all swedes are racist Posted August 16, 2016 Share Posted August 16, 2016 2 hours ago, Roose Boltons Pet Leech said: In a rare bit of good news, I've met a nice girl off a dating site, and we've been chatting for the past couple of weeks. She lives about two and a half hours' drive away; I'll be driving out to see her either this weekend or next. Nice! Have fun! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Theda Baratheon Posted August 16, 2016 Share Posted August 16, 2016 9 hours ago, Roose Boltons Pet Leech said: In a rare bit of good news, I've met a nice girl off a dating site, and we've been chatting for the past couple of weeks. She lives about two and a half hours' drive away; I'll be driving out to see her either this weekend or next. Have a nice time!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Arkhangel Posted August 16, 2016 Share Posted August 16, 2016 13 hours ago, Theda Baratheon said: sort of talked with him again, aahh i hate uncertainty and being confused. said he was gonna be away for a few weeks and would want to hang out after. fuck it though, i'm not thinking anything more of it, if he wants to hang out then sure, but if i miraculously meet another person i fancy and want to date/see/hang out with then im not gonna let him stop me hahahah. i feel a lot more confident in a lot of ways though, like a weird wall has been broken that i put around myself and now im like ''ohh, i can flirt and socialise with people and im not totally gross/undesirable'' so that's a good positive thing to come of this !!! Good for you! I think one of the most true and useful (if also hard to swallow) pieces of advice I've ever been given about dating guys is that if they are into you, you will know. I think often for women in particular we have this tendency to spend ages over-analysing every little thing, does this mean he likes me, does this mean he doesn't - but if you're having to do that, the answer is probably 'he doesn't'. The truth is in most cases most men are not subtle when they're really into someone. So hey, if this dude is giving you mixed signals and you've already got an awesome confidence boost out of it, cut him loose. Who needs someone who doesn't treat you well? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Mance Posted August 16, 2016 Share Posted August 16, 2016 6 hours ago, Arkhangel said: I think one of the most true and useful (if also hard to swallow) pieces of advice I've ever been given about dating guys is that if they are into you, you will know. Sorry, but this is horrible advice. It may be somewhat true that if you think a guy likes you he probably does. But not being able to tell is not necessarily a reliable indication either way. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Theda Baratheon Posted August 16, 2016 Share Posted August 16, 2016 I'm just gonna assume nothing is happening until it is. and maybe try and flirt with some other cute dudes i see now i think i can do that... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ded As Ned Posted August 16, 2016 Share Posted August 16, 2016 Deadpool Girl has started seeing someone who lives closer to her and has a more open schedule, so good for her. (Found this out when I talked to her a few weeks ago). Possessive girl I met on POF (but never in person) who freaked out when I went out with DpG that time and I cut all contact with, hit me up the other day, and we had a rather long text conversation. I suppose at the time I was happy for the attention and that someone was interested... then I woke up the next day and remembered I want nothing to do with what she's looking for. Haven't heard anything from her in a few days, so hopefully that will be that. (If she contacts me again I'll just lay it out for her). I've been thinking about it a bit the last few days, and while I want to want to date, I don't really want to date. I'm kind of in a recluse phase of life... I hang out with my kids more than anyone else... neighbors and a few close friends occasionally, but otherwise when some free time does pop up, that shit is rare and priceless right now and I enjoy the solitude, and having complete control over how I spend that time and not being obligated to spend it wishing I was doing something else. Plus I'm fairly content with where I'm at... so... I guess if I met the right gal who enjoyed doing the same things I do in my free time, and they were cool with my lack of availability, my icy cold heart when it comes to romance, and the fact that I have zero interest in a long-term relationship that leads to something serious like having to see each other every day, I'd give it a go. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Arkhangel Posted August 16, 2016 Share Posted August 16, 2016 5 hours ago, The Mance said: Sorry, but this is horrible advice. It may be somewhat true that if you think a guy likes you he probably does. But not being able to tell is not necessarily a reliable indication either way. Sure, it's possible that a guy may like you and be hiding it really really well - but if that's the case, so what? If he's putting so much effort into pretending not to like you then clearly it's not going anywhere until and unless he's ready to openly acknowledge it, at which point you will know about it, sooo... My point is that if a guy (and possibly also a girl, but I've never dated one of those so I don't know) is making you dither back and forth about whether he's really all that into you, the answer is probably no. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Theda Baratheon Posted August 16, 2016 Share Posted August 16, 2016 24 minutes ago, Arkhangel said: Sure, it's possible that a guy may like you and be hiding it really really well - but if that's the case, so what? If he's putting so much effort into pretending not to like you then clearly it's not going anywhere until and unless he's ready to openly acknowledge it, at which point you will know about it, sooo... My point is that if a guy (and possibly also a girl, but I've never dated one of those so I don't know) is making you dither back and forth about whether he's really all that into you, the answer is probably no. Yeah, I dont think this one is into me at all...time to look for more cute boys n girls Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Arkhangel Posted August 17, 2016 Share Posted August 17, 2016 In other news. I'm sure the girls will be flocking to meet him. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Maithanet Posted August 17, 2016 Share Posted August 17, 2016 19 hours ago, The Mance said: Sorry, but this is horrible advice. It may be somewhat true that if you think a guy likes you he probably does. But not being able to tell is not necessarily a reliable indication either way. IMO this depends on where you are on the "relationship". If you are just friends with a guy and you are unsure if he wants something more, often this can be unclear and can remain that way for some time. If you want things to change, you should probably be more forthright. Both men and women can get stuck in a situation where you are friends and don't want to ruin that and don't really know what to do. However, if you went on a date or something and now he is being all vague and responding intermittently then fuck that noise. If you can't even be clear about what you want or show a minimum amount of care for the other person's time and feelings, then they either aren't interested or aren't worth dating. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HexMachina Posted August 18, 2016 Share Posted August 18, 2016 I had a will we/won't we moment earlier this week with a friend of a friend (who I knew, but had not met before) while the three of us were out for the night. But in the end it came to nothing because I started overthinking how potentially awkward it might have made things. I just really started overthinking, as per usual. Le sigh. On the plus side: 1) My attempts at flirting didn't result in me dissolving into an incoherent awkward mess. 2) I had a great night out and even if nothing happened, I have another really great friend now Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Marquis de Leech Posted August 23, 2016 Share Posted August 23, 2016 On 16/08/2016 at 10:04 PM, Theda Baratheon said: Have a nice time!! Thanks, I did (didn't get much sleep though. )) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kelli Fury Posted August 23, 2016 Share Posted August 23, 2016 On August 18, 2016 at 0:11 PM, HelenaExMachina said: I had a will we/won't we moment earlier this week with a friend of a friend (who I knew, but had not met before) while the three of us were out for the night. But in the end it came to nothing because I started overthinking how potentially awkward it might have made things. I just really started overthinking, as per usual. Le sigh. On the plus side: 1) My attempts at flirting didn't result in me dissolving into an incoherent awkward mess. 2) I had a great night out and even if nothing happened, I have another really great friend now You can always touch butts at a later time Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Theda Baratheon Posted August 24, 2016 Share Posted August 24, 2016 Invited me to stay his tonight after going for a couple drinks with a couple of my friends. He never turned up and messaged me hours later like im so sorry im ill because I was drunk two days in a row. Ya...this one is NOT a keeper... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Buckwheat Posted August 24, 2016 Share Posted August 24, 2016 4 minutes ago, Theda Baratheon said: Ya...this one is NOT a keeper... Yep, you are better off without. (Just in case you needed a confirmation from a random person on the Internet, but I am sure you were perfectly aware of that before. ) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Theda Baratheon Posted August 25, 2016 Share Posted August 25, 2016 Thanks friend :-) I actually dont feel that bad? Im noticing loads of cute people lately, I like where I am in my life, I like what im doing and who knows, with a teeny tiny bit more confidence in myself I might just go and ask one of them out myself :-) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lily Valley Posted August 25, 2016 Share Posted August 25, 2016 Theda, eff that dude. On 8/23/2016 at 0:20 AM, Kelli Fury said: You can always touch butts at a later time Kelli, you realized that you have turned this into butts-touch Thursday. I had a nice date last night with a young man I met on FetLife last year. We hang out once a month or so. It was fun. I whipped his ass at Battleship and probably had one more been than is normally advisable on a worknight, but it got me out of the house. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kelli Fury Posted August 25, 2016 Share Posted August 25, 2016 But did you touch butts? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mr. Chatywin et al. Posted August 26, 2016 Share Posted August 26, 2016 I'm going all in with Kay Fury's name change being the root cause of the board's crash! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lily Valley Posted August 27, 2016 Share Posted August 27, 2016 On 8/25/2016 at 5:56 PM, Kelli Fury said: But did you touch butts? He cleaned the cat boxes, does that count? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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