Littlefingers In The Air Posted March 14, 2015 Share Posted March 14, 2015 Continue. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bryanfury Posted March 14, 2015 Share Posted March 14, 2015 Currently finding myself only matching with girls on Tinder who live ~150kms away. I should probably go about meeting people some other way. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Arch-MaesterPhilip Posted March 15, 2015 Share Posted March 15, 2015 I'm on my way to my date and I'm super nervous. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kat Posted March 15, 2015 Share Posted March 15, 2015 I'm on my way to my date and I'm super nervous. Good luck! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Arch-MaesterPhilip Posted March 15, 2015 Share Posted March 15, 2015 Good luck!Thanks,I've been waiting years for this opportunity but the timing was never right. I intend to make the most of it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Theda Baratheon Posted March 15, 2015 Share Posted March 15, 2015 Have fun !!!!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guy Kilmore Posted March 15, 2015 Share Posted March 15, 2015 I'm on my way to my date and I'm super nervous. Good Luck Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Arch-MaesterPhilip Posted March 15, 2015 Share Posted March 15, 2015 I'm having a good time but she is still with her boyfriend. I'm bummed but she is a truly remarkable person and a good friend so I can live with that. I'll have my moment in the sun one day. Just not today. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Arkhangel Posted March 15, 2015 Share Posted March 15, 2015 Sorry to hear that. On the upside though, you just proved yourself awesome by reacting so maturely, and there are many girls who will appreciate that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Arch-MaesterPhilip Posted March 15, 2015 Share Posted March 15, 2015 I know the gentleman she is seeing and he is the nicest guy ever and most importantly I respect her as a person. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bryanfury Posted March 15, 2015 Share Posted March 15, 2015 The girl I was seeing is officially in a relationship with the new guy and I'm not handling it that well. I honestly did not expect to feel like this over her, it's not until the other guy was in the picture that I really started feeling it. I got this way over my first girlfriend and I don't want to end up causing this girl grief so I'm gonna call it quits on our friendship altogether. I feel like such an asshole for doing this.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
litechick Posted March 15, 2015 Share Posted March 15, 2015 What do you do when you meet two guys who are friends, you like Guy B a bit more than Guy A but it's Guy A who pursues a connection with you? Clearly Guy B is interested but for whatever reason he won't take the hint. Bros before hoes, etc. It's not out of line for friends to decide not to both pursue the same person but any agreement they come to disenfranchises the choice of the pursued. You can't have them both. Stonewall Guy A and hope that Guy B comes around? Accept Guy A because he's pretty cool and Guy B isn't responding? Lose them both? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
deleted01 Posted March 15, 2015 Share Posted March 15, 2015 I'm having a good time but she is still with her boyfriend. I'm bummed but she is a truly remarkable person and a good friend so I can live with that. I'll have my moment in the sun one day. Just not today.Aw Philip, I'm so sorry to hear that. You're such a great guy, as proven by your reaction here, I so want you to be happy. Have a hug :grouphug: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Elder Sister Posted March 15, 2015 Share Posted March 15, 2015 I know the gentleman she is seeing and he is the nicest guy ever and most importantly I respect her as a person.I'm pretty sure this statement makes you the nicest guy ever. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Arkhangel Posted March 15, 2015 Share Posted March 15, 2015 What do you do when you meet two guys who are friends, you like Guy B a bit more than Guy A but it's Guy A who pursues a connection with you? Clearly Guy B is interested but for whatever reason he won't take the hint. Bros before hoes, etc. It's not out of line for friends to decide not to both pursue the same person but any agreement they come to disenfranchises the choice of the pursued. You can't have them both. Stonewall Guy A and hope that Guy B comes around? Accept Guy A because he's pretty cool and Guy B isn't responding? Lose them both? Having recently been in a similar situation, go for the one who is actually clearly into you (provided you're also into him, of course). Don't waste ages on a guy who is on the fence about whether he wants you or not. Or, just lose them both. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Arch-MaesterPhilip Posted March 15, 2015 Share Posted March 15, 2015 Aw Philip, I'm so sorry to hear that. You're such a great guy, as proven by your reaction here, I so want you to be happy. Have a hug :grouphug:It's the only possible reaction for me. I'll find happiness one day. Thank you kindly for the hug. I'm pretty sure this statement makes you the nicest guy ever.Thank you for the kind words ES. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lily Valley Posted March 15, 2015 Share Posted March 15, 2015 Sorry Brian and AMP. :grouphug: Dinner date was a disaster. She just finished a course at my college and wanted to criticize my colleague who taught it through dinner. I changed the subject, three times. We went to my after dinner thing and back to my place. She said she'd wait to hear from me. I assume this means I am responsible for sending the, "Thanks for a lovely evening, but I don't think we're in the same space right now," message. I am going to search the old thread for the appropriate words. After an overnight dinner date, I assume that just disappearing is not an option. I am a little resentful as when someone says things like, "I'm not looking for anything serious." I assume they mean, "I am not going to make this into a big thing." Well now it's a big goddamn thing. If I get another 17 page angry text message, I am going to remind her that she told me she was just looking for a casual hook-up. I am heartily sick and tired of this guilt-trip methodology of trying to get me to make a larger commitment than I want to make. Whether it's an emotional commitment or just a time commitment. Oh, and I am using that whole "contact name function" in my phone to make sure I don't screw up again. That was EMBARRASSING. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
brook Posted March 15, 2015 Share Posted March 15, 2015 I agree with Chats, if someone gets angry at a polite rejection I think instant block is appropriate. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kat Posted March 15, 2015 Share Posted March 15, 2015 Yep, I agree with both brook and Chats. Life is too short for angry rejected people. I cancelled my Match membership yesterday, citing having found someone through another site. I only went on one date through Match and in general found their algorithms to be pretty useless. Maybe I just don't get it, but pretty much everyone it selected for me was matched based on something really vague ("you both like to work out") and their profile style made everyone seem boring/generic. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bryanfury Posted March 15, 2015 Share Posted March 15, 2015 Aaand thats that. As good as the last six months was, I just can't deal with seeing her with someone else. I apologised and then went and deleted/blocked her and everything. She said she understands how I'm feeling, so at least she doesn't think I'm just being a dick or spiteful. I regret this because ses an awesome chick but.. With my first ex, I got real bad anxiety attacks and I would take it out on her, and I could already feel it happening this time. I don't wanna be that crazy ex raging at her over nothing, shegets that enough as it is. I'm gonna miss her :( Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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