July 1, 2018 Share Posted July 1, 2018 How do you get a man to get his ass to a doctor? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Buckwheat Posted July 1, 2018 Author Share Posted July 1, 2018 14 hours ago, RhaenysBee said: Yeah, that’s why people should get a buttload of dogs. Speaking of... oh the anteater is back. What happened to... Costa Rica, was it? I am apparently a Siberian husky. And you? HONK HONK! I just didn't feel like representing Costa Rica anymore. And I wanted to be TTTNE-topical, so anteater Josh is jut right. 5 hours ago, RhaenysBee said: How do you get a man to get his ass to a doctor? No idea, but I am sure many women worried about their husband's health would want to know. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The BlackBear Posted July 1, 2018 Share Posted July 1, 2018 6 hours ago, RhaenysBee said: How do you get a man to get his ass to a doctor? Convince him whatever it is, will result in impotence. He'll get there at the speed of light. And now for an insight into my life: I do occasionally just shout this when I'm bumming around the house. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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