Deedles Posted November 16, 2015 Share Posted November 16, 2015 I might be wrong, but I think what Deedles was referring to, is the display of one's gender on every post, rather than its inclusion in the member profile, where nothing has changed from the old forum version.exactly. Thank you Robin. i just don't think it adds anything positive to the forum, and potentially is a negative. Anyway, has there been any further negative or positive feedback after your wedding? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Robin Of House Hill Posted November 16, 2015 Share Posted November 16, 2015 Aside from the aunt, uncle and cousin, congratulating, it's been quiet. I think those who don't approve will keep silent. Some of her friends have been positive. No telling how many didn't notice it in their news feeds. Of course, my friends on FB have been wonderful.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Theda Baratheon Posted November 16, 2015 Share Posted November 16, 2015 I wouldn't worry about it Robin - you were happy and emotional and you wanted to share that! *internet hugs* Hopefully the few negative people will stay silent but if not fuck 'em ! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Robin Of House Hill Posted November 16, 2015 Share Posted November 16, 2015 Well, we are 3000 miles away from them, so there isn't much they can really do, but I'm still not happy about making such a mistake. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
karaddin Posted November 17, 2015 Author Share Posted November 17, 2015 We all make mistakes from time to time Robin, it's best to be kind and forgiving to yourself when you make them. You'll remember and probably not make this one again even if you do decide it's OK. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Robin Of House Hill Posted November 17, 2015 Share Posted November 17, 2015 We all make mistakes from time to time Robin, it's best to be kind and forgiving to yourself when you make them. You'll remember and probably not make this one again even if you do decide it's OK.Yeah, it's unlikely that I'll do this again. Not much chance of me getting married again :-P Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
karaddin Posted November 17, 2015 Author Share Posted November 17, 2015 Yeah, it's unlikely that I'll do this again. Not much chance of me getting married again :-PYeah yeah, you know what I meant pedant!Congratulations btw So glad you got it done and that despite your expectations it was so meaningful to you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Robin Of House Hill Posted November 17, 2015 Share Posted November 17, 2015 Thanks. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lily Valley Posted November 17, 2015 Share Posted November 17, 2015 Not much chance of me getting married again :-PCongratulations to you and your beautiful wife! :faints appropriately from heartbreak: I wouldn't worry too much. I think you can edit post if needed. I know, I know, I'm a day late and dollar short with my Monday morning quarterbacking over here. I'm glad to hear that some relatives are showing their love and support. I wish you all the peace, quiet, love and privacy that you have earned. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Xray the Enforcer Posted November 17, 2015 Share Posted November 17, 2015 exactly. Thank you Robin. i just don't think it adds anything positive to the forum, and potentially is a negative. It is hard-coded into the forum software and at present there is no way to remove it. Those who feel uncomfortable sharing their own gender to the public should either choose "not telling" or, if the option is available, choose the blank space at the top of dropdown (above "male"). The latter will make the gender field disappear entirely from your profile. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Robin Of House Hill Posted November 17, 2015 Share Posted November 17, 2015 Congratulations to you and your beautiful wife! :faints appropriately from heartbreak: I wouldn't worry too much. I think you can edit post if needed. I know, I know, I'm a day late and dollar short with my Monday morning quarterbacking over here. I'm glad to hear that some relatives are showing their love and support. I wish you all the peace, quiet, love and privacy that you have earned.She's already said, "it's out there, so nothing can be done", and seems content that it won't pose a major problem. It's just my obsession about such things, that remains.It is hard-coded into the forum software and at present there is no way to remove it. Those who feel uncomfortable sharing their own gender to the public should either choose "not telling" or, if the option is available, choose the blank space at the top of dropdown (above "male"). The latter will make the gender field disappear entirely from your profile.That's a nice hack. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HexMachina Posted November 17, 2015 Share Posted November 17, 2015 Congratulations Robin And sorry about the FB issue (though I'm even more sorry that it is an issue in the first place) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Robin Of House Hill Posted November 17, 2015 Share Posted November 17, 2015 Thanks. The FB thing probably didn't cause much of a problem. But, I keep focusing on, "it could have." I guess my therapist and I will have something to talk about. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Grimbold Posted November 20, 2015 Share Posted November 20, 2015 Random entry on this thread: Portugal's national assembly just passed, amongst other things, co-adoption by homosexual couples. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Maltaran Posted November 20, 2015 Share Posted November 20, 2015 A trans woman has died in a male prison, and the government is now reviewing its policy on trans prisoners (currently, the usual policy is that they put you in a jail matching the gender on your birth certificate, so trans people only go to the right one if they've had it legally changed). Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ljkeane Posted November 20, 2015 Share Posted November 20, 2015 currently, the usual policy is that they put you in a jail matching the gender on your birth certificate, so trans people only go to the right one if they've had it legally changed.In fairness I think the policy is trans people only automatically get sent to a prison for their legal gender. If there's reason to do so there's still the capacity for a review to send people to the correct facility without requiring people to change their legal gender. Overall I think that's probably the right general outline of what the policy on this issue should be but perhaps the guidelines the reviews are operating under need to be improved. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Marcus Agrippa Posted November 24, 2015 Share Posted November 24, 2015 So, I have a question(s) for particularly the lesbian and trans- community- I need write a lesbian POV without delving into creepiness. Part of me just wants to withdraw the sexual component completely based on a fear of over or under representing sex in a relationship. The character however, feels incomplete without going into this aspect of her life do to fact she's in a long-term relationship from the beginning. Yes, she is a hero, no- her partner doesn't make it through the story thought she is alive for most of it, and yes it is a life changing event for her. ( I imagine that a death of a loved one is always going to be a life changing event however...) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NestorMakhnosLovechild Posted November 24, 2015 Share Posted November 24, 2015 So, I have a question(s) for particularly the lesbian and trans- community- I need write a lesbian POV without delving into creepiness. Part of me just wants to withdraw the sexual component completely based on a fear of over or under representing sex in a relationship. The character however, feels incomplete without going into this aspect of her life do to fact she's in a long-term relationship from the beginning. Yes, she is a hero, no- her partner doesn't make it through the story thought she is alive for most of it, and yes it is a life changing event for her. ( I imagine that a death of a loved one is always going to be a life changing event however...)So let me get this straight... you're asking our lesbian and trans boarders for their input on your steamy lesbian sex scenes? Are you unfamiliar with the ways in which two women have sex? Are you looking for colorful euphemisms for the clitoris? There is pretty much zero chance this request will be perceived as non-creepy in any way. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TerraPrime Posted November 24, 2015 Share Posted November 24, 2015 So.... you want someone to contact you via PM if they are willing to volunteer? And will you also include bisexual women with motss relationship experience in your solicitation for help? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lily Valley Posted November 25, 2015 Share Posted November 25, 2015 Thanks fellas.I'll just add that if you ask Booble, she'll tell you lots of lesbian sex stories. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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