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Lyanna Stark

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About Lyanna Stark

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    My spite was sharp as broken glass
  • Birthday 07/02/1976

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    Just for the record, I would like to crush some rumours and state once and for all: no, I don't drink left over wine in the morning. At that time of day I prefer my alcohol clear.

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  1. Lyanna Stark

    Twin Peaks - Double R Diner Now Open!

    Episode 7 was classic Lynch tho. So much unsettling atmosphere, corridors, people walking in corridors that were just worrisome and very, very unsettling. Good stuff.
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    Twin Peaks - Double R Diner Now Open!

    Up to Ep 6 now, and Oh how I love this series. This is both a blast from the past and so utterly Now. I love how you have to both watch it and meta-watch it at the same time. The last episode was so shock full with money and death symbols it was coming out of my ears at the end. Awesome. So... SPOILERS
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    Makeup VI : SPFantastic

    Ya we have L'Oreal, but I ended up raiding the Max Factor aisle since it a. had those colours (every other brand I saw had all these muted ladylike colours, haha no tyvm ) and b. didn't break my bank since I had to go get shoes for kiddies. Got a HOT PINK Lipstick and a Cherry Red one, too, with matching nailpolish, and an awesome intense Azure coloured blue nailpolish too. Now I just need some glitter and glue-on silver stars and I am set!! Yes! This seems to be the case with a lot on concealers and foundation. Considering women over 35 are buying a lot of make-up and prolly have more money than our younger sisters, figuring out how to make that stuff without it enhancing wrinkles seems to be an obvious thing to do. But then what do I know.
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    Makeup VI : SPFantastic

    So red lipstick yay and pink lipstick also yay. This is good. I will kiss the sky. Anyhow, as with powder, I live in the freaking sticks (apparently?) cos we have the absolute default standard stuff + Urban Decay (which is New and Exciting) and it seems even amazon.co.uk won't deliver almost anything but books here. *sigh* I need to go abroad if only to a. be able to get proper make-up and b. cheaper booze. It's a crisis situation, really. Oh, I also got myself a CC cream from some fancy ass "for Scandinavian skin so it will cost you €€" brand while it was on sale and I think the only thing it does is bring forth my impending wrinkles, which powder really doesn't. What's the point of make-up that makes you look *more* wrinkled than the default state? It also annoys me that a primer that would cost me €5 in the UK will be prized at €12 here. FML.
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    Makeup VI : SPFantastic

    I have the same issue, since foundation generally just doesn't agree with my skin at all, so I use powders mostly, but it's really difficult to find something that doesn't look too heavy/pancake and doesn't cost an arm and a leg. Also: red lipstick yay or nay? I've NEVER owned one, but am thinking of it. The times I've tried it, I think it makes my face look overloaded, but perhaps this is just cos I don't use it? Bubblegum pink as a compromise instead perhaps?
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    Dating: to play the part of the one who doesn't wait

    Ahahahahah, yeah they prolly would. Nice collection, too, I imagine, and not for the faint of heart. EDIT: Actually let me retract "nice" (at least on the parts I am responsible for. Dunno about yous guys' stuff. )
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    Dating: to play the part of the one who doesn't wait

    Good call. I wonder if the said 'moped collection' would be energised by an addition of tractoerotica before it parked in the downstairs garage.
  8. Lyanna Stark

    Dating: to play the part of the one who doesn't wait

    What? No, no euphemism. It's just a goddamn moped collection. Or in this case: the absence of. Just think about how useful it could be! I dunno, get hammered and see what happens? (Sidenote, is shoulder crying some sort of corner stone for relationships? I feel I've been doing it wrong, for like always.)
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    Red Sister by Mark Lawrence

    Well this one has women, no? So it would mean the Other Grimdark is really YA.
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    Red Sister by Mark Lawrence

    This thread. "Male aimed fantasy" Ohnoes, girl cooties? Really, is this a fourteen year old audience? Although I now imagine that most people who cling like Titanic survivors to their "grimdark iz for boyz" wooden door actually have a mental age of 14.
  11. Lyanna Stark

    Tell Me Something Good!

    After I separated I have been blown away with how great my friends are. You are the bestest. Mmmmmmm coffee!!
  12. Lyanna Stark

    Dating: to play the part of the one who doesn't wait

    I don't know, Hubble rescue launch and "make out" in the same sentence. I am thinking MAGIC SPARKLES!!! Should I put my Tinder adventures on here? Suffice to say I am still lacking a moped collection. Woe.
  13. Lyanna Stark

    Feminism - Post-apocalypse version

    Ah, I see. I guess this is what I get for barely ever watching TV and only reading news: I miss out on all the silly pop-culture. From what I have read tho, her influence is just currently nothing to write home about, and she is being left in the dust even by popular icons like Emma Watson. Laurie Penny I have followed for a while though, and she is quite good. @karaddin I remember that panel debate from somewhere in Australia featuring among others Celeste Liddle, Roxane Gay, Anita Sarkeesian and Germaine Greer, and it was obvious how the others just felt "Eerrrrrh" about her, but still tried to be polite. Greer hasn't contributed anything useful to feminist discourse for well over 25 years since I don't consider "general trolling" to be contributing anything.
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    Feminism - Post-apocalypse version

    I don't get this at all. I lived in the UK for five years, I still follow UK major news outlets, and my impression isn't at all that Greer is the single most famous feminist. That would most likely be Steinem, Wolfe, bell hooks or Butler, with Faludi, Ngozi Adichie, Serano, Roxane Gay and Sarkeesian added to that list as well as "currently more influential feminists than Greer". At the very least. I mean the only thing you hear about Greer is that she insulted someone. She doesn't actually contribute to feminist discussion a lot. And when she participates, it's mostly a mess since she makes little sense. @Lily Valley Yay, I am so glad you got a good copy of Sexing the Body, and YES it is dense, and I must admit to skipping some of the rat diagrams (this will make sense later, I promise ) but yes, it was...an extremely useful read.
  15. Lyanna Stark

    Feminism - Post-apocalypse version

    This is important to remember, and also what TP is saying that if there is some backlash from the dominant cultural group, that is not a sign of failure, but one of success. That said, feminists and feminism often get portrayed as ugly, unhappy, angry, bra-burning man-haters by popular culture, and it scares away women who are not actually disinclined to the feminist cause, they just feel they are not "that" type of woman (even if they probably are). The fact that basically every feminist I know arrived at the conclusion that they needed to become feminists from a background of actual life experience is disregarded, as if our lives don't matter, and "other women are quite happy, why can't you be, too?". Pointing out injustices in the system is seen as a character flaw. Further, as you also stated, the Second Wave feminists and their focus on women getting into traditionally male environments, like board rooms, STEM, engineering, etc. missed out on something important, and that is that on their way to do this, they often sacrificed femininity and femaleness in their pursuit. This is also why I keep bringing up Serano, since she puts the spotlight on this in a fantastic way. It is now acceptable for women to work in traditionally male lines of work, to make a lot of money, to get educated, to take seats in the government, women can wear trousers, both figuratively and literally. However, the opposite is not true. Men cannot wear skirts, not figuratively and not literally. This is what Serano points out in "Whipping Girl" as well, that we still have a long way to go before femaleness and femininity are equally valued as maleness and masculinity. It's probably also one of the reasons why many women have felt alienated by the feminist movement, although the stereotype that feminists are all basically angry butch women is definitely a media construct and far less truthful than many seem inclined to believe. However, even so, if you ask feminine women (or for that matter, feminine men), even among the "practitioners", femininity is generally seen as artificial, constructed, only surface deep, and not as *real* or natural as masculinity. Serano writes: If we put this side by side with toxic masculinity, I think a pattern appears of how these things fit together. On the one hand you have a straightjacket of often harmful restrictions on what it means to be masculine (and for most men this would be equaled with "what it means to be a man") and then on the other hand, you have women now being more or less allowed to fit into a man's world and take up spaces traditionally reserved for men, but at the same time, this enormous elephant in the room of negative views towards femininity and femaleness still very much exist. This is true regardless if it comes to women's physical bodies (seen as flawed next to a man's) or a feminine gender expression. The reason this is extra visible when it comes to transwomen, I think, is that they have literally done the "reverse" journey from what people expect you would want: from privilege to a position far less privileged, and this threatens the very foundations of the assumptions around male privilege, patriarchy and masculinity as superior to femininity. In short, women can be allowed equality on men's terms, as long as they don't make noise about their female bodies, and don't insist on femininity being equally valued to masculinity. But in my view, and many others', this is in no way true equality. It's a faux state of women (of all kinds, and also people who don't fit the binary gender norms, and feminine men) being shoehorned into an existing "men's club" on men's terms, with only a few concessions made to placate and to make it seem like this is the real thing. To quote Audre Lorde on this: As long as there is a strong disdain for femininity, as long as it is so strongly devalued, ridiculed and scorned, then equity cannot be reached. For one, it clearly impacts how people view women as less trustworthy, less worthy of being listened to or believed. As we have seen in this thread, too. If only our tone were nicer, if we only addressed people more politely, if we could just be a bit more understanding, as if our experiences, our hurt, our anger, our fears are something we ought to suppress, again and again, constantly, to be more pleasing, to be more caring, more altruistic, more feminine. Only then are we acceptable as women and as feminists.
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