Datepalm

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  1. Dating: Hell is Other People

    Well...it would satisfy my curiousity...ok, and my conscience, in that i'm hanging out with a married guy I met on OKC and do not know if his wife knows about it. I think i'd feel less awkward about it having met her? Maybe? It would be fine if I had met him basically anywhere else, but here we are. Oh, and no, the wife is here, the BFF is in India. Guess which one he talks about way more? (and apparently to, every day.)
  2. US Election: It's a post-TrumpDay world

    Peter - would you have voted for Sanders in the general election?
  3. Chareerchat II: Production of Means

    The plot thickens! Kinda! When I started work at this place, I was supposed to have a manager - this outside contractor who was an old friend of the company owner and oficially listed as the most professionally senior person on that particular clownshow. One of the problems with the whole thing was that this guy was something between apathetic and totally incompetent. Thirty years public sector experience and all, obviously there was knowledge somewhere in there, but in practice I ended up kind of having to manage him and dredge it out, and after a while he pretty much vanished. I think his total contribution to months of fieldwork, data analysis, design and 200 odd pages of reports was one time where I talked him through a series of meetings he had been in so I could at least generate some kind of report, three emails and one badly written memo, all of which made the same minor, obvious point about a side-topic from the bulk of the work. Well, they've hired him. Whatever.
  4. Stupid Questions: The Triumphant Return

    Here's one...how's ennui pronounced? I have no clue. My instincts say EN-YOU-EYE, but apparently it's really French so more like ON-WEE? Has anyone actually ever heard the word used in speech? I don't think anyone can get away with it.
  5. Dating: Hell is Other People

    Soooo.....Married Brain Science Guy from OKCupid and I have pretty much fallen into a pattern of a weekly coffee or beer, mostly to complain about how much both of us dislike whatever it is we're working on at the moment. That's all fine. It is a relationship devoid of any subtext that I can pick up, assuming you don't hew to the school of thought that argues that there is no innocuous version of friendship across gender, which I don't, (and if there's any kind of misdirected mental or emotional energy going on in his head, it's not in my direction. I'd say he's clearly in love with his (female) bff back home, but what do I know?) except I still would kind of like to meet the wife. I'm trying to put together a groupish Friday dinner but sense I may be out of my depth social-engineering wise and maybe its better not to poke situations that are probably perfectly fine with pointy sticks just to make sure? Oooooor....I need my roommate to organize a dinner and then just kind of invite some people - including them - along also. That way its not my doing. Right? Right?
  6. Dating: Hell is Other People

    Soooo.....Married Brain Science Guy from OKCupid and I have pretty much fallen into a pattern of a weekly coffee or beer, mostly to complain about how much both of us dislike whatever it is we're working on at the moment. That's all fine. It is a relationship devoid of any subtext that I can pick up, assuming you don't hew to the school of thought that argues that there is no innocuous version of friendship across gender, which I don't, (and if there's any kind of misdirected mental or emotional energy going on in his head, it's not in my direction. I'd say he's clearly in love with his (female) bff back home, but what do I know?) except I still would kind of like to meet the wife. I'm trying to put together a groupish Friday dinner but sense I may be out of my depth social-engineering wise and maybe its better not to poke situations that are probably perfectly fine with pointy sticks just to make sure? Oooooor....I need my roommate to organize a dinner and then just kind of invite some people - including them - along also. That way its not my doing. Right? Right?
  7. Stupid Questions: The Triumphant Return

    I sympasize with the dog issue as well - I had neighbours who kept uncared for dogs (some kind of nasty breeding scheme, I think) in the yard right under my window when I was a teenager, and they barked all the time, including all night, often enough. They were very aggressive, scary and not particularly approachable by anyone (the yard was closed off.) They neighbours didn't appear to care about the noise they were causing or about the dog's behaviour. They never walked them or interacted with them that I noticed. I felt terrible for the dogs, really, but I also couldn't sleep for months on end. It led, seriously, to anxiety and meltdowns and impacts on school and the like It got to the point where I even tried calling city hall and the police to get some kind of intervention going, but obviously nothing happened. It only ended when we moved. I don't know that a torture device is the thing, but I understand the need for some kind of intervention.
  8. Stupid Questions: The Triumphant Return

    Hm that is interesting. I will tell them that. Ok, so the evidence seems to add up to not being able to blame my roommates choice in mood altering substances for my altered mood, that's all me. Yay. I've been working from home and it's a holiday so there's nothing much to go do in the evenings either...yeah, I just need to get out of here.
  9. Stupid Questions: The Triumphant Return

    So my question is: can one be affected from second hand smoke from, uh, in-places-illegal grassy substances? Let's say your roommates smoke quite a lot in a given holiday week - in a closed room you also use quite a lot, including while you're there - and you don't and never have, and say you find yourself sleeping way too much and having strangely vivid dreams and a general kind of vagueness and ennui? Is that a thing or do I just need to get out of the house more, regardless of whats floating around in it?
  10. As we seem to have lost the old stupid questions thread...all those things you feel like probably you should know, but you don't. No judgements, just input from the knowledgeable. Or at least the opinionated.
  11. Dating: Hell is Other People

    How closely do you work with this clown? Is not speaking to you at all now, you know, noticeable?
  12. TTTNE 463 - A Thread for Craziness

    What are you researching? I'm on a 3-person team for a clinic project this semester, and it's one Muslim, one Catholic and one Jew, and there has literally not been one week where we've been able to easily meet, because someone has ALWAYS been celebrating something. (We also can't seem to go as a group around the neighbourhood we're working in, because each one of us has a different fraught ethnosocial dynamic of exclusion and discomfort there s/he can't really openly discuss and needs to - literally - navigate the place differently. It would be fascinating to examine if only our assignment wasn't something else entirely. Oh. Jerusalem. Bite me.)
  13. Chareerchat II: Production of Means

    Xray was right. (Not staggering news, I know.) Should have walked out the door like three weeks ago at work and had it over with...instead we agreed to three months, when I actually got the letter (two weeks after that) it just so happened to be one month, so all told about 5-6 weeks earlier than we agreed, and since then the Big Boss Guy has literally not spoken to me. As in, not responding when I say hello and looking straight through me for the handful of times when I've been in the same room, including for hours on end over the course of an entire workday. It's like being in grade school. Is there a word for that in English, when kids pretend other kids don't exist? I mean, Big Boss Guy is in his 70s, owns the company, and his favorite topic of conversation is his history of aptitude for getting away with low scale corruption, and we're down to the silent treatment? Among other things, I just don't get it. I'd flake off for whatever three weeks i've got remaining and work from home and that's that, but naturally they've piled a ridiculous amount of serious work for different projects on me (including the fake environmental specialist thing vis a vis the major lending institution, apropos corruption) which I already know I'm not going to get through in these three weeks no matter what, so not that bothered, except a few colleagues - who I have a lot of respect and affection for - are still relying on me to get it done. I have exactly zero motivation (or even a place to work or a computer, since mine broke last week and no one is in a hurry to get it repaired. So i've been working from the university, which I think is going above and beyond anyway.) so it's just kinda staring at screens all day and trying to find a way to make myself do what I recognize to be qualitatively terrible work, but without even the personal justification "well-i'm-learning-something-I-guess" anymore. Moral of the story is - never drag out being fired.
  14. Carry on and good luck on all interviews and applications, labouring masses.
  15. Careerchat

    Good luck!!