Mormont'sRaven Posted August 5, 2013 Share Posted August 5, 2013 I was invited to meet someone for drinks. I have no idea what this entails because I've never been invited to something like this and I've never been in a bar in my entire life. Advice?Thanks. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
all swedes are racist Posted August 5, 2013 Share Posted August 5, 2013 Hang out. Get tipsy. Maybe even leave them with the check. Have fun. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mormont'sRaven Posted August 5, 2013 Author Share Posted August 5, 2013 Is there anything I should know? I'm actually nervous just thinking about it. Bars sound like scary places :0 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IheartTesla Posted August 5, 2013 Share Posted August 5, 2013 Pace yourself. Drink one glass of water for every glass of liquor. Make sure you have a way to get home if you get tipsy (without use of your car). Tip the bartender.Otherwise you just need to relax. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Progressive Posted August 5, 2013 Share Posted August 5, 2013 Listen, you could always decline and thanks the person for the invitation. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NestorMakhnosLovechild Posted August 5, 2013 Share Posted August 5, 2013 Listen, you could always decline and thanks the person for the invitation.Terrible advice. You should go and then tell us all about it in great, world-ending detail. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Edda van Heefmstra Ruston Posted August 5, 2013 Share Posted August 5, 2013 Remember, it's just drinks. There's no promise of future interaction on either end, so you don't have to freak out. If this is your first meeting with the person, it's probably not a great idea to get hammered, and having a plan for how to get home is an awesome idea. Just try to relax enough to enjoy yourself, and think of a couple of topics to talk about. Don't let this turn into employer 2.0. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mormont'sRaven Posted August 5, 2013 Author Share Posted August 5, 2013 Remember, it's just drinks. There's no promise of future interaction on either end, so you don't have to freak out. If this is your first meeting with the person, it's probably not a great idea to get hammered, and having a plan for how to get home is an awesome idea.Just try to relax enough to enjoy yourself, and think of a couple of topics to talk about. Don't let this turn into employer 2.0.why did you have to remind me *massive, massive sigh* Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
all swedes are racist Posted August 5, 2013 Share Posted August 5, 2013 Yeah sorry, is this a "first date/get to know you" situation? Or like, coworkers hanging out shooting the shot situation?Either way, IHeartTesla is correct (and I failed to mention) TIP YOUR BARTENDER.Also, are you just not a bar person, or a drinker in general? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Larry of the Lawn Posted August 5, 2013 Share Posted August 5, 2013 Don't take your pants off in the bar. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mormont'sRaven Posted August 5, 2013 Author Share Posted August 5, 2013 Yeah sorry, is this a "first date/get to know you" situation? Or like, coworkers hanging out shooting the shot situation?Either way, IHeartTesla is correct (and I failed to mention) TIP YOUR BARTENDER.Also, are you just not a bar person, or a drinker in general?I guess more of a networking type thing where someone I knew asked me to get drinks. Whatever that means.I'm really not either.And the invitation/asking me was via email so I haven't answered yet. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Every Posted August 5, 2013 Share Posted August 5, 2013 Don't take your pants off in the bar. Depends what kind of bar it is :leer:Don't overthink it, OP. You're capable of drinking responsibly, you're capable of talking to people, you can do both contiguously (but not simultaneously, which could get messy). The more you stress about it, the harder it's going to be for you, so don't make it a big deal. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sixshells Posted August 5, 2013 Share Posted August 5, 2013 And don't forget: never accept drinks from strangers! :devil: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Theda Baratheon Posted August 5, 2013 Share Posted August 5, 2013 KARAOKE, REALLY LOUDLY, AND DRUNKENLY - that will really build a cool rep.Seriously though, just go, don't drink too much, enjoy yourself. :) Don't freak out, it's just a few drinks at a bar, should be fun - it's not an interview. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Edda van Heefmstra Ruston Posted August 5, 2013 Share Posted August 5, 2013 it's not an interview.I'm actually going to disagree with this part. No, it's probably not a formal interview, but especially if it's a professional contact, treat it as a professional meeting. This is your first impression, so don't be uptight, but don't assume this is you out with your best friends, either. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Persicaria Posted August 5, 2013 Share Posted August 5, 2013 Good advice so far. Some bars also offer appetizers or other fare (food helps slowdown the digestion of alcohol). I have gone out with coworkers . My first time going out there were a few people in a party who really wanted to see me get smashed (not really malicious, as they were female and wanted to see what I would be like without all my reservations). If your casual acquaintances it is unlikely they are trying to get you drunk. Perhaps they want to get a gauge of the type of person you are so they choose a comfortable setting. I am not big fan of bars myself, but if I hang out with people at work it usually is at bars. Some bars can be loud, more so at night , and many have live music, but it is possible to have a conversation (just be prepared for a little yelling). Try it out, if it is uncomfortable you can take the initiative next time to suggest alternatives places (like somewhere for lunch) for networking. I hope you enjoy yourself Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Theda Baratheon Posted August 5, 2013 Share Posted August 5, 2013 I'm actually going to disagree with this part. No, it's probably not a formal interview, but especially if it's a professional contact, treat it as a professional meeting. This is your first impression, so don't be uptight, but don't assume this is you out with your best friends, either.Oh, I understand it's a professional contact and to definitely not drink too much, but perhaps it wouldn't be best to treat it super formal either, which might seem too obvious. I dunno, I don't know about these things, lol :P Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Madfunkymonkey Posted August 6, 2013 Share Posted August 6, 2013 Only have 2 or 3 drinks and have fun. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Garlan Marius Posted August 6, 2013 Share Posted August 6, 2013 Only order one drink, and make it something classy. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Arch-MaesterPhilip Posted August 6, 2013 Share Posted August 6, 2013 KARAOKE, REALLY LOUDLY, AND DRUNKENLY - that will really build a cool rep.Seriously though, just go, don't drink too much, enjoy yourself. :) Don't freak out, it's just a few drinks at a bar, should be fun - it's not an interview.This! Last time I sang I butchered "My Way". Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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