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  1. No, it's not really something I take into account. I don't really plan much for the long term though, aside from making sure to save money for retirement.
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    Careerchat III

    @kairparavel / @Altherion : Thanks for the input! This is a strange situation to navigate because he's lived in several countries and so has navigated immigration crap before, but he's never worked outside of academia, and while I have industry experience I've always lived in the US. He's visiting this week so I'll talk to him more about the timeline and consulting with some non-Google immigration specialists.
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    Careerchat III

    Trisk, I think they do expect to give an increase, although from what I know usually not too large. I've seen a lot of advice about trying to not disclose your current salary for this reason--what they are able and willing to pay you should be independent of what your previous company paid you, and you want to avoid being boxed in by your previous salary. So if it gets to the salary negotiation part, I would just tell them what you are looking for (obviously with some room for negotiating) and not tie it to "well my current position pays X" (unless they are trying to pay you *less* than your current salary, which would be not ideal). Of course I've never really done this in practice as I haven't stayed in any one field long enough. Curious for some thoughts from the hive mind: my boyfriend is currently a post-doctoral researcher (academia). He's planning to move here and leave academia for a job in industry (like data science/software engineering). He'll need an employer to sponsor his visa, but the visa itself should be straightforward (he's eligible for one that never hits quota). His current contract runs through July. When should he be starting to reach out and make contacts, maybe start applying? He'll be moving in with me on his tourist visa this summer regardless of the job situation, which means he'll have about 3 months before that clock runs out (obviously we'll be keeping everything very legal in regards to immigration). Should he just wait until he gets here? Is job-hunting impossible from another continent? (He's in Europe right now.) How can he not freak out potential employers about the visa sponsorship? He's not really asked me for help with this but I want to make sure I'm doing everything I can to help out, since it's a pretty big deal that he's moving to the US for me and all. Just curious if anyone has any experience with something similar or any advice to offer. Thanks!
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    First Quarter 2019 Reading

    I decided to pick up a book last night that was a Christmas gift a couple years ago, The Trespasser by Tana French. It's quite good, but I get really affected by tense books (so I don't usually read them) and had trouble sleeping last night. Oops! I'm about halfway through, debating if I can risk reading it tonight or not.
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    How do I buy a mattress?

    I spent a long time researching mattress when I moved a year and a half ago. I ended up going with Brooklyn Bedding and I have been very happy with it, plus I found the convenience of it nice. Previously I had bought mattresses at a mattress store, trying them out. I know that I prefer firm mattresses so that's what I was looking for, and the return policies were generous enough that I was willing to give it a shot. Anyway just saying that if you're comfortable with it, I think the online ones that get advertised on podcasts can be good.
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    First Quarter 2019 Reading

    I finished Friends Like These and yep it was as predictable and meh as I thought it would be. Guess it was good just to shake off the reading cobwebs, at least! Next up I think will be Don't Panic, a Douglas Adams biography by Neil Gaiman.
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    First Quarter 2019 Reading

    I gave up on Dime quién soy. Started on a light British chick lit book, Friends Like These. It's easy to read but I'm about 50% and it's been incredibly predictable.
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    Exercise and Fitness: bro science debunked

    I hate working out with other people. I have a friend who keeps being like "I'll go to the gym with you!" and I feel bad because I just do not want to do that. I know for her (and many people) it's more fun and motivating to go with someone. For me, it makes me less likely to go (having to plan with another person's schedule), makes my workout less productive, and usually ends up taking longer. Plus this friend isn't a huge gym goer so she's happy to just do whatever I am doing, which makes me feel like I ought to be coming up with routines that would be good for both of us. Anyway, I finally just allowed myself to not worry about it because it was honestly making me go to the gym less frequently.
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    US Politics: Ready, Set, Announce! Bookering the Odds

    I hate watching SOTU. It's so cringey. In particular because I loathe DT and the sound of his voice, but I didn't really like it with previous Presidents either. All the stupid grandstanding standing ovations and the same old talking points. The weird throne-things behind the President. Also gives everyone a chance to be all shocked that Trump can give a pre-written speech ("He's so presidential!" gag).
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    First Quarter 2019 Reading

    I just can't get into Dime Quién Soy. I'm about 5% in and I feel like I've been reading it for ages. It's not bad, it's just not very enthralling. And it's so long (1097 pages) that I am just not sure it's worth it to keep going. A real shame because I've been really wanting to read more Spanish books. I don't have anything else on deck though so I guess I'll give it a few more reading days.
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    Boarders Writing a Novel Part 15

  12. No, I don't think so. In my experience, there are 2 main camps among female officers. Those who want everything to be more unisex--that is, to have similar/same uniforms as the men, removal of female-specific items--and would probably also support everyone being called sir. Then there are those who want to assert their femininity AND their rank/status simultaneously. They tend to be proud "skirts" (what we used to call the women who voluntarily wore skirts instead of pants with their dress uniforms), support maintaining traditional female uniforms, etc. They would probably hate to be called "sir". I myself am more of the latter camp. To be clear, I don't think that either camp is objectively correct. It's just two very different approaches and I witnessed a lot of clashes over it. For one example, recently the Navy female officer cover was declared that it was going to be changed from the traditionally female "bucket" hat to a unisex one that is the traditionally male hat--https://goo.gl/images/33V4ra change demonstrated in this picture. There was a pretty large outcry from a lot of female officers, and the higher ups ended up backing down and making the transition optional while they figured out what they were going to do. I'm not sure what the final status of that was because it was after I got out and so I don't follow these things as closely. Basically the way I feel about it is this--the idea is proposed to make things more equal by removing gendered distinctions, a good goal. But the implementation is to take the previously "male" designated term and make it unisex, dropping the "female" designated term. To me that doesn't feel equal, it feels like I have to pretend I'm not a woman or that I don't care about being a woman. Why not propose that all officers are called "ma'am"? Or come up with a new term?
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    Boarders Writing a Novel Part 15

    Congrats! I know how weird it can feel to be excited about getting a rejection, but a non-form really is a good sign! It's a tough tough world out there.
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    Crazy Ex-Girlfriend S4 - We Want to Be Here [spoilers]

    New Greg is fine but he is not Greg. He's just not. He doesn't have the same vibe at all.
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    The Orville Season 2

    I don't really like this show but I keep watching it? Don't really understand.