Dating Thread: Hope Springs Eternal

[Phylum of Alexandria]

38 minutes ago, 3CityApache said:

I was at the 30th anniversary of graduating High School party in my hometown over the weekend (oh boy, it's really thirty years already, isn't it?) and I was really encouraged by the look of all the girls from my class. Dudes as well, for that matter. Some of them, who stayed in my hometown, occasionally meet up, but I literally haven't seen any of them for 30 years, since graduating and moving to the university elsewhere. I only had a problem with recognizing one guy (but for my defence he had long curly hair and glasses back then, and now is bearded and mostly bald). Other than that, I was surprised to see we haven't changed that much. The two girls I had a crush on in HS were still the prettiest of the bunch. And I must say I enjoyed the hell out of it. The party started at 19.30 and died at around 5 and I got drunk and stoned as much for the first time in probably a decade or someting. I was a bit afraid it could be somewhat awkward prior to showing up, but it turned out it was really great fun. Seems we generally are not the best at relationships, most of us are after divorces, separations and stuff, although three people out of 11 who showed up are still with their first husband/wife, which makes it almost one third ratio, not that bad.

It was kinda a weird experience, but in a good way, to speak to these people for the first time since we were all still just preparing to start our adulthood, since we were basically still potential human beings. And now we're beginning the downslope.  

I still haven't gone to any high school reunions, but have always been curious. If I could use the occasion to meet up with some people from my closer circle from that time, that would be the best, but it's never worked out that those people could go. Our reunions are always around US Thanksgiving, which a lot of people don't come home for, since it's somewhat close to Christmas and they can't do both. It would be a lot easier if we hasn't all moved away, less of an investment.

Beyond old known friends, there's the fear that it's going to be a mixture of singles looking for a date, people trying to sell stuff, and only the rare few who just want to reminisce. Maybe as the years go on, that later portion grows, since as you say, the downslope comes. My 25th is next year. Maybe this time around will be the one?

[3CityApache]

20 minutes ago, Phylum of Alexandria said:

Beyond old known friends, there's the fear that it's going to be a mixture of singles looking for a date, people trying to sell stuff, and only the rare few who just want to reminisce. 

Yes, that was pretty much what I was worried about, but in my case none of these turned out to be true. Perhaps it's the matter of this being the first reunion I ever attended, or the long period since high school or both.

Also, I am single (sort of) and I probably wouldn't mind a date, but I wouldn't say I went there looking for it (and didn't find one, to be clear).

I honestly didn't know what to expect at all and it was just a really nice time spent with people you used to hang out with and then stopped.

[Toth]

Well, happy to hear that it was an enjoyable evening!

Given my own history, I have zero incentive to meet any of my former classmates and am somehow rather grateful that I'm barely meeting anyone by chance anymore now that there seems to be less incentive to regularly take a train to Berlin for them. The only ones I still occasionally stumble across are a pair of twin sisters from my primary school whose boyfriends live here and in the next district over, so I bump occasionally into them and then they mostly don't react when I greet them, even though I had a couple of conversations with them a few years ago (and of course fell on my ass switching up their names because I'm not able to tell them apart anymore after all these years).

 

Mmh... regarding the topic at hand, I... stupidly signed up again on Bumble (and Tinder, gah) on the weekend, wanting to check something out that I've read. Namely that guys have seen they are getting notably more likes if they don't fill out their bio and just use pictures. Having nothing to loose, I did that aaaand... yes, nothing as usual. Got two Likes on Tinder that must be bots as the algorithm buries them and one like on Bumble that I matched with and who then proceeded to let the timer run out. So yeah, the closest thing to attention that I'm getting is the porn bot that followed me on Reddit just now. XD

[Mr. Chatywin et al.]

6 hours ago, 3CityApache said:

Bugger, I got lost. Who is E, the red flags girl?

Yeah. Funny all of you keep saying she has red flags when she says that about me. Which is probably fair.

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It was kinda a weird experience, but in a good way, to speak to these people for the first time since we were all still just preparing to start our adulthood, since we were basically still potential human beings. And now we're beginning the downslope.  

I hear these things always get stranger at first until you finally get there. I'm glad it turned out to be a mostly good time though.

My 10 year didn't happen because it was discovered that my classmates tasked with planning it only invited a fraction of our roughly 500 class and just wanted to use the money for a private party for 50-100 people. Who knows if we'll even try in a few years for the 20th. 

[DMC]

5 minutes ago, Madame deVenoge said:

I have never been invited to a class reunion and wouldn’t go if I were invited.

Me neither.  Due to my limited (almost non-existent) social media presence and how much I've moved around, it'd probably be a pretty big pain for organizers to find me.  At least an actual address.

[Phylum of Alexandria]

1 minute ago, Madame deVenoge said:

I have never been invited to a class reunion and wouldn’t go if I were invited.

Also, “red flags woman” is, IMO, wrong about you. What are the red flags of which she speaks? Having friends from the internet?? While hers are basically that she can’t talk to you while sober, and she’s self-absorbed. THOSE are red flags.

I think at this point this person has passed beyond the flag system and is solidly in "Danger, Danger, Will Robinson!" territory. But, I'm one of the squares who sided with Nelly Dean in Wuthering Heights. If Catherine had been that cautious, the book wouldn't have been worth writing. Sometimes you need some red hot danger spice.

[Mr. Chatywin et al.]

35 minutes ago, Madame deVenoge said:

I have never been invited to a class reunion and wouldn’t go if I were invited.

Not to be a dick, but how many people were even in your class? I thought you left small town Midwest to enjoy much larger cities.

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Also, “red flags woman” is, IMO, wrong about you. What are the red flags of which she speaks? Having friends from the internet?? While hers are basically that she can’t talk to you while sober, and she’s self-absorbed. THOSE are red flags.

Lol Idk, I don't pretend to be perfect and am sometimes too honest. She's also too honest, but thinks she's nearly perfect and that's probably where we just can't see eye to eye. I know I'm being hard on myself and she admitted the other night she likes being mean at times, but damn is she hot (you're the only person here who has seen a picture of her) and really fun to talk when to she's not being a jerk. I know, I know, run, and for the most part I have (and it's odd to me that she thinks I have to prove more to her for a date when she's the one that's been the asshole). 

I guess as you age and are single you're just always searching if your goal is to settle down with a good partner. FML. 

Edited June 5, 2023 by Tywin et al.

[Mr. Chatywin et al.]

29 minutes ago, DMC said:

Me neither.  Due to my limited (almost non-existent) social media presence and how much I've moved around, it'd probably be a pretty big pain for organizers to find me.  At least an actual address.

I was surprised I was one of the people who got invited, in part because I also don't do much on SM, but I do every now and then check my FB's thread about our HS's sports teams. We have a thread for everyone who played various sports. I just can't believe the people in charge of putting the thing together were such assholes about it. They even cut out some popular people everyone would have loved to see because they knew those people would have told everyone else about it. I'm glad they got caught on their bullshit. Lost a few friendships over this. 

[BigFatCoward]

Went to our school 20 year reunion. All the hot girls looked haggard and the quiet boring girls were fit as fuck. 

[Mr. Chatywin et al.]

46 minutes ago, BigFatCoward said:

Went to our school 20 year reunion. All the hot girls looked haggard and the quiet boring girls were fit as fuck. 

Funny how that happens. A lot of the hot girls in my class don't look so great these days while the nerdy one's who struggled to get a date look rather amazing. 

One that always cracks me up is an old friend who has a FB profile pic of her with her arm completely up a cow's ass (she's a vet, obviously). She looks better today than most of the girls we were crushing on yesteryear. Good for her! 

25 minutes ago, Madame deVenoge said:

200 people, as it was the high school for the whole are; you know how that sort of thing works. 

I just can't imagine being in a small school. And the university I went to always ranks around top 10 in the nation for undergrad enrollment. When I was there I think it was in the top 5. 

[BigFatCoward]

If the hottest woman on earth (Natalie Portman) can't get her other half to keep his cock in his pants, what hope is there for anyone else? 

[3CityApache]

8 minutes ago, BigFatCoward said:

If the hottest woman on earth (Natalie Portman) can't get her other half to keep his cock in his pants, what hope is there for anyone else? 

I actually thought the exact same thing when I heard about it.

[kiko]

2 hours ago, Phylum of Alexandria said:

I think at this point this person has passed beyond the flag system and is solidly in "Danger, Danger, Will Robinson!" territory. But, I'm one of the squares who sided with Nelly Dean in Wuthering Heights. If Catherine had been that cautious, the book wouldn't have been worth writing. Sometimes you need some red hot danger spice.

Thank you very much for putting that song in my brain, I hope you are happy!

[Phylum of Alexandria]

9 minutes ago, kiko said:

Thank you very much for putting that song in my brain, I hope you are happy!

Are you talking "Wuthering Heights" by Kate Bush or "Danger!" by Electric Six? Both are pretty damn catchy.

[Mr. Chatywin et al.]

51 minutes ago, BigFatCoward said:

If the hottest woman on earth (Natalie Portman) can't get her other half to keep his cock in his pants, what hope is there for anyone else? 

People do dumb shit. I caught one of my best friends when we were around 18 cheating on his GF with someone I knew wouldn't care about him a week later, meanwhile said GF was kind of the best GF ever. The girl he cheated on his GF with, maybe a few weeks later, I walked in on her just after an orgy finished. She probably still hates me to this day for telling him. But his E was a catch and Idk why he fucked that one up. 

Many of us are just fools sometimes. 

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[Derfel Cadarn]

6 minutes ago, Tywin et al. said:

People do dumb shit. I caught one of my best friends when we were around 18 cheating on his GF with someone I knew wouldn't care about him a week later, meanwhile said GF was kind of the best GF ever. The girl he cheated on his GF with, maybe a few weeks later, I walked in on her just after an orgy finished. She probably still hates me to this day for telling him. But his E was a catch and Idk why he fucked that one up. 

Many of us are just fools sometimes. 

There seems to be a common trend of you ‘just happening’ to walk in people during or just after they’ve had sex.

[Mr. Chatywin et al.]

19 minutes ago, Derfel Cadarn said:

There seems to be a common trend of you ‘just happening’ to walk in people during or just after they’ve had sex.

It's strangely happened a lot. But I've been on the other end of a number of times too. Guess that's what happens when you and all your friends were whores back in the day. 

[DMC]

I believe my high school graduating class was somewhere between 200-250 students.  (Could be off, not like I was that interested at the time, but if I'm off I'm definitely underestimating.)  I always understood that to be a pretty average size.  Indeed, a quick google suggests the average size is considerably smaller.

[DMC]

So this talk about high school reunions and such reminded me of something. 

Back when I was living in Orlando, so probably about 10 or so years ago, I was at a BJs and started talking to this woman sitting next to us at the bar.  A few minutes into talking she goes to me, "I'm sorry but you remind me so much of this guy I knew in high school."  I laughed and was like who was the guy?   ...It was me, and she had went to my high school - graduated in my class.  I had absolutely no recollection of her at all.

Anyway, by the time she had told me my own name to myself it was clear I couldn't fake it and be like "oh, yeah, I remember you now!"  I felt very sheepish.  I apologized for not knowing her - and pointed out for much of high school I don't remember much of anything anymore due to my activities during that time.

In my defense, she had only moved there at the end of our junior year, so basically was just there for a year.  That helped a bit -- I frankly was surprised she knew me because I only had to take two classes per semester my senior year and was barely there.  Well, I also had to take two gyms one semester.  I had failed gym the year prior just for not showing up, so they made me take two.  It was kinda funny cuz I'd  just show up for gym blazed as fuck.

[kiko]

20 hours ago, Phylum of Alexandria said:

Are you talking "Wuthering Heights" by Kate Bush or "Danger!" by Electric Six? Both are pretty damn catchy.

It's Wuthering Heights and while I really love this song, I think that one full day is enough, thank you very much!