Tears of Lys

I just want to apologize to Karaddin for being even a small part in causing her grief. It sure wasn't intended. I had been away from the Board for quite a while and didn't realize this topic had been discussed to death. If anyone brings this topic up again, it certainly won't be me. My feelings aren't solidified by any means, and I don't know that I added anything substantive to the convo.

I had one on the back of my neck under my hair a few weeks ago! I told my husband to take a Q-tip soaked in alcohol and kill it first, then gently extract it with a tweezers. I have no idea whether he was successful or not at removing it intact. They bury their heads into your skin, and if you don't get it all, it can be . . . difficult for you. I didn't want to bust his balls over it, but he's not the best at delicate maneuvers. All I know is that I have a small swelling in that area and it itches now and then, two weeks later.

Fold them in half from corner to corner making a pyramid shape, then again the same way, then stuff the folded part into your pocket and fluff the edges that are sticking up. Does that even make sense?? LOL Another way to really up your scarf game is to use a long rectangular scarf, fold in half lengthwise, and use as a belt. If Errol Flynn did it, it can't be all bad.

Interesting viewpoint. I'm becoming less confounded.

Well that was very enlightening. Don't consider fairness because there is a vast conspiracy that uses it as a tool to confound liberals. It must have worked because I'm feeling confounded.

A cardiologist has spent most of her adult life in medical school. It figures that she doesn't know much about anything else. Two different worlds!

The problem is that anyone who questions this topic in ANY way is labeled as TERF or transphobic. My previous post of an in-depth examination of this topic (which was deleted due to the fact I copied the entire article from the New York Times) explained all the nuances AND from both sides. This topic deserves more than a knee-jerk reaction, which I'm not saying YOU do, but a few others in this thread are prone to. Might I also take this opportunity to say I embrace my trans sisters and their struggles for acceptance. But I also am a feminist and don't wish to see cis girls shunted to the side either.

Except I can think of many instances where government DID dictate how a sports league of any size ran their system. Mostly to the benefit of sports in general. I'm sure you can too. Legislating "fairness" can come in many guises.

Are you speaking to me? If so, I've already said I have the utmost respect for Karaddin and wish her well in all things. I always read her posts and find them to be thoughtful and well presented. I guess my primary point is it's facile and misleading to just label all folks who are wanting to know more about this complicated subject as "TERFs" and transphobic. For one thing, you run a huge risk of alienating people who could be your friends. The NYT article brings up some topics that deserve a more thoughtful consideration. Is it possible to treat both trans women and cis women with equal fairness? Maybe it's not. If not, tell me why.

@karaddin That's fine. I'm about ready to hit the sack now, anyway.

Yes. Absolutely. It's a genuine concern of mine. You hear different things, and if the "worst case scenarios" are extremely rare, I accept that. I lived through the times when birth-assigned women were shunted to the side, not given the same opportunities, etc., etc., WAY fewer opportunities for the Olympics. I'm truly concerned that some men may see this as a chance for an easy win, or even a cheap thrill. These are the types of things your average person is concerned about too, so laying it to rest is definitely a good thing.

Well, you've set my mind at ease then. No worries. Nothing to see here.

I'm somewhat uncomfortable with the incidence of previously self-identifying male persons who have just recently discovered their gender dysmorphia only to show up in female sports where they invariably achieve a success they were unable to achieve when competing against birth-assigned male persons. I would self-describe as a birth-assigned woman who is concerned for other birth-assigned women who only fairly recently (50 yrs ago?) won the right to be treated equally WRT government funds for sports. Would I be labeled a TERF or an extreme feminist? What am I missing?

I do that with some really delicate stuff, like open-weave sweaters, but I usually like to wash all my cottons in cold, then toss them in the dryer with a fabric softener sheet on extra low heat, permanent press, for around 8-10 minutes, THEN hang to finish drying. It seems to make any wrinkles fall out of them. A bit of hand smoothing takes care of the rest. Although, I shrank a favorite pair of pants this weekend! Gorgeous grey/blue color, super soft fabric that felt marvelous on. They fit me beautifully before, and now they're high-ankle. I know that's supposed to be in style, but I liked them better before! Boo-hoo!

Clothes will last longer and colors stay brighter if you use cold water. It is known. I do, however, use hot water on whites with bleach. My SO's underwear require it. Regular laundry detergent will remove stains if the garment is allowed to soak and you use a little "elbow grease" on them. "EG" is not sold in a bottle, unfortunately.