Erik of Hazelfield

Dude, this happens to all of us, albeit with a slightly different twist. There’s always a risk when you’re dating that one will like the other more. There’s always the possibility that you’ll have to break someone’s heart, or have yours broken, because you’re not both equally into each other. And it sucks, but it’s the only way. You can’t fall in love unless you let go of some control and let yourself be vulnerable. It’s part of the game. You’re not incapable of love. No one is, except possibly psychopaths, and you’re clearly not one. Don’t fret over this. Of all the things you need to worry about, this is the very last.

It works because it’s credible. You may very well have a security system at your house. If you want to make the claim of having nuclear weapons though, you better back it up with some concrete evidence or other countries won’t buy it. Deterrence is a credibility game.

I disagree that Canada could develop nuclear weapons in less than a year. See my previous post. This article agrees with me: https://nationalpost.com/news/canada/how-quickly-could-canada-build-an-atomic-bomb I’d say a minimum of 10 years. That’s roughly the timespan for building a civil nuclear power plant, so it’s hard to imagine a nuclear weapons program taking less time.

Sweden decided against continuing its nuclear weapons program in 1968 after having spent two decades to try to build them. The reasons were not only political but also economical. The program realised they had to build a uranium plant, heavy water plant, a uranium enrichment facility, and one or two reactors just to produce the plutonium needed. This was so costly and time consuming that they decided to scrap the program and pursue other means of defence. I take Sweden as an example because I happen to know about it, but I’m sure other countries have similar stories. Now, the G20 countries are far more populous than Sweden and have more resources, but that doesn’t mean they can automatically pull off what Sweden failed to do in the 60s. It also doesn’t mean it’s any better of an idea than it was for Sweden back then. It’s a shitload of money to build something you hope never to use and which may be of limited military use anyway. Nuclear weapons are only a true deterrent if you have lots of them and the means to deliver them to you target, i.e. ICBMs or advanced bombers, and lots of those as well so they don’t just get shot down in flight. You can’t just build one bomb and call it deterrence. And then there’s maintenance and training and security around those bombs… did I say shitload of money? For these reasons, I don’t think any country has nuclear weapons apart from the already known ones.

Congratulations on the achievement! I had one too many illnesses to battle to follow my diet to the end (having a two-year-old kid in preschool does that to you) but I stopped the rapid weight gain so that’s something.

So what would be needed for Ukraine to win the war? And can the democracies of the world provide it to them?

In other good news, the Czech Republic say they have now secured the funding for the 800 000 artillery shells that they managed to source outside Europe. 18 countries contributed and now the much-needed ammo can reach Ukraine within weeks.

And what a relief it is that this shit show of our NATO admittance is finally over after two years.

Two weeks and two kilos down, three to go of each! Still hungry all the time. Some people get angry when they’re hungry - I get slow. Lose focus. Speak slowly. It’s probably quite painful to watch. How’s it going, @Fragile Bird? Still keeping off the good brown stuff?

I’m so envious of you guys. Watching a total solar eclipse is one of my lifelong dreams. I saw a partial one in Sweden 10 years ago and watched it through double 1.44” floppy disks (it works! You pull the cover aside to reveal the disk itself and watch the sun through it). I remember running around showing it to random people at the beach. They must’ve thought I was crazy. It won’t happen where I live for another 100 years, but the cool thing is it happens almost every year somewhere in the world. One day I’ll book a trip to a country where it happens and see one.

This might be it. It’s not quite 10 years ago, just 6, but I agree that apps tend to get shittier all the time. Wouldn’t surprise me at all if it was the same with dating apps. It could also be a cultural difference - this was in Sweden - not that we’re that much different from the U.K or U.S., but when it comes to specific things like dating and Internet use, the differences can be quite striking. On the attractiveness… I guess that might be a contributing factor. I have no illusions being God’s gift to women, but my fiancée certainly thinks I’m hot. I think this may be a difference between men and women, where a woman would get far more matches because there are so many men just swiping right on more or less everyone.

It’s interesting how profoundly different our experience with dating apps have been. I wonder why that is. It wasn’t just my wife-to-be that was a rare exception - I really did meet many girls having the same goal as I did, to find a partner. Of course I didn’t connect well with all of them once we met, but I never felt like we were after completely different things or that it was a waste of time. Regarding the finding-a-hobby strategy, I think it depends on where you start. I had friends and hobbies already - what I wanted was a girlfriend. To me it made little sense not to go the most direct route, so to speak, but to others it’s probably a very good idea.

Regarding online dating, I met a whole lot of nice women on Tinder, the last of which became my current fiancée, so for me it worked. But I think it may differ between countries, among other things. This was also five years ago and things may have changed. In any case, for me online dating was a huge advantage, because it provided me with a non-awkward way to find a date. I’ve always been a better writer than talker, so that part fit me pretty well, and the fact that I knew she had looked at my profile and liked what she’d seen gave me some confidence. But most importantly, it had me dating regularly, as opposed to just hoping that someone nice and single happened to come my way and ask for my number, which obviously didn’t happen ever. I’m personally a bit sceptical to the idea of joining a class, meet-up or organisation of some sort and hope to find friendship there that can eventually lead to love. In what other context would you recommend someone not to go for what they want, but instead do something completely different and hope that, by some stroke of luck, you find what you’re searching for? (For practicing your social skills and making friends, that’s a whole other story. Just don’t expect to find a girlfriend there.)

The particular oatmeal I eat is made of fibre enriched oats, chia seeds, quinoa, almonds, cinnamon and dried cranberries. When I cook it I add some frozen blueberries and eat it with a milk-resembling pea drink. Pretty good actually. I basically get all the recipes for everything I eat, which is the main advantage of this diet. Do exactly as it says and you will lose weight. No counting calories or anything like that. The hunger though. I have no trouble refraining from the sweets and drinks because I just don’t have them at home, but it’s hard to resist eating more when I’m still hungry.

Totally agree on the “not being able to keep chocolate around” thing. Just after my last diet ended it was Halloween, and the weather was so rainy almost no kids showed up, so I ended up eating all of the candy myself. And now I’m suffering from the consequences of my gluttony. If I had to choose a deadly sin, that’d be it for sure.