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  1. Lady Dacey

    Best and worst motto?

    You are me! I actually like “We do not sow”... I see it as a stupid attitude to have, but a strong motto for people with such an attitude.
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    Book characters lookalikes

    I meant just his face. I almost included “only Gendry is stronger” to my post but I thought it was a given... Of course Gendry is strong, much stronger than Asa Butterfield. But his face, the colour of his eyes specially, it’s the perfect “ice blue” of the Baratheons in my mind.
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    Book characters lookalikes

    Gendry: https://www.google.com/imgres?imgurl=https%3A%2F%2Fpbs.twimg.com%2Fmedia%2FDrmHa3uWkAEg-8H.jpg&imgrefurl=https%3A%2F%2Ftwitter.com%2Fbutterfieldbra%2Fstatus%2F1061028149683720192&docid=80u1RvjSyrV1aM&tbnid=UzNnrINmNj6AxM%3A&vet=10ahUKEwiR4bD5uLvlAhUhJrkGHYOfBL4QMwiDASgPMA8..i&w=799&h=1200&bih=663&biw=1366&q=asa butterfield&ved=0ahUKEwiR4bD5uLvlAhUhJrkGHYOfBL4QMwiDASgPMA8&iact=mrc&uact=8
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    Gender relations in Westeros

    Return? What do you mean?
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    Gender relations in Westeros

    please read this: https://www.buzzfeed.com/jasminnahar/heres-how-weird-itd-look-if-male-authors-wrote-about-men @Nagini's Neville I'm sure you'll also appreciate it!
  6. Lady Dacey

    How does one change one's rank?

    Our profiles have ranks according to how much we've posted, and usually it's stuff like "commoner" "freerider" or "council member". Some people have ranks that seems made up by themselves though. I don't know how to do that, and I wish I did. Can someone help me out? I just don't want to be a "noble".
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    Gender relations in Westeros

    The author is a white male from a first world country. If we assume we currently live in a sexist society that discriminates against gender, race, etcetera, it is to be expected that some sexism will seep through the writing. If you do not agree we currently live in a sexist society I'll politely ask you open your eyes. Pointing out where GRRM uses sexist tropes is not the same as saying he is misogynistic or even sexist. But it is inescapable that the books were written by a old white man living in the United States. It shows. It shows in how voyeuristic the female POV characters are of their own bodies; it shows in how sex scenes described from female perspective still cater mostly to male pleasure; it shows in how often gendered deaths happen to women who aren't deemed important; it shows in many other instances that have been brought up in this thread and others before by people more qualified than myself. I find it important to stress these are not conscious choices to depict a time and place where sexism abounded, these are subtle unconscious choices that reflect how sexist our world still is. The fact that many people (men and women, but mostly men) can't even see this is happening in the book series we all read and love to analyse is, to me, very sad and scary, and it only reinforces my point.
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    Gender relations in Westeros

    I don't know if you guys are intersted in talking childbirth, but really, the notion that maester could help is ridiculous to me. I wholeheartedly agree that killing that many woman in childbirth shows George's deep-ingrained sexism - he is male, white, over sixty and born and raised in a first world country, it's simply to be expected that sexism has shaped who he is. I agree with @Nagini's Neville that George tries and succeeds in building complex, interesting and multilayred female characters, which is an amazing achievement and a breath of fresh air from a male writer. He does have his shortcomming, the over reliance on the "death by childbirth" trope being one, and the relationship his POV female characters have (or don't have) with sex and pleasure another I find very upsetting. But, back to childbirth! NOT the case! When women stopped giving birth in their homes with the help of more experienced women and started to do so in hospitals, assisted by 'physitians' the mortality rates for both mothers and neonates went up. There is a lot of scientific literature about the history of childbirth availiable, and as of the last two decades a lot of atualization going on when it comes to 'best practices' for childbirth assistance which rely on Evidence Based Medicine (EBM). But I asure you in our world the scenary became worse before it became better once 'scietifically'-trained men took the protagonism in the birthing bed. All sorts of uncessary and harmful intervations came to be, like lithotomy (the idea of giving birth laying on your back), the Kristeller maneuver, guided pushes, episiotomy and so on...
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    Gender relations in Westeros

    By the way Tyrion points it out I tend to have a different interpretation than yours. When Tyrion says that to the clans "every man's voice should be heard in council" and calls the notion out for being absurd, I gather that among the clans decisions are taken collectively and in horizontal discussion. Leaders aren't rulers, there is no stratification between higher- and lower-raking people. There is no way to compare a woman's participation in a society like that with a woman's participation in a westerosi war council. The mountain clans are also very different from the Free Folk north of the Wall in that respect, mind you. While they don't have obvious social startification either, most groups have commanders who are also rulers and make decision for the other in a vertical way. Of course the Free Folk are very varied, and there are several different groups living north of the Wall with their own culture and customs, some more horizontal and others more hierarchical (like the Thenns)
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    Gender relations in Westeros

    Thanks! I love it too. I wish I knew who the artst is.
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    Gender relations in Westeros

    maybe not the mountain clans! We don’t know of their treatment as a whole, but we have indication that the women’s voice is heard in council with the same weigh as men’s. One could also make a case that among the Free Folk, while there seems to be a sexual division of the work force (this is a technical term in sociology I don’t know the translation to in English, so maybe it sounds funny to you?), the women are not necessarily beneath the men.
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    Gender relations in Westeros

    I don't think we have statistics about the user profile on this forum, but I can answer for myself: I'm married and have son It's a given that people may have different opinions on what constitutes a healthy relationship, right? what? what? I'm really lost. Divorce rates have gone up. This is very, very different than marriage success rates falling. Unless you consider a success to be in still-married in an abusive relationship, for exemple. I'm curious about what you think I missed? I'm no following, sorry. My pic is an exemple of being headed in what direction? I didn't know my pic would speak for society. I'm waiting for you reports on gender equality in all societies, all times, ever!!
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    Gender relations in Westeros

    Well first you assume there is a general and well accepted notion of what is a healthy relationship in the modern 21st century. There isn't. But I guess I see where you are trying to get, and my answer would be no. Not almost every marriage is 'unhealthy'. Absolutelly all marriages in Westeros are bound to be (by 'our' standards, which aren't very high actually). Now I ask you, have we as a society overcome gender inequality, sexism and mysoginy?
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    The search goes on for the Hooded Man

    Yes! Yeeees! I wholeheartedly agree with this. It’s how I've always read the exchange.
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    Targaryen Illness

    I simply disagree. There are several reasons to come up with stories and claims that are absurdly unsupported by the reality but are well supported by the dominant narrative of the time and place. I invite you to look up The Mismeasure Of Men, a great book by the biologist and historian of science Stephen Jay Gould. It could give you great insight on your beliefs about Targs.